I think we're all naturally programmed to notice people we find attractive. That doesn't mean we find the one we're committed to unattractive or that we don't love them. I do think a little bit of discretion is in order so as not to embarrass ourselves or our spouses. But the fact remains that we're going to notice attractive people.

When I look I am exercising my gift of vision. Sure, I can glance at someone! Of course I can stare at someone, but I try not to do it for so long. I would probably make the person I'm staring at uncomfortable. If the person I find appealing is not looking, I'll stare to the point of drolling with my jaw on the floor (if he is drop dead gorgeous)! However, here is the point. Stare, drool all you want, drop your jaw to the floor, but out of respect, do not do it in front of your partner. I wouldn't do it! That is my opinion. If I were you, I'd do the same thing to him, however this is silly. But, try it anyhow and see how he reacts. I use to have very friendly and flirty clients. But, when they were in with their wives, they were so quiet. That is called respect for your spouse and the mother of your children or future children. My dad use to stare at young ladies all the time to the point he almost lost his neck. Anyhow, I found that very offensive. If he keeps on, tell him how you feel, if not-let it go. Life is too short to be sweating the small stuff.

I do agree with some of the men on here and I'm a woman, but my aggravation point boils when I hear about how men are wired and it's "just a guy thing". First off, women are humans beings just as men and what? women just can control themselves better? I see good looking men all the time, I don't stare at them in front of my husband and I don't undress them with my eyes in front of them, it's just disrespectful if you love someone. And most of you men very well know that you get to look at women at least 8 hours a day at work away from your wives, or on the bus, or driving, or at the park or the golf course or at the nudey bars and now with the internet, all the time. So, why can't you obsessed lookers just hold off while your with your wives and make them feel better for a couple of hours? I just don't get it. It's all about the men, what the men NEED, what the men WANT. My husband is a bald, chubby, scarred face, 12 years older than me and still looks at women all the time like he can't help it. Well, I am feeling good about myself now and getting out of this bull marriage. He can look all he wants now, and I'm sure it will be all looking too because he can't even sustain an erection. I have a feeling that looking at girls all the time makes men feel better about themselves somehow because they are insecure themselves and mostly never going to go any further than looking because they're not all that great. Ladies, if you ask them to stop and they can't do it for one day, then get out, who needs it. Life's too short. Let's turn the tables on men and make it about what women NEED and what women WANT. Who cares what the old baldies do? Oogle and Google away Losers!