Ask Me Help Desk - Caught best friend kissing my husband

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Yeah, she ruined that marriage but hung on to her husband who did not push the woman away. Makes no sense.

And let's just pretend for a second that OP did not come into the room when she did. Then what?

In fact, let's say that OP went upstairs to take a shower... then what would have happened? The ONLY reason why they stopped, is because they got caught.

I have been tipsy around friends, hell even single friends, and still I behaved. So for them to act on it only means they have thought about it before.

If I'm wrong, and I have been wrong before, then Alty, you may bury me in the hole you dug up. :)

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

And let's just pretend for a second that OP did not come into the room when she did. Then what?

In fact, let's say that OP went upstairs to take a shower....then what would have happened? The ONLY reason why they stopped, is because they got caught.

I have been tipsy around friends, hell even single friends, and still I behaved. So for them to act on it only means they have thought about it before.

If I'm wrong, and I have been wrong before, then Alty, you may bury me in the hole you dug up. :)

Alty won't be digging any Enigma holes, because Alty agrees 100% and then some.

This happened because they wanted it to happen. Both of them wanted it to happen. You don't get caught kissing someone unless you want to be kissed by that someone.

They're both at fault. Forgive one, that means you have to forgive the other. Condemn one means that you have to condemn the other, no matter how long you've been together, or how many kids you have.

One thing I do find very telling. The OP never said "I want to forgive him because I love him". She only said she'd forgive because they've been together a long time and have kids together. Is there love? Doesn't sound like it. Maybe that's why hubby was kissing someone else. Just a thought.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Alty won't be digging any Enigma holes, because Alty agrees 100% and then some.

This happened because they wanted it to happen. Both of them wanted it to happen. You don't get caught kissing someone unless you want to be kissed by that someone.

They're both at fault. Forgive one, that means you have to forgive the other. Condemn one means that you have to condemn the other, no matter how long you've been together, or how many kids you have.

One thing I do find very telling. The OP never said "I want to forgive him because I love him". She only said she'd forgive because they've been together a long time and have kids together. Is there love? Doesn't sound like it. Maybe that's why hubby was kissing someone else. Just a thought.

And a great thought at that!