Oh sure... I would love to meet you...
And its 2:15 here... and you, have to sleep... lost track of time with all the discussion happening... I am so much worried about how everything is going to turn out...

Hmmm... OK then, I will better go and have some sleep... will be waiting for your response.. Take care... :)

I emailed Shachi just now, so hope to hear from her today or tomorrow. She is a business owner and has a handsome little boy named Abihjay (I think I spelled that correctly).

Sleep well. Chat soon!

Hi.. after reading everything I feel sowmya ask yourself first is this really the right person and will you be happy with him? If your ans is yes go ahead take that big step and marry him against all circumstances. Follow your dream.but be ready for all drama that is going to follow.be prepared for anything that may happen just believe in yourself.everything will be okay one day and you will also have your love. All d best

Thanks Ajwain for the suggestion... I have asked that question several times, and the answer I get always is that I can be myself if I am with him, he knows everything about me, what I like, what I don't like... same with me, I know about him too... yeah, but there's still lots to know about each other...
Hmmm... and about marrying him... I am planning to waiting for a little longer time, hoping that agree with my decision...
I really hope that everything settles soon... I am tired of all fights and arguments..! :(
I really don't understand why is it so difficult/impossible to get what you want...

Shachi had surgery Thursday, so is still recovering. She said she needs to know which castes, what your levels of education are, and what jobs do you two have. Shachi is very smart and very familiar with your/her culture, so I'm sure she will have good ideas.

Oh... hope she is feeling much better now... and please let me know when she's fine, I will provide the details then... Let her take care of herself now...

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Oh... hope she is feeling much better now... and please let me know when she's fine, I will provide the details then... Let her take care of herself now...

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She's at home and walking around. She's can't help until she knows the answers.

My caste is 'Reddy' and his caste is 'Gowda'. I don't know the sub categories in these...
We both are graduates, I have got Bachelor's degree in Computers and he has Bachelor's degree in Information Science. And we both are Software engineers. Started working 2 years ago. We earn well in our jobs.

Thank you. I'll email that information to Shachi and will post her responses here.

OK... thanks a lot... will look forward for your response...

Hey sowmya4cc m from the countering country... facing the same prob.. the diference is that we both are studying ryt now.. he such a goodluking and decent guy.. the "shareef" sort... my brothers married the girls they loved but when I think of telling my family.. I get so scared that the thing that happened to you will happen to me as well... its just the ego that ruins all gal`s life in this part of the world we are living in.. me and my guy have been together for 3 years now.. we both respect and love each other a lot.. I can't adjust all my life with someone I dunt love... I dunt want to cry and stay awake all nyt for him for the rest of my life... my parents have started seearching for a proposal for me.. I tried to put into their minds that il also marry the guy of my choice once.. but that thought infuriated them a lot... now I find no way.. as my guy needs some tym to settle down, I just dunt know why parents make their doughter`s love marriage an insult to them... wen they know that their daughters love them a lot and they can't think to disrespect them.. n its not a disrespect at all

May god bless you n makes you come out of this traumatic situation

Hiii...

Its been a very long time after my first post.

I really wanted to thank you a lot.
You were there for me when it was were difficult for me to talk about my problems with anyone.
Though I do not know you by face, I will always remember the invisible support I got. :)

I wanted to inform you that my parents agreed for my wedding with the guy I loved.
Its been more than a year now, we are happily married :)
Now my parents and everyone keep telling that may be they would not have been able to search a better match! :) and the day I heard this from them, I was crying again!! But this time, it was tears of joy...

Thanks a lot for being there when I needed someone..

Love,
Sowmya

I'm so very pleased you returned to tell us this, that your love story has a happy ending!

The love marriage in India is very different that dating marriage in western countries. When people love in India they are just attracted to each other. But when it comes to marriage things fall apart.
Before marriage
1. Couple don't live together, they don't share any household chores or responsibilities.
2. They never talk about babies
3. Most of them never have sex

After Marriage
1. Boys think all house hold responsibilities belongs to girl.
2. After baby the romance is over.
3. Relationship with extended family members come between couples.

If boy is not earning good then Girl has to ask her parents for help. Most parent don't want their daughter crying rest of her life and asking for help to her parents.

Is your parent thinking of marrying you to boy who is earning better than your love interest ?