Ask Me Help Desk - Dog or husband

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Originally Posted by mjzer

Not allergic..maybe jealous as he thinks the dog is treated better than him. Definately childish in the end. I feel too like if a dog is an issue there is more behind it in the end.

I'm sorry to hear this. No one should ever be jealous of the attention of a pet and definitely not of a child which could very well become if he doesn't handle his insecurities.

I'd have to agree with Wondergirl in wondering WHY he doesn't work? Is he disabled? Unwilling? Just not able to find a job?

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Originally Posted by mjzer

1/2 zu and 1/2 bischon

Sounds like a beautiful mix definitely an indoor dog. We had a Jack Russell for awhile. I really miss her but she had a serious dominance issue with Emmy and well, big dog doesn't like little dog telling her what to do :( My wife's brother took her so at least she's being taken care of.

She used to sneak up in bed with us and crawl under the covers and lay at our waists. Poor pup was a bit cold :)

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

As I dog owner I am offended by the comment " Its a dog...it will be DEAD in the next 10-14 years."

I get your point but that is a bit callous.
It is a silly thing to leave your husband over a dog.
He committed to get the dog and now does not want it, that is childish. I don't know what to tell you. I don't trust people who are cruel to animals.
Have you told him how much you and your daughter care for the dog? Is he this way with other things. This sounds like it is about more than the dog.

Listen I'm a lifelong dog lover... but what I find cold and callous is anyone that makes a me or the animal type demand... or more precisely, puts an animal on a equal or higher level than their own commitment to another person.

Fact is dogs don't live that long compared to people... its a commitment, but not like a Parrot that may live 75 years.

Is your husband healthy or does he have any medical issues? What does your husband do all day? Is he the stay-at-home daddy taking care of your daughter while you work? Is he doing his own thing and not contributing to the household in any way? Ways of contributing are taking care of the house, helping you with your work, yard work, laundry, etc.

Do you love him?

Is this really about the dog or are you fed up with your husband? How does he treat your daughter? How does your daughter react to him? Why was he against getting a dog? Why did he change his mind?

This may seem harsh, but it is thinking about the dog instead of the humans: You might need to think about re-homing her. She is a mix of toy breeds that were bred to be companion animals. It is in their temperament to be with people and to please them. Your husband is taking his frustration and anger out on her (yelling and clapping at her for no reason other than he feels like it shows a lack of self-control.) If this continues, she will become confused about what is good behavior and what isn't. She will start exhibiting negative behaviors. Read the Dog forum and you will start to understand.

You might think about marriage counseling if you think there is a marriage left to save. Frankly, I think the dog is an excuse to finally do something about a deeper issue that has been bothering you.

My opinion? The dog is the straw that broke the camel's/OP's back.

This isn't about the dog. This is about the marriage.

On the other hand, not a husband but I have ended relationships because of the way men have treated my dog(s). I'm not saying you have to kiss the dog good night, but if I'm a little nervous about leaving you in the same room, alone with the dog, if your dislike, distaste, distrust shows, you are not the person for me.

That's not saying "you" aren't perfect for someone else. You just aren't so perfect for me!

I'd like to chime in on "outside dogs." I've had dogs my whole life. Some are more dependent than others. They all need companionship. I get into the subject on the dog board all the time. My dogs are not my children. They are my dogs. When I read the "my baby did this" or that posts I have to keep from screaming. I realize that's just me.

I just don't see the point of outside dogs - they tend to bark a lot (at everything). They aren't protection because when the robbers were breaking in the front door I'd have to run out the backdoor and unchain the dog. Outside dogs, in general, get less and less attention as time goes by. They get injured and teased. If you don't want or can't handle a dog, don't get one! I'm reminded of a statement I took from a guy who owned some sort of very large constrictor snake. He had it for "protection." How does this work? When someone breaks in he throws the snake at the bad guy?