I think your hang ups about her past are so great they will eventually affect the way you treat her and see her and you will make her feel bad about herself.
I suggest you deal with your issues before you consider marrying her. You may love her but you don't think highly of her and going into a marriage with such strong feelings is not good.
She may not be the one for you and you not the one for her.

If you love this girl and you plan on spending the rest of your life with heryou need to get over this. Her past is her past. It happened before she met you. Are you perfect? I don't think so and I'm not saying that
To be mean. I don't see you letting this go and if you don't and you marry her, you will make her life miserable and yours. You care too much about what other people think. They need to clean out their own closets before they pass judgment on her.

You should let her go and let her find someone else who is not going to spend the rest of their lives throwing up the past to her. Let her be happy and you go out and find a virgin. I don't know where you'll have to look but I'm sure there are some left. I wish you Luck

Hey, wait a minute, I married a virgin! We both were. And she was a Westchester, NY gal to boot.

I swear, in the middle of the "Free Love" error, I found a gal in America, who imposed this strange word called, "NO!".

I still remember one of her statements at the time (circia 1964/65), "Do you see your wedding ring on this finger?" "No, you don't and No, you won't!"

KitKat,

I imagine there were!

Remember when we were taught that sex was about Love and Commitment and that it was not a game to play while you were idle.

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Originally Posted by donf

KitKat,

I imagine there were!

Remember when we were taught that sex was about Love and Commitment and that it was not a game to play while you were idle.

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My dad always told my sister and me; " A lady is someone who makes a man want to be a gentleman". Yes I was raised Southern Baptist and had the honor of being raised by a dad who didn't just have religion , he had salvation.:)

The only way to really get over it is to see it from her angle. Which, for you, is impossible because you're a virgin.

It's really a question of principle. It's like a blow-hard republican marrying a moonbat. You two have different principles surrounding sex and most likely other things as well.

Answer honestly, do you really want to marry her and spend the rest of your life with her, or do you want to marry her just to sleep with her and then see where it goes?

Don't get married until you have dealt with your issues about her past, and have gotten completely over them.

She was raised differently than you were. Accept it, or leave it alone, but don't rush into anything.

Are you adverse to losing your virginity without marriage?