If you talked to your husband, the way you talked to his friend, I'm sure you would see some positive changes. Sometimes when we are down, we lose our focus on what it is we must do to keep the relationship alive. Others offer us attention and time, and when we are not getting it at home, it sure feels good. Give your husband a chance, by at least talking to him and see if you both can't work together to resolve your issues, for the benefit of both of you.