Well hallo , my up date is, he will never want to take any responsibility or feel any wronge in our breakup; we were , dating. For a while and it was only when I made the efert , and he was lovely , as long as I took all the control for making the date , paying, and talking, he is just the same , he never once asked about ,how we were maneging ,coping, etc , still hasint given ANY THING without me asking , just the same as when we were togeather , his brother has sold the farm that he PUT ME HIS CHILDREN AND AR Marriage,first for, and now I don't know what he is going to do , but before I found out, I told him to leave the house as he was being insulting, I wrote him a note saying, there is no going back , until , HE GETS BACK TO COUNCELING, HE TAKES SOME Responsibility FOR HIS FOUR CHILDREN , AND HE STARTS BEING FAIR, NO MORE NO LESS, nothing since he told the kids its up to me,. so that's it , I have decided to close the door get on with my life and do it as I can without him, nothing has changed since we split, I still do it all any way , I am still counceling , and still looking to get myself over this awfull time.. but why do I worry still what will happpen to him,

Knowing that you need to do what is best for you and your children does not mean that you don't still care about him. He has been a very big part of your life for a long time. He is the father of children. Those feelings don't go away easily or quickly.

I am glad you are continuing counseling. I hope all goes well for you.

Cat1864 is right, I have nothing more to add.

Thank you and for all the help,

Thanks ,

When you have done your level best, and its still not working, it is time to get another plan, without them. You did what you had to, not easyIi know that, but I wish you the best, and think it will work out right for you.

Most good choices start by just doing it.

Thank you for all your help, and yes I do believe it will work out better for us, anything is better, thanks again,