By the time she'd realize I'd be done. When we first met, it used to happen A LOT! Now, it's like ordering a chess set in the mail, I get a piece every 4 to 6 weeks but no idea what shape it will be in.
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By the time she'd realize I'd be done. When we first met, it used to happen A LOT! Now, it's like ordering a chess set in the mail, I get a piece every 4 to 6 weeks but no idea what shape it will be in.
Night Shazzy.Quote:
Originally Posted by shazamataz
I'm allowed to watch porn, she's not like some of the people on the boards where their spouse can't do anything but I don't even think that would do the trick. It's really frustrating, because at 22 I'm at my peak!
::raises hand::Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
Wouldn't bother me.. never has.
Sarah
It makes me feel like I have a complex, like maybe I stopped being attractive to her or something
True, I have only witnessed our countless threads about how that's NOT ALLOWED.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
It's cheating or something similar... I don't really get it.
Never mind, Rome. You just have to suffer in silence. ;)
Wow... I don't know if I would even be comfortable doing something like that. Just seems like a private deal. I mean, if I wanted help, I would ask... maybe I am just a baby...Quote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
I couldn't do it in front of anyone either Kc, so we must be big babies together
You know that's not it, she's just got a lot on her mind right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
You know the answer, talk to her, tell her you're going crazy, that you need some attention before you go insane.
She loves you, but she's not a mind reader.
Speaking of sex in cars talk...
Years ago, fourth of July, at a big amusement park...
Fireworks were winding down and the girlfriend and I went to the lot to try to get out before the traffic got bad. Well, too late... everybody else beat us to it, so we decided to crawl in the back and fool around.
Was an old jeep cherokee with dark tinted windowsm seats folded flat, and wouldn't you know it... what luck... always a couple of blankets conveniently available.
So were fooling around, mostly half naked and just getting the rush off doing it in a parking lot... there was traffic, but I was parked at a pretty secluded edge with decent privacy (wonder if that was planned)...
So we're having a blast when all of a sudden there's a light "thump", like something hit the car, then a pause, then the sound of water falling. I thought when the thump hit we were busted, but there was no flashlight or knocking or talking. Just the water.
Well... apparently that secluded spot looked just like the right place for some drunk guy to be able to lean and pi$$. One hand on my car. One hand on his, well, you know. And him pi$$ing over my back tire.
Mood killer? Yeah.
I might have wanted to kick his arse if I didn't have a half naked girl beside me. Fight with a drunk who is probably not tucked and zipped or laugh with the cute girl with her top off.
I'm not the smartest boy, but I'm not dumb enough to make the wrong choice there... even tho' it pretty much ended the mashing. We laughed all the way home.
I love watching and participating, but I do think that men are typically uncomfortable doing it for an audience.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
But I bet you wouldn't mind watch a women play solo.
I told her, all she says is "she's sorry"
Really. Hmm.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
I don't know I mean if your having sex with me then why can't you masturbate in front of me-- it's not like I'm going to be watching you go but if it happens then whatever, don't have to go and lock yourself in a room and jump if I walk in like a dirty old man...
Meh, that's just me..
Sarah
Entirely different situation. The awkwardness of some 6"-12" stick just sitting there being pounded on isn't like a finger in a hole. Just totally different.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
'She's sorry', ugh, that comes across like 'oh, well'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
That sucks.
KC, Rome, you're not babies, you're just young.
Masterbating in front of your partner can be really hot! Tell me it doesn't turn you on to watch a girl get herself off. Don't lie, be honest!
It's the same for girls (not all). Watching a guy get himself to orgasm, uber hot!
Maybe I'm just old though. KP, your thoughts. :)
Guess we will just have to find out the hard way... :cool: ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
She was molested as a child and then again as a teen, as a teen it was her own cousin, so I can understand her hesitations. But she refuses to go to therapy and talk about it, which is what I think would be the best solution. Her anti-depressants, she's not taking anymore. Ahhh I'm at a loss
Agreed.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
Sarah
It's not a different situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
To be honest though, ALL men masterbate different (like females) so the benefits of masterbating in front of a partner are too great to pass up the opportunity.
I do better at masturbating for a girl rather than for myself.
self help with a girl nibbling on your ears and neck is good stuff.
sure, id rather have her more engaged and in the moment, and its never been the prime activity in any relationship, but I don't have a problem "problem solving" if she doesn't have a problem distracting me.
I think it comes from the fact I think its sexy when a girl self stims during sex. Its one of the most useful things I've seen a woman do to drive herself over the top, and I've never thought it wrong or strange or out of place.
think its sexy as sin if a girl feels herself up when you are going down on her or reaches down to self stim while inside her. So... self help with peripheral stim from a girl can be intense.
OMG Rome, you are dating me!Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Sweetie, if she ever wants someone to talk to about this, I've been there, done that, wrote the book, you name it. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone you don't know and don't have to face.
Same for women, I love playing solo once in awhile, with the encouragement.Quote:
Originally Posted by kp2171
Just changes, you need after too many years...
You come up and try anything and everything...
Where do you think oil wrestling was invented... :D
If I could give you 100 greenies this would be the time.Quote:
Originally Posted by kp2171
Sarah
And once again I'm horny because of KP! Ahhhhhh! My God you have a way with words. Seriously, KP, you wouldn't even have to touch me, just talk to me and I'd be over the edge.Quote:
Originally Posted by kp2171
Sigh.
Biggest smile of the day, so farQuote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
I have been trying to get her to go to counseling but she refuses and just clams up when it's brought up. I'm like at my wits end with it, I have no idea what to do about it, I want to help her but she won't let me
Just have to say, 6"-12"? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
What makes it even worse is that we went out to Cali this past Christmas, and I had to look the person who did this in the fracking face and couldn't say or hit him! That was so hard for me, no one knows about it but her(in her family)
What advice would you give yourself in your situation?Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Honestly I don't know. She needs to talk to someone though and she refuses to. It's so bad that I am at the point where I could very well say "talk or I walk" and it's hard because I really do love her but she clams up and will not talk about it to anyone
Hmmm... its just true.
Two of my most intense memories sexually didn't involve my having sex, getting an orgasm, or even getting my pants off.
One time was when a lover got herself off, without any cl!toral play and no penetration. She told me what she wanted... mostly neck and breast play with lips... and it was awesome... "suck harder" or "bite lightly" was great to hear. And he ran her hands over her arse, sucked on her finger. When that orgasm hit it was just great to witness.
Other time was just "dry grinding"... first time id gotten her into her bedroom, first time her bare chest was against my skin, and we never made it do the middle of that big, huge bed. When that orgasm hit her it just stopped the world. And then she shook. And shook.
And I completely diluted the moment... because after a little bit I honestly couldn't tell if she was OK. So I ask "are you ok?"... nothing... and again "are you ok?"... and she barely gets out "yes", but she meant to say
"SHUT THE FKCU UP AND LET ME ENJOY THIS GREAT ORGASM, YOU IDIOT!"
Oops...
Don't know why, but those two moments were great... kind of like oral, where you make it all about the other persons pleasure... but one step removed. Maybe even more "selfless"?. not that being somewhat selfish in bed is completely a bad thing.
Totally off topic but.
Mother in law when your rearrange the words come out to be Woman Hitler.
Giggles.
Sarah
Dammit- I've been too busy today to hang out. :( :(
And I've got some needs that need 'tending to... :(
Maybe knowing how you truly feel would help her face it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Definitely a hard situation, but it's not one you can fix alone.
We have seen that all too often.
If I had room in my sig line this would be going in! :)Quote:
"SHUT THE FKCU UP AND LET ME ENJOY THIS GREAT ORGASM, YOU IDIOT!"
Sarah,
Just saw your post...
YouTube - "Ooh Girl!" - An Honest R&B Song
From
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge...os-339660.html
Cleanup on aisle nine. Sooooo funny.
LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by kp2171
Forgot about that...
I have a few others but not sure if I want to post them ;)
Sarah
Meh... what a boring day!
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