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Originally Posted by pezzypooh14

My husband has admitted that he does not know who to listen to or to believe at this point. I know that our horrible pastor has had several conversations with him (and now denies a lot of what was said), and his mother is not helping things a bit (see earlier posts!). So, I'm not sure. The only person he works with that he might take some advice from is an older gentleman that has been married for many years, and I also know him to be a Christian man. So..your guess is as good as mine!

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Ohh. Well I just feel like something is missing or something? Maybe I just don't get it!

Your celebrating your anniversary and you both decide things aren't working and then he moves out..? That's it.. So what has made it so unbearable all the sudden? I mean it would take a major issue for me to want to move out... such as betraying my trust- an affair, abuse... I think that's about it. So has either of those things happened on either side?

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Originally Posted by go-ask-mom

Ohh. Well I just feel like something is missing or something?? Maybe I just don't get it!!

Your celebrating your anniversary and you both decide things aren't working and then he moves out...?? Thats it.... ? So what has made it so unbearable all the sudden? I mean it would take a major issue for me to want to move out.....such as betraying my trust- an affair, abuse....I think thats about it. So has either of those things happened on either side?

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I actually was wondering the same thing. What is the problem you all were having that he wanted to move out. Did you cheat on him or do something to betray him?

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Originally Posted by go-ask-mom

Ohh. Well I just feel like something is missing or something?? Maybe I just don't get it!!

Your celebrating your anniversary and you both decide things aren't working and then he moves out...?? Thats it.... ? So what has made it so unbearable all the sudden? I mean it would take a major issue for me to want to move out.....such as betraying my trust- an affair, abuse....I think thats about it. So has either of those things happened on either side?

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Well... I just found out that my husband has been thinking about leaving for a while... he now says he just doesn't want to be married and wants to be on his own for a while. I told him I don't know how long I can wait... I feel like I'm being strung along. I'm a good person, and I don't think this is fair to me...

He is not abusive, and I am not abusive to him. There has been no infidelity - if there was, I would know about it... my husband has an extremely guily conscience. He feels that we no longer respect each other. We have been strained due to opposite work schedules, and we are just getting back on our feet financially. I knew there was strain in our relationship, but I never thought it was bad enough for him to up and leave... no one understands it.

We had our first counseling session, and I thought it went well... now, he says he is questioning things even more. He doesn't know if he ever was in love with me and our marriage was a sham.

Needless to say, all of these things he is saying are so hurtful, and I'm not sure what direction to go in. I'm planning to have a stress free Thanksgiving tomorrow and spend it with family. I hope not to talk about this... I want to just forget it all at least for the day.

Again... a blessed holiday to all... I will check back on Tuesday (like I said before... no computer at home anymore, will not be back to work until Tuesday!).

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Originally Posted by pezzypooh14

Well...I just found out that my husband has been thinking about leaving for a while...he now says he just doesn't want to be married and wants to be on his own for a while. I told him I don't know how long I can wait...I feel like I'm being strung along. I'm a good person, and I don't think this is fair to me...

He is not abusive, and I am not abusive to him. There has been no infidelity - if there was, I would know about it...my husband has an extremely guily conscience. He feels that we no longer respect each other. We have been strained due to opposite work schedules, and we are just getting back on our feet financially. I knew there was strain in our relationship, but I never thought it was bad enough for him to up and leave...no one understands it.

We had our first counseling session, and I thought it went well...now, he says he is questioning things even more. He doesn't know if he ever was in love with me and our marriage was a sham.

Needless to say, all of these things he is saying are so hurtful, and I'm not sure what direction to go in. I'm planning to have a stress free Thanksgiving tomorrow and spend it with family. I hope not to talk about this...I want to just forget it all at least for the day.

Again...a blessed holiday to all...I will check back on Tuesday (like I said before...no computer at home anymore, will not be back to work until Tuesday!).

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I am so sorry to hear that this is how things have turned out. The best thing to do is to move on with your life. Don't wait for him and don't waist anymore time and energy on him. It sound like he was never committed to you to start with and his vows were a joke to him. Even if your relationship was strained if he cared about you and the relationship he would have made efforts to make time for his wife. This guy just sound like a loser and you sound like a nice person and you deserve someone who will treate you with love and respect. If you quit trying to to revive this apparently dead relationship God will open new doors for you and bring the right man into your life. So pray and ask for God to comfort you during this hard time and later to bring you someone special. Your husband will remember you one day and it will be too late for him.
God Bless!

I am confused as you have given us a lot of feelings, but very few facts, such as age, and more background into the relationship. I need to know how 3 years has made a year of marriage fall apart? What has changed so drastically?