My husband and I separated briefly for a few months at the beginning of the year. When we first separated, I was sure that we were going to get divorced. Once the anger about the split started residing, he started thinking. He actually realized and understood that what I wanted... was not asking too much.. in fact, he understood that what I was asking is the way a husband should be. I was so scared to take him back. My whole family and the majority of my friends told me I was an idiot. Something inside of me kept telling me I had to get it another shot. I made a deal with myself and I made him aware of the deal. I told him that I'd give it 6 months. He had 6 months to prove to me that he had and would change or I was out the door. I am prepared that if he doesn't fulfill his end of the bargain... then I will fulfill mine. But then, at least, I will know that I gave it everything I've got to keep my marriage together. The ball is in his court now. What he does with it is up to him.
My family is starting to come around. All but one of my friends won't talk to me still... but at least I know that I am doing the right thing for me and my family. At the end of the day, you have to be able to look yourself in the mirror. Do what you need to do to be able to hold your head high. It is your life. You only get one (unless you believe in re-incarnation... to those who do, my apologies for this phrase). Do what you think is best for you. Divorce or not... it is up to you. But take the rose colored glasses off and look at the situation from ALL angles before you decide to take him back.
Think of where you see yourself in 6 months, 1 year and more if you do take him back. Do you like what you see in that image?
