Ask Me Help Desk - Troublesome in laws

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Please stop in from time to time and let us know how you are doing -

Thanks :)

Thanks for going through my posts and showing interest in my case. It really feels good to know that you have someone who is willing to listen to your problems.

I don't have any biological relatives apart from my mom and after all the action in my married life I don't have much friends either.

I used to feel so alone in this world, But your posts have really lifted my spirits . I'll make sure that I keep you posted.

You all are god sent to me !:D

God Bless

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Originally Posted by krissharma

Thanks :)

Thanks for going through my posts and showing interest in my case. It really feels good to know that you have someone who is willing to listen to your problems.

I dont have any biological relatives apart from my mom and after all the action in my married life I dont have much friends either.

I used to feel so alone in this world, But your posts have really lifted . I'll make sure that I keep you posted regularly.

You all are god sent to me !:D

God Bless

And you are equally important and valued to everyone here - always feel free to post and share, both good and bad.

Take care of yourself and keep in touch.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And you are equally important and valued to everyone here - always feel free to post and share, both good and bad.

Take care of yourself and keep in touch.

Hi,

It seems Troubles would never fade away from my life.

My mom has been diagnosed with stones in both her kidneys and gall bladder. The stones are large and we would have to get the surgery done.
Im really scared... she has just had a major heart attack just 4 months back and is still recovering.

For this surgery... rather surgeries... we have to get 3 surgeries done, I for each organ... we would even have to stop Asprin and other blood thinners which she takes... and I'm sure that would not be very good for her heart.

Im really Scared... god knows what is in store for me now

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Originally Posted by krissharma

Hi,

It seems Troubles would never fade away from my life.

My mom has been diagnosed with stones in both her kidneys and gall bladder. The stones are large and we would have to get the surgery done.
Im really scared......she has just had a major heart attack just 4 months back and is still recovering.

For this surgery...rather surgeries....we have to get 3 surgeries done, i for each organ...we would even have to stop Asprin n other blood thinners which she takes....and im sure that would not be very good for her heart.

Im really Scared.....god knows wat is in store for me now

If I were there I would hug you - here is my experience. My husband had 3 heart attacks, multiple surgeries (kidney). He was fine. Surgery is scary and there are risks, of course, and going off blood thinners is never good but she will be closely, closely supervised by medical professionals throughout the process.

The surgeries for "stones" are quick, sometimes minimally invasive - and your Mom has the advantage that the Doctors KNOW she has a cardiac history so they will watch her much more closely than a patient who simply goes in and has a problem.

{{{ hugs }}}

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

If I were there I would hug you - here is my experience. My husband had 3 heart attacks, multiple surgeries (kidney). He was fine. Surgery is scary and there are risks, of course, and going off blood thinners is never good but she will be closely, closely supervised by medical professionals throughout the process.

The surgeries for "stones" are quick, sometimes minimally invasive - and your Mom has the advantage that the Doctors KNOW she has a cardiac history so they will watch her much more closely than a patient who simply goes in and has a problem.

{{{ hugs }}}

Thanks for your soothing words :) I really feel better after reading your post.
Would be taking mom to her Endocrinologist on 1st as she is a diabetic and she would be meeting her cardiologist after that.

Would keep you posted about the outcome of these meets.

Thanks for listening to me and being there for me.

Take care... have a great weekend and God bless you :D

Hi.. Just read through your question.. Here are a few suggestions to help you out.

1. Try building a strong trusting relationship with your husband. This could take about a month's time.

2. Once your hubby starts reciprocating your love then you could both go out on a holiday or just for dinner or lunch. That time you try convincing him the atrocities your in laws show u . Convince him that they are troubling you and causing pain to u. Provide substantial proof to your argument. Convince him till he is convinced

3. If step 1 and 2 are working for u. Then propose for your sister-in-laws marriage to your husband. Tell him that if she should get married and settled down. Sound as if you are thinking of your sister-in-laws welfare. But the basic idea is to eliminate your sister-in-law from the house. If she moves out, it could be easier to deal with your father-in-law alone. That makes a lot of difference.

4. Remember to not to become their clay doll and get disturbed because they want to emotionally destabilize u. Don't go in for a child as it would worsen your condition. Raising a child single handedly is a herculean task.

5. Try creating a situation for your father-in-law so that he either has to leave you people or behave himself. Like when your husband is not at home behave as rudely as possible with him. But be polite in front of your husband. If he harasses u, tell your husband with the proof.

6. This could take a lot of time, perseverance and patience from your end.

7. If none of the above steps work for u, then ask for divorce from your husband and tell him that you are suffering a lot in this kind of abusive relationship.

What's up with you now ?