What precipitated their divorce? Did they just decide they were no longer a couple and split, was there infidelity involved? I am curious to know why she left her last husband and how long it was before she re-married.

Tick

Hi total,

Like everyone else on this board, my feelings are very mixed as well.

I could understand if there was a problem to do with their education and they both had an appointment to go to the school together... being the parents etc..
I could also understand a short visit to the park occasionally, but to spend 12 hours in the company of a person you did not want to spend your life with, remains a mystery to me.

Whilst there will be times where only parents are permitted to accompany their children to special events etc... you included with your ex'... these will only be a limited time... a good example would be open evening at the school.

I think most people would say that they want things to stay as normal as possible in respect of their children.I suspect this may be her defence when questioned about this outing, but the situation that they will find themselves in ( for the sake of the chidren) is not reality, giving the children a false sense of security.

Kids would much rather be told the situation upfront, they are not stupid.
Surely they would have sat them down and explained what was going to happen before the divorce, in which case they know it's all a sham... so why bother!

I don't think you can absolutely forbid her to go on these visits as there will be times as I've said when they may be ill or a problem at school etc.. but I do think that you should make your feelings known, I also think that as someone else said why not all of you go together, after all you are adults, it is an amusement park, him with his new partener/wife,
You and your wife, plus all 4 kids should provide quite a bit of amusement... you probably will get on like a house on fire.
To go one step further, tell her you have decided to take your kids as well, and make a day of it.

Her reaction will say it all...

I think its OK as long as you two trust each other. It shows the kids you can all be adults and they can still have "family time" even though they are divorced. It lets them know its OK and they are still loved by both and its not making them choose. Maybe your wife said it the wrong way but I think its OK.

This is over a year old