Live to build relationships, not to destroy them!

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Originally Posted by Clough

Live to build relationships, not to destroy them!

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Words to live by Clough ! I hope this woman takes a look at the lives she is ruining. I hope she didn't come here thing anyone would give her a stamp of approval. I for one think she needs to grow up and see that life is just what we make it.:)

You've been living in the past as a way to ignore the present. Life doesn't work very well that way.

You may feel that in a way you have prior claim on him because you dated him decades ago. You don't. You gave up any rights to a relationship with him before you married your husband, the person that you seem to have forgotten. You have only been using this individual the way he has been using you. Now, you find out he is using other women, too. I am concerned that if you stay with your husband but end this relationship, you will only find someone new use to ignore your responsibilities and vows.

I think you need to leave both men and find yourself. If you don't choose marriage counseling, look into therapy for yourself. Somewhere, over the past couple of decades, you turned your back on who you are and then lost touch with your husband and your marriage. I, sincerely, hope there aren't any children (even adult ones) caught up in all of this.

May you find a better path for the future.

I think I should show mercy, and compassion, and close this thread.