You are right Shattered. I don't think the cheaters understand that they are not hurting others but themselves also. THey will never have a truly trusting relationship. How can they? IF they can't trust themselves. I have been married for 22 years and although most have been great they were not always great. But never have I considered having an affair. I guess there could have been opportunities, I worked with many men, but I never considered it an option. I never put myself "at risk" of that happening. I think our society has become so selfish and often don't consider what harm our actions will do to others only the thrill it brings to us. I do feel sorry for those who don't have that security either because they chose to ruin for themselves or someone took it from them.
