You guys and gals have been great to respond. Thanks a million! Best wishes to all of you. I hope you each find that special person to share your life.

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I believe you are in a good position for negotiaating what YOU want. Hestepped up the commitment.

You have to keep trying to talk with this guy. If he won't communicate further you have problems.

What is it that you want out of this relationship? Do you want to get married? If so, then you need to let him know in no uncertain terms. You may even want to consider giving him an ultimatum, something like "if, after 3 months, you havent committed to planning marriage, then I'm going to have to leave." It appears that he wants to keep one foot out the door "just in case." I certainly don't blame you for not wanting to accept such an arrangement. He should be willing to "take the plunge" and go for it all the way. Otherwise, he's not worth hanging on to.

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Originally Posted by wannabemarried

He said "I want to spend the rest of my life with you and give you all the things you deserve.". Refers to you sometimes as his wife and himself sometimes as your husband. When not at work the time is spent together. Live together,spend time with both families and acts as if married. Closed about talking on relationship. Says that if you have already confessed love and commitment there is no need to discuss it. Has not proposed. What can I do?

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Be happy with where you are at - as long as you both love each other there should be no rush.

Maybe he just wants to be the one to bring it up, when he is ready. He may battling his own inner demons about commitment so don't rush him. When he is ready to put his commitment on paper, he will let you know. Until then enjoy the time you have together, it is beautiful to see two people in love.
Women are so quick to rush into a life-long commitment... It seems like he is just making sure you are both completely compatible and will make each other happy. It may take a month or ten years but at least you know that when it finally does happen, he and you will be very happy and neither one will feel like it wasn't a well-thought out decision.

Much love.

Just wait. If it meant to happen, it will.