Well, I told my mom that I knew, and she treid to convince me that he already knew but I didn't believe her so I made her tell him. My dad was really upset, but he thought about it and told me they've been married for 24 years, and that they made vows to work things out when they got married, and that he has some responsibility if she is cheating on him, so they went to counseling for a couple of weeks but now she's moved out and they've sepparated, sooo... they're still amicable, but things are prettymuch over. I can tell you, it was great advice I got here and the weight and responsibility that was lifted off me was sooo liberating once I told them. It turned it from my problem to theirs and that was so much better! Thank you everyone! :D:D

That's great.

Thank you, amanda, and keep us up date, if you like. Just curious: how did you make your mom tell your dad? Do you have brothers/and or sisters home, also?

I really think that you need to print the emails as evidence and tell your dad, right away. If your mom tries to divorce him she will take everything when they split, she could even get you kids. If you can prove, which you can, that she committed adultery then she can't get anything. Adultery is illegal and this way she can't ruin your father finacially.

I really think that you have done enough meddling and should now back off and let your parents work out the situation.

It's their issues and problem, not yours.

You did the correct thing in getting the information to your dad, now let him speak for and act for himself.

If she's already planning a divorce and has seen a lawyer, then she has already squirreled money away and who knows what else. And just because he doesn't know anything doesn't mean he's cheated or suspected anything. One doesn't know what she's said to him for him not to be aware. If her behavior toward him hasn't changed then he would suspect nothing. It sounds like she's been plotting this for some time and setting him up for quite a fall, probably at the encouragement of her lover and lawyer. If your mom is so deceitful toward your dad, how do you think she feels about how you might feel about the situation. Sounds to me she's selfish and egocentric. Your dad should know immediately so he can protect himself financially, legally, and emotionally. There are things he can do without her knowing he knows so that when she springs it on him he's prepared to protect his interests as well as yours. Depending on the state you live in she could wind up with half regardless and that will impact you as well, especially if you feel a closer affinity to your dad knowing your mom's behavior. Tell him outside the house while walking in the park or along the beach so it is private and more serene. It'll also give him time to cool down and gather his thoughts before he returns home so his decisions will be more logical. He'll respect you for being forthright and considerate about infroming him and the manner in which you did it. Whatever the reason, if you don't like your partner cheating on them only shows total disrespect to them, the family unit, and if one has any decency, disrespect for themselves.

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