Counseling is about your counseling, not hers... You should not know ANY of that stuff and it's your dime that you are paying to hear it.

I am happy that you and husband have made some head way even if it is just to butt heads right now. Sounds like there was a great deal of communication that was necessary and you have worked out a plan of action to see if you can work through this. I am very happy for you.

I know that you are bitter and angry but if things start working and he stops trying to have you under his thumb and more as a partner, you will lose some of that bitterness and anger... it just takes time, effort and improvement.

Good luck to you and God bless.

He does appear to be listening. I honestly threw a hissy fit in the counselor's office. I just refuse to perpetuate his control anymore. I emailed an attorney about the cost of a retainer for a divorce and he knew I meant it. Not suggesting this as a tool for anyone - it's just what happened during the argument. It was either that or hit him with my laptop - HARD. He honestly does see the double standard by which we live and that it's made my life hell. I am still pissed at the counselor.

Yeah, I agree this counselor is way out of touch.

It is always an option to formally complain. She has to be licenced, and registered. You could also complain to the benefits department of your husband's employer who is paying the tab too.

I don't really want to formally complain until I'm certain that she's wrong to tell us about herself, etc. We've never been to counseling so we don't know what sessions are supposed to be like. By the way - thanks to everyone for listening to me whine through all this.:)

I would just leave him.Tell him what you need and that your just not getting it,such as I need a man that loves me enough to let me go out and have a good time without phone calls.I need a man that loves me enough to let me go to the store by myself.I am a grown woman not a child.I would just say to him if you need someone to control like you do then you need to find someone else that desires that kind of attention.