Ask Me Help Desk - Is 20 too young for Marriage?

I would have to say that your not necessarily too young for marriage although If I could go back I would have never have gotten married at 20 but that's a personal choice, if you were 16 id say you were way too young. I think that you shouldn't be so quick to jump into marriage when you have only been seeing this girl for three months. Its wonderful if you really feel that you want to be with her for the rest of your life but why jump into marriage and make it official? A lot can happen in a year and considering that you are only 20 and not 28 you may not know really what you want in a person. I didn't at 20 now I'm 28 and I know exactly what I want and have found that person.
I think you should take your time. Date for about a year and see how it goes. If you marry now and then things go to hell in 2 years its going to be difficult with a divorce emotionally and fianacilally. Just don't rush into anything to soon. Take your time.

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Originally Posted by sgn1985

I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months, and we're pretty serious. I know it's cliche, but I've never felt this way about a girl before, and she's said the same to me. We both said 'those three words' to eachother about a month in, and now we're talking about marriage and starting a family!!!

I know that I want to be with her for the rest of my life, and that I do love her deeply, but I'm only 20 and she's 21 - it worries me that we're too young to fall in love this way. What do yo think?

Hello... I have a story very similar to yours. I am 20 years old, I'm am married, and my husband is also 20 years old. We started talking about marriage about 3-4 months into our relationship, and we got engaged on our 6 month anniversary, and got married a year and a half later. We've been good friends since we were 12 though.
We don't have any kids yet, we are going to wait another year or so. I love being married and I wouldn't change it for the world. Although the thing I would change is the sterotype behind young people getting married. I do get many unwanted comments, some from people I don't even know saying that we are too young and we are crazy. His parents got married when they were 19 and they are still together... 29 years married!
It is definitely a question you have to answer yourself though if you're ready or not. No one can answer that but yourselves. If it feels right, that perhaps it's a good thing.
I hope that gives you a little insite to what you're wondering and good luck

I would say, enjoy being in love. Don't complicate a wondeful thing with too much commitment too early. You can never go back to these days of your carefree youth. Date, have fun.

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

YES!

WAYYYYY too young. I don't recommend ANYONE and mean ANYONE getting married before age 25. Most men not before they are 30.

WHAT!! I am 20 and married and my husband is also 20. We've been dating since were 12!! His parents got married at 19 and they have been married for 29 years now. Obviously you are not married cause by the sound of it you do not understand it.

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Originally Posted by sgn1985

I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months, and we're pretty serious. I know it's cliche, but I've never felt this way about a girl before, and she's said the same to me. We both said 'those three words' to eachother about a month in, and now we're talking about marriage and starting a family!!!

I know that I want to be with her for the rest of my life, and that I do love her deeply, but I'm only 20 and she's 21 - it worries me that we're too young to fall in love this way. What do yo think?

Well
I must ask do you guys leave togher if not move in with each other first an if after a while you guys can still stand the site of each other every morning then go for it I am married I am 20 years old I got married when I was eighteen an I am loving every minute of it

Duhhh, I didn't notice this post is a year old. Wonder if they are still together?

I was 18 when I got married. My husband was 27. We dated for 4 months before we got married. We had known each other and hung out with famiy and friends though for over a year. I say it is up to you. If you feel you guys have a good enough connection then talk about it and set up a plan.

The OP hasn't responded to this for over a year

In My Opinion age doesn't matter me and my boyfreind are now engaged and were only 13 so... If Yoo love someone just go for it yoo don't have to get married straight away... yoo could easily have a long engagement !

I can tell you from experience... it is too young. I just recently turned 21 and have been married for about 1.5 years. It started great and there were many more factors that played into our marriage but needless to say... I will be divorced Dec 14th. You think you love each other and you probably truly do but you haven't been together long enough to learn the little annoying things about the other person. In your early twenties you go through these little phases where on minute you think you just want to settle down then the next you want to go out and party and live a little. You cheat yourself out of things when you get too involved too early. Just take a while to think about it cause it is a REALLY big decision! Hope that helps a little.

Honestly I don't think 20 is to young. I'm getting married next year and I will be 20. But I have been w/ my guy for going on 6 yrs. Now. Wait till you get to know her better. I think you should date a year or two before getting engaged. Or at least 6 months.