Ask Me Help Desk - My husband will not stop calling another female

YW, I am glad that this is going in the direction you want it to. I wish you the best of luck.

I'm glad you're in counseling and on the road to recovery. Let us know how it goes.

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Originally Posted by ywinans43

In a nutshell my husband will not stop calling a particular female even though I have confronted him and he keeps saying that there is nothing going on. This has been a problem for some time and he says I am making more out of it. I do not want to divorce but I can't take much more of this behavior. How do I get him to stop since threats do not work. I left him last summer but he got me to come back by lying. I'm fed up and I am falling out of love.:mad: :confused:

Stop calling him your husband. Call him your used to be. Kick the evil to the kerb.

Tom

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Originally Posted by ywinans43

In a nutshell my husband will not stop calling a particular female even though I have confronted him and he keeps saying that there is nothing going on. This has been a problem for some time and he says I am making more out of it. I do not want to divorce but I can't take much more of this behavior. How do I get him to stop since threats do not work. I left him last summer but he got me to come back by lying. I'm fed up and I am falling out of love.:mad: :confused:

I have got the same problem here. But I keep going on staying and holding on to my marriage. We have to be strong in our marriage. We have to take back what is rightfully ours. Set a trap for him when you can catch him with his hand in the cookie jar. I did set a trap where I caught my husband. When my husband was sleeping, I got hold of his celfone and found out that there was an unread message from the girl. The number was not registered and it has got no name in it. So I used my own number to get back to the girl. I pretended that I am my husband and told her that we should use this number because my wife is suspecting something. She bought what I said I kept talking to her through sms. As I talked to her, I was able to extract some information from her how did they meet. There was a time when my husband told me that he needs to be in the office early the next day and found out from the girl that he actually met with her at the airport the day he said he was going to the office, because the girl was on a transient for a couple of hours. When I have gathered enough evidence, I confronted him and he wasn't able to escape. Tell your husband that if he really loves you and respects you truly, he would not call the girl anymore. Ask for his celfone. Or better yet ask him to change his number. You should not ask him as if you are requesting him to. Order him to surrender his celfone to you. Your husband is yours. You didn't borrow or steal him from anybody. You should fight for your marriage and you should not give up. If you can talk to the girl and command her to stay out of your marriage, do so. Do whatever you can to keep your husband.

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If you can talk to the girl and command her to stay out of your marriage, do so. Do whatever you can to keep your husband

Very good point here Miss_confused.
Don't just walk away, and let them have a higher chance to stay together and cheat on you.
Talk to "the other woman" first, she might back off and start feeling guilty.
Keep your man, if there is a chance he still loves you. I think they do, not many of them are willing to leave their spouses.
Good luck, stay strong!:)

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Originally Posted by ywinans43

In a nutshell my husband will not stop calling a particular female even though I have confronted him and he keeps saying that there is nothing going on. This has been a problem for some time and he says I am making more out of it. I do not want to divorce but I can't take much more of this behavior. How do I get him to stop since threats do not work. I left him last summer but he got me to come back by lying. I'm fed up and I am falling out of love.:mad: :confused:

CAll the girl and ask what's going on between them?

I wouldn't go through all that trouble. Just leave the marriage and be happy.

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Originally Posted by ywinans43

We are on the road to recovery. We are currently in counseling. My husband finally realizes that he is going to have to do a lot to gain my trust again. Thank you for your advice. Y

C'mon people. This is the last post from ywinans43. Please read all the posts. It is apparent that she and her husband are trying to work it out. Hopefully she will update us and let us know how things are going but you have to allow her the opportunity to do what she feels is right for her. We should respect her choice.