Ask Me Help Desk - Marry him or not?

Awww. I'm sorry. If he was only proposing, because he's scared that you will leave, then, I don't know... it doesn't really sound like love. It's not his fault. It's not your fault. He just doesn't know what to do and you feel stuck. You can change your own life, by being brave and moving forward. I know this is hard and painful. You will both learn and grow for the better if you can gently break away and go on without him. It's totally SCARY and unfamiliar, but these events will make you stronger and more resilient. Right now, you're missing out on the man of your dreams, who could be sweeping you off your feet, right now as I type this. The world is yours to take on and jump into.

I wish you all the best success, happiness and health.

[QUOTE=Bonnie46;1673036]whoops. You have a daughter together, not a son. My apologies.

Please don't give up your dream of marriage, and the 2.5 children, and the white pickett fence. You can have everything your heart desires. You're just not with the right man. You'll never change him. Pull up your socks, and get out there into this big, crazy, frustrating, silly, sometimes scary and daunting world. I have two friends who went through nasty divorces, and now they have found the loves of their lives.

You have to believe in yourself, and trust that you should follow your heart. I know your boyfriend isn't a bad person. He's just NOT the correct match for YOU. That's all. It's not his fault. It's not your fault. It just is what it is.

Move forward for YOU and your daughter. Xox[/QUOTE

I don't know what to say to all of this - its overwhelming...

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Originally Posted by Bonnie46

awww. I'm sorry. If he was only proposing, because he's scared that you will leave, then, ? I dunno....it doesn't really sound like love. It's not his fault. It's not your fault. He just doesn't know what to do and you feel stuck. You can change your own life, by being brave and moving forward. I know this is hard and painful. You will both learn and grow for the better if you can gently break away and go on without him. it's totally SCARY and unfamiliar, but these events will make you stronger and more resilient. Right now, you're missing out on the man of your dreams, who could be sweeping you off your feet, right now as I type this. The world is yours to take on and jump into.

I wish you all the best success, happiness and health.

Thank you, I am so confused with every ones suggestions, but seems like the solution is to not be with someone - love or not, there is more to it than that. Thank you for your time and understanding - this is going to be the hardest thing to do, know what I should do and struggling to decide to do it... I feel like a basket case and just want to be dumb for a while. No matter what I do, it will be wrong and hurtful to all of us, but time will go on. I don't know what I am saying at the moment, but just want to thank you for putting it on the table. I just wish I could get that wonderful person that everyone else gets - and, again, not to be the poor me person, really don't want to sound like that, but maybe I don't know how to get what I want from this person as well. This is all sounding jumbled I know. I am jumbled... I remember when my sister was married and her now ex husband treated her crappy, I asked her why she married him and she said she didn't think she didn't think she deserved anyone better. I don't know what is wrong with me and my family! Thank you again for listening and support...