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I like her all friends but someone I know he is not a good person he want to flirt with her how its possible I will not ask her to be away from this person because in the end she is my responsibility and I don't want her to go wrong.

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I prefer to have faith my wife can handle her business and not be led astray by some flirting YOYO! Especially with a guy like me at home, to give her strength and motivations to come home. HEHEHE!!

You should pity the poor guy, as I pity those that want what they can't have. But can you blame them?? I don't, nor do I worry about them either. I have never questioned her loyalty, not ever.

Just because a guy flirts with a women, it does not mean she will fall for it. Have some faith in her, don't try and control her

You call your wife 'your responsibility' and seem to think you should control her to protect her from herself. You are treating her like one of your daughters. Is she your child? Are you her father? IS that the relationship you want with her?

If you want a wife, treat her like one. A wife is an equal and a partner. Together you discuss and set boundary lines. When there are issues you discuss them. You work together as a couple. You do not use threats to manipulate her into doing your bidding.

I think you need to sit down and look at both of you are behaving and the affect it is and will have on your daughters. I, too, don't think she is cheating, but I do think she is acting like a teenage girl and rebelling against being dominated in the only way she knows how. I think you are teaching your daughters to fear being themselves and having their own thoughts. I also think you are teaching them that marriage is restrictive and husbands are to be feared because they only care about appearances and their own needs instead of attempting to understand the needs of their spouse. Why grow up, why learn, why try to be a strong, healthy woman, when your future consists of being treated like a child for the rest of your life?

I realize your culture is very different from my own. The wording, attitude and phrasing in your posts shows it. You probably have traditions that tell you this is the way a marriage should be. It may be what you witnessed growing up. However, you can adapt what you have been taught to make a future that is much better for your marriage and your children. Start by treating your wife as a partner and not a child. Communicate with her instead of dictating your rules. You might find that she stops talking to him because she feels more comfortable at home.

As for the number of texts, a conversation by texting can be hundreds of messages long and very close together. Think about verbally talking to an other person. Each sentence/paragraph would be a separate text. Late night talking to a friend can be because a child woke her up and she wanted to talk to someone. I talk to friends on-line when husband is asleep because I am awake when he isn't. He does the same thing. Some conversations are serious some are teasing and fun. However, it is all a part of friendship and letting go of stress and working through issues.