RED FLAG!! Sorry you are dealing with this, is there anyone in your life like a brother and sister to support you? You need to get out before it becomes worse and you feel stuck. Get expert help in your area. Do you have family crisis centers, or even call life line in order to follow steps. Wish you the best and that you have the strength to deal with this terrible affair.

I sill haven't had a chance to talk to him, but I'm sure it will be soon. Some days are worst than others. Today is one of the bad days. All I can think about is how much our life is going to change, and why would he do this to me, when all I've ever done is love and care for him. I'm already starting to wonder if may be he really didn't ever loved me, and if so I wonder why God sent me my two treasures- my kids! I know I shouldn't question God, but why?? If he knew that this wasn't meant to be? Why with him? I don't regret my kids and everything that I've experienced but I never expected this at all. Why can men be faithful and loyal. Why hurt your family? I guess I'll get an answer when I talk to him!! May be.

I have been in a similar, although not exact, position, I'm still hanging in there. Just wondering what you ended up doing?