Quote:

---

Originally Posted by mudweiser

How much do you make a year? Not enough I bet. You have to show that you are able to support your family and on top of that your income has to be 125% or more OVER the poverty level.

Besides you still are 16, you don't meet the age requirement to be able to sponsor him.

Sarah

---

Im not going to sponsor him, the people he works for said they do whatever to help him.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by OnlyOnelOve

Im not gonna sponsor him, the ppl he works for said they do whatever to help him.

---

So he works and lives in the United States ILLEGALLY.

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by HelpinHere

Can you support yourself? NO!
Could you support yourself AND a husband for three years? Definitely not!

---

I wouldn't be alone though, we'd either live with is or mi family.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by mudweiser

So he works and lives in the United States ILLEGALLY.

Sarah

---

A landscaper. Surprisingly huh.

In order for your marriage (which isn't going to happen) to work for him to be granted citizenship, YOU have to support him, not your family, not his family.

It will never work, and you don't even realize how naïve you are acting right now.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by HelpinHere

She can't.
She's young and naive, and he's manipulating her.

He made her believe she "loves" him, and now she is probably going to do something stupid because of him. Every part of this "relationship" is bad news, only four of the points you distinguished.

---

I won't do anything stupid. That's why I went to the internet for help. And he didn't make me think I love him. Nobody can force me to do anything and honestly I don't think that is the case. But, I could be wrong

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by HelpinHere

In order for your marriage (which isn't going to happen) to work for him to be granted citizenship, YOU have to support him, not yoru family, not his family.

It will never work, and you don't even realize how naive you are acting right now.

---

I can wait two years anyway, but how do you figure?

Hon, trust me, I am SURE that YOUR idea of 'stupid' and MY idea of 'stupid' are two entirely different things.

Well if you want to get married it's up to your parents. Your not able to get legally married without their consent.

Sarah

And why can't you wait 2 years?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

you DO realise that he could be charged with kidnapping? ive seen this happen, when a minor moves in with an adult 'for love' the adult is charged with kidnapping and endangering a child. if not contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

---

Kidnapping? We don't live alone.

? What do you mean 'we don't live alone'

DUH you don't live alone. I need some clarification on what you mean

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

and why can't you wait 2 years??

---

Well I never said I couldn't, but someone suggested that we do get married cause they believe how we are living life is a sin.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

?? what do you mean 'we dont live alone'

DUH you dont live alone. i need some clarification on what you mean

---

He lives with me and mi parents but sometimes I stay at his parents.

living together before marriage being a sin is the LEAST of your worries hon!

how about deportation?

statitory rape?

Quote:

---

16yr old female & 22yr old male trying to get married with bad circums.

---

So... why do you want to get married now?

Sounds like everything is working out all hunky dory. You guys get to live together. Mommy still pays your bills and feeds you...

What's the problem?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by OnlyOnelOve

well I never said I couldn't, but someone suggested that we do get married cause they believe how we are living life is a sin.

---

It is a sin, religiously speaking.

But rushing to a chapel is no way to fix this. Your 16, and frankly you won't feel the same about him when your 19- you might not even "love" him. It's true. Right now your brain hasn't even finished developing there are parts still being developed that will start working in your early twenties where you'll start to think better and analyze things further-- at 16 your brain is still under construction. I'm not kidding.

You'll wake up one day and realize how silly this all is. He of course is one sick S.O.B. for being with someone so young.

As an adult I can see that he is taking advantage of you. Needless to say your still a teen and believe love conquers all.

Good luck to you really, I hope you don't end up having a child with this man and possibly ruining whatever future you had.

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

living together before marriage being a sin is the LEAST of your worries hon!!

how about deportation?

statitory rape?

---

Yeah I guess.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

so...why do you want to get married now?

sounds like everything is working out all hunky dory. you guys get to live together. mommy still pays your bills and feeds you...

whats the problem?

---

Well true but mi parents don't care I'm with him they just don't want to get in trouble.

You guess...

And you think you are ready for a marriage...

*hugs* I hope you get this all sorted out hon... I think your very confused at the moment