It's easy to place blame, it's easy to judge, it's all easier said than done. If u've never experienced this you can't really understand.
I'm walking in the same shoe so I know where it hurts, I'm not trying to justify anything, & I'm definitely not saying it's condonable, but it's easy to just tell her to stop, but I'm sure it goes beyond that & it's not that easy.
So, marie, I'll like to say, prioritise for now & take a step at a time, that's what I'm trying to do right now, I know it isn't going to be easy, so mayGOD help us all.
No one wants to be in situations like this it just happens, but we just try our best to make things work.
Good luck to you, I wish myself the same.