My husband wanted me to have an abortion our first child.
I was pregnant, and I told him.. Didn't get the reaction I expected from him in fact our relationship has changed drastically, he insisted that I get an abortion because it just isn't the right time for him/us and mostly because of his family long story short they never approved of our relationship because Despite their unapproval of our relationship we married.
Although we are married I feel as though they still have control over us and that he base his choices to please them and I feel that because of his decision to go against their will and marry me he punishes me for his distance between his family. If he sense that I will leave him he begins behaving differently. He wants to work our marriage out.
He has isolated himself from me and has not been supportive at all of my pregnancy, he stressed me out so much that even though I wanted to have our child I felt alone, and had an abortion last week. I have been extremely depressed, suffering from anxiety and for the most part I feel so miserable, I want to get a divorce because of this. I need someone to talk to besides the counselor I have been seeing who is not helping much with my feelings. I feel guilty I feel I did something terrible and don't think I can forgive myself my first abortion and last. My situation is so different from the women I talk to because this is my husband not just a boyfriend but my life partner we took vows.. The day we went to get the procedure I wanted him so badly to say he wanted to have the baby.. the drive he said nothing to me, after going inside and having it done, he then begin talking to me again he treated me like never before... that same night that I had the procedure he went to a family event without me and got into it with his parents and told his mother she made him do something he didn't want to do she called me to see what he was talking about I didn't mention it to her and told her to talk to her son.
He doesn't know she called me to find out the deets and what he said to her, so now I know why he made me abort I feel betrayed and angry with myself and him, I should have kept our child and left him. Now he feels guilty and cried to me about it and aplogize for putting me through this emotional turmoil, But I can't forgive him but I love him I feel at loss both ways no child and close to having a failed marriage again... I don't know what to do... :(
Husband cheated! I'm disguisted!
Okay, I posted a thread previously about my husband wanting me to abort our first child. To my disappoinment all I wanted to hear was someone who could relate to me, someone to talk too. I didn't get the response I wanted which is okay, but I thought about my decision, and decided that I may want a separation and possibly a divorce as I feel I am going backwards. I want a man, a husband, an unselfish one, TO my surprise my insecurities has caused me to start snooping around. Not only did he put me through an emotional rollercoaster but he cheated on me! I don't know how long this has been going on but I don't want to call the women.. I confronted him! He explained that because of his guilt he wanted me to have an abortion.
He confessed that he didn't want to cheat a child because he cheated me as a WIFE, I am disguisted... The sad part Is I LOVE him...
I just told him today that I want a separation and maybe a divorce. He went ballistic, he thinks I am taking the easy way out. He doesn't understand my sadness about aborting our child and the emotional turmoil I have been facing the past couple of weeks and all because his guilt... I felt so disguisted I actually vomitted... I can't believe he cheated on me, and expects me to forgive him PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE!!