Patience. Love. Understanding. Time.

These are the things that you need to arm yourself with now. These are the things that will eventually convince your wife that you are genuinely trying to repair the marriage. (Not trying to have sex with her.)

There is no quick fix. There is no magic wand to wave to make things better. There is no time machine that you can program to go back in time to change what happened.

It happened - you have to deal with it.

Trust takes along time to rebuild and you will have to be a patient and loving builder.