Ask Me Help Desk - I loathe Facebook

I loathe Facebook

Everyone I knew begged me to open up an account. So I did for a week. My hotmail filled up with friend request from people who I haven't talked to in 20 years (yeah I was 11 years old 20 years ago). Then people who I accepted friend requests with started complaing because I don't post anything my response was do you really need to know I;m at work, Now I'm leaving work, Now I'm home, got to go deadliest catch is on.

Then I closed my account and my actual friends call me upset saying how come I am not their friend anymore. My only response was I am only your friend in real life. And they were still mad. What is wrong with people. Why do people want to know every mundane detail of my boring day. And are people so starved for attention that they feel the need to tell me every detail of their boring day. Feel free to defend or rip apart Facebook this was really a vent for me.

I totally agree, most people on Facebook are either punk teenagers or adult losers who need to get a life.

Weird, my friends don't hound me that way. I post the odd Status Update and check my friends updates. I don't care who else is on there just the people in my friends network. I've ignored friend requests and I've un-friended a couple of people along the way.
I don't like the recent changes but it's not a killer app for me just a diversion, like this website for instance.

I so so so agree. I feel the same way about MySpace. Its so stupid. Maybe for teenagers its great. But I have some friends that are 36 and they base there life and relationships on it. Like "oh my god this so and so girl posted on Jasons myspace" Who cares! Grow up and get real life friends.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Weird, my friends don't hound me that way. I post the odd Status Update and check my friends updates. I don't care who else is on there just the people in my friends network. I've ignored friend requests and I've un-friended a couple of people along the way.
I don't like the recent changes but it's not a killer app for me just a diversion, like this website for instance.

I know what you mean!

You should have seen the argument my brother and his wife got into because his ex girlfriend from 10 years ago posted a few pictures on her Facebook with him in it. What is he suppose to do the pictures are 10 years old. I sat there and laughed the entire time, man was she mad at me. I told her to grow up

Point made, its childish really isn't it.

MySpace has become a joke site. Facebook is what you make it, who care what others do. I totally agree that real life friends are more important than big friend numbers in Facebook. Those that care about having a big number of Facebook friends are letting you know how shallow they are.

I think the real concerning thing here is the fact that you watch the deadliest catch:P

I love the deadliest catch. Those crabbing guys are funny as Hell. And I like going fishing and crabbing.

Lol, I've not seen it but maybe I'll give it a shot. Hell I'm really getting into Mantracker so I guess I shouldn't talk.

As for Facebook, I hated it after awhile. People just act differently on it, most use it for image and such. Ever since I left I have not ever thought of going back. If you can handle it than great, if it becomes annoying (friends), problematic (ex-friends or exes) than it can really become a tool for foolishness, also a colossal waste of time.

Oh Mantracker is awesome too!!

I am with Need on this one.. I think it is what you make it.

Facebook is the one place I can catch up with old schoolfriends who don't have the time to email or message too often.

They update their status & I know what they are up to. Some put up pics,some don't,but that's another way to update on friends/family who are not within meeting distance. :)

I was like you a while back SVenom,did not like the social websites at all,but all of it changed once I got in and found how easy it was to be in touch with people I care about.:)

Yeah, don't like the changes they do every so often,plus some of the groups in there are really crazy,but then I see them only when I choose to drop in. :D

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Originally Posted by spitvenom

I love the deadliest catch.

Dude, anything with Mike Rowe, he's awesome.

Lol Venom, you're the first I've heard say they like mantracker, most don't even know about it. Turns out the mantracker is from Alberta and last weeks episode was shot in Northern Ontario, kind of cool seeing as how I'm from Ontario. Ummm, I know a lot about the show because the same people that don't watch it or know about it told me.

Who needs Facebook when I can find people I have stuff in common with here, although you are a phillies fan.

Don't tell me you are a bluejays fan. Joe Carter still gives me nightmares. My wife hates mantracker so I tivo it and watch it when she is busy

I LOVE Facebook!

I simply do not have time to call or email so many people of my acquaintance, and since we moved frequently, I've been able to get back in touch with several people I've lost track of through the years.

Like ANY website, it is what you make it. Some people spend more time HERE chatting and talking about TV shows than they do answering questions---how is that different than updating your status on FB to say you're going home to watch "Lost" or how is setting up an event on FB any different than emailing your invitations to your baby shower?

I guess my problem is for example my sister in law. She updates like every 10 minutes. I guess I wouldn't get so annoyed if maybe she posted something major on there like I'M Pregnant, that is fine. But to post eating dinner then 10 minutes later mmmm that was yummy, then 10 minutes later I'm tired from eating {yawn} then 10 minutes later getting coffee and on and on and on.

Plus for me if you aren't in my cell phone I don't give a Sh*t what you are up too.

Sorry about the double post.

I opened an account because I have a relative who doesn't look at regular email too often . I have that relative and no one else in my friends group and ignore any other requests . Any message gets forwarded to my regular email server.

People who know me and I care for know how to find me without the use of that redundant and inferior site.

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Originally Posted by spitvenom

I guess my problem is for example my sister in law. She updates like every 10 minutes. I guess I wouldn't get so annoyed if maybe she posted something major on there like I'M Pregnant, that is fine. But to post eating dinner then 10 minutes later mmmm that was yummy, then 10 minutes later i'm tired from eating {yawn} then 10 minutes later getting coffee and on and on and on.

Plus for me if you aren't in my cell phone I don't give a Sh*t what you are up too.

We are on the same page with this. Your cracking me up. But I respect the others that use it and love it. Hey I use this and love it so its all good.

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Originally Posted by tomder55

I opened an account because I have a relative who doesn't look at regular email too often . I have that relative and no one else in my friends group and ignore any other requests . Any message gets forwarded to my regular email server.

People who know me and I care for know how to find me without the use of that redundant and inferior site.

Tom we don't agree too much but I am with you on this one.

Stuff like that is a cry for attention or a real "friend". I've no issue with people that can handle Facebook, Synnen seems like a person few would have a problem with.

The constant updates and stuff like that really expose a person, unknown to that person of course, but it is really annoying. I had a friend that posted the dumbest stuff about his girlfriend, how much he loved her and how excited he was to be going to the movies with her, people like that really made me re-consider why this person is my friend.

Finally, I do believe that a lot of the status updates are messages for other people. I know exes will post suggestive things to make others jealous and stuff like that. I'd say people need to grow up but I was shocked to see people in their 30's playing games like this.

UPDATE: Got to go get a coffee, will be back to hopefully see the next response.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

We are on the same page with this. Your cracking me up. But I respect the others that use it and love it. Hey I use this and love it so its all good.

I was asking my sister about why she uses Facebook and she said because she is nosy. I think that answer is what keeps me from getting into it. It's cool if you use it to actually communicate with people. But just updating all about every little detail seems so needy.

I don't mind Facebook, and I do some MAJOR e-creeping on there, but that is me. Some hotties need to be looked at, and I am just the dude to do it.

That being said, the amount of ignorant status updates, coupled with worthless applications Facebook comes up with (squirtgun fights, mafia wars, etc) tend to turn me off. Some people should be banned from typing on a computer if all they can do is tell me they are taking a nap... watching their favorite show, or some other worthless piece of information that pizzes me off (I don't care that much about your life to know what it is you do on a daily or even hourly basis). Carry on... :cool:

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Originally Posted by kctiger

I don't mind Facebook, and I do some MAJOR e-creeping on there, but that is me. Some hotties need to be looked at, and I am just the dude to do it.

At least you are honest on why you do it. Got to respect you for that!

BTW you can turn off ALL apps. This really reduce the crap in your news feed and email.

I will say, there are a few women in particular that take pics of themselves for mere pleasure of posting it on Facebook. The stupid little "model" poses pizz me off to no end. Don't act like you are a model. Lord knows you wouldn't be on the gayest social networking site in the world if you were.

I can admit surfing myspace because I was so totally bored out of my mind. But honestly since I found this site I don't bother. I mean when I find someone I want to be nosy about there profile is private so what's the bother. Everyone has there own thing and great for those who use it.

Just want to give the BEST example of why Facebook works so well for me.

My husband and I are in the process of buying a house. We have friends and relatives all over the country, and a few in Iraq as well.

We've been posting updates on our house status, along with pictures of the house, and of the different funny things we've run into along the way (like the weird stuff people store in their basements, and the house we went into that still had Halloween decorations up--in April).

This is MUCH easier than calling dozens of people who want to know and are interested in our house search. It's also easier to post pics in one place, rather than have to direct people to a different website via email or phone, or than emailing 100 pictures to 40 people.

I usually update my status about once a day, and it's usually related to my house.

I use the site do keep up with my nieces and nephews in different states, and my sister posts pics there that all of the relatives can save and print for themselves, rather than sending out pictures to a ton of people every 6 months or whatever.

Again, if it's used to KEEP in touch with people, or used to do real status updates--or in the case of some of my friends, to have very weird quotes and such--then it's a GREAT networking website.

If it's used as a dating site or you have friends who are juvenile posters, well---have you spoken up to them about how silly they are?

Synnen you use Facebook wisely.

Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, IMVU, and any other chat sites like that are just stupid...
Who cares what I'm feeling at the moment, what music I'm listening to or who can get the most friends in their list...

I'd rather chat to people on the phone on MSN rather than leave a pointless message.

Much like this one actually... pointless... I'm going to go post something meaningful in the Boom Boom Room :p

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, IMVU, and any other chat sites like that are just stupid...
Who cares what I'm feeling at the moment, what music I'm listening to or who can get the most friends in their list...

I'd rather chat to people on the phone on MSN rather than leave a pointless message.

Just to play devil's advocate here...

... yet you just posted what you are feeling at the moment regarding those sites in a "pointless message" on THIS board.

You also use one of the most common chat sites--MSN.

How are those things different?

They are just silly, everyone competes on them for who has the most friends.
I joined MySpace a few years back and in the first week I got over 100 invites to be people 'friends'.

MSN isn't a chat site... it is a program, and you have a general conversation with a personal friend who you add to the list... without your e-mail no-one else can 'invite' you.

People who update their pages everyday just get under my skin for some reason, I'm all for making new friends in exotic places but there are better ways to do it in my opinion.

I didn't mean to offend you.
It's only my opinion and I'm entitled to it. I posted my feelings because that is what the topic was titled "I loathe facebook" I was agreeing as it's something I feel strongly about.

I think the only thing that is silly about them is how seriously some people take them. It is almost a social hierarchy for certain people that crave attention. Very few people are like that though, just sayin'.

I wasn't trying to be mean or insult you.

I also use MSN, but find that since my friends are so scattered (after living in 4 states in 10 years, your friends end up a bit... all over the place), it's hard to connect with them on MSN, because we're all simply on different schedules in different time zones.

I guess I can see the use of sites like Facebook and Myspace and Twitter--simply because I have too many friends in too many places to try to talk to them via MSN or whatever--and this way we all get each other's BIG news, and are able to contact people for more information, rather than calling "just to talk" and then having nothing to say, or not being able to remember how much of your recent life history that person knows.

/shrug--I don't mind the difference of opinion. I just think that too many people are ONLY seeing how the teens use it, and not how it could be used as a great way to network with your friends.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

They are just silly, everyone competes on them for who has the most friends.

Just Ignore them. Would you really be inundated with Friend requests?

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

People who update their pages everyday just get under my skin for some reason

It doesn't bother me - to each his own. People who spend all day IM'ing or texting are really no different, they are only doing it one person at a time. For the record I have no use for Twitter.

You have some good points Synnen.
I personally don't have a great deal of friends, probably half a dozen that I talk to on a regular basis so I don't really need a big networking site.
I do have a few penpals overseas who have the internet but we still prefer to hand write each other letters :)
I am one of those people who see it is a teen site, I dpn't know many people who use it that aren't under 16... I now know that I was wrong and there are a greater amount of older people using it (and I don't mean 'older' in a bad way!)

Opinions shminions lol

MySpace is the teen site. Facebook started as a college-only site, that's why the average age is higher. Plus they do not allow (thankfully!) the god-awful homepage customization that MySpace allows.

Haha yes, the few that I have been to I never let fully load... it would have taken years :rolleyes: