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  • Aug 12, 2007, 01:58 PM
    startover22
    Yes, I used to sell and buy on eBay, that was good money. No time for that now... Garage sales, and craigslist are my faves...
    No shipping and cheap prices for great things.
    Ikea, when I here that word I think of Night at the Roxbury, the movie... LOL
    The nearest one is in Wahington... been only once and really enjoyed it. Off to find some boxes... Hugs, Start
  • Aug 12, 2007, 07:48 PM
    alkalineangel
    Popping in to say hello. Busy weekend for me... babysitting the boys yesterday... nothing better than 4 rowdy boys at the pool... LOL. Today we took Connor out to see what he wanted for his birthday. That was fun.

    I am sooo not looking forward to going back to work. My voss informed us Friday afternoon that she put in her two weeks a week before, so she will be leaving... I know I am pushing for this new job and all, but I don't know if I will get it yet, and the idea of getting a new boss is not appetizing to me. :(
  • Aug 13, 2007, 12:43 AM
    curlybenswife
    Ah I took two weeks off sick with millie when my boss left but I never made it back as I spent the last 6 weeks of my work in bed hehehehehe
    Im sure it will be fine hunn hugs xxxx
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:23 AM
    J_9
    Ahhhhhh, don't you just love noobs?
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:40 AM
    curlybenswife
    Nobs yes nooobs um no lol good morning my dear j how are you this morning?
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:54 AM
    J_9
    Doing well. The children are eating breakfast, almost time to take them to school.

    And how are you this fine day my dear?
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:58 AM
    Capuchin
    Laura, there's a bear in your apple.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:59 AM
    Synnen
    I wish I could call in to work today.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 05:01 AM
    curlybenswife
    LOL I'm all right just ate lunch :D carrot and sweet potato soup that I made yesterday it was yummy.

    Cap are you sure there's a bear in my apple??
  • Aug 13, 2007, 05:05 AM
    J_9
    I guess a bear in your apple is better than a worm.

    Synn, how was the weekend?

    Muwahhh Cappy dear.

    Rae and I were looking at the haircut pic last night when John saw it. I died!! He said "That's cute, you should get that cut!!" :eek:
  • Aug 13, 2007, 05:10 AM
    Synnen
    It was all right. Kind of sad, but I think that that will be the tone of all my family gatherings nowadays. My sister and I have given up on trying to get along--and even my dad, who is normally oblivious, noticed it.

    Ah well, I guess I just don't do much with them anymore.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 05:24 AM
    curlybenswife
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9
    I guess a bear in your apple is better than a worm.

    Synn, how was the weekend?

    Muwahhh Cappy dear.

    Rae and I were looking at the haircut pic last night when John saw it. I died!!!! He said "That's cute, you should get that cut!!" :eek:

    Oh my word had he been drinking or sat in the sun??
  • Aug 13, 2007, 06:53 AM
    J_9
    Synn, I am so sorry you have to go through this. Maybe in time, a long time, things will change. My family was the same until recently.

    CBW, I LOVE Elmo!!

    Nope not drinking or sun... maybe just realized that short hair can be cute, or he sniffed too many chemicals at work. :cool:
  • Aug 13, 2007, 06:54 AM
    startover22
    Morning ladies...
    Al, change is always weird, you never know, the new boss may be wonderful...
    J, how did hubby like that game last night... maybe you should just get the SeaHawk emblem shave in the side of your head... J/K. I think the picture of the haircut was very cute.
    CBW, talking about food makes me hungry..
    Synn, Sorry about you and your sister. Really is too bad.
    Have a bright and beautiful day...
  • Aug 13, 2007, 06:55 AM
    Synnen
    I love that haircut, and can't wait to see it on YOU!

    And thanks... I don't think I'd make it through this family crap without my "sisters" here!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 06:59 AM
    J_9
    Thanks Synn, getting it done on Wednesday, I'll be sure to take a pic.

    Yeah, I know about having the "sisters." I really needed my AMHD sisters when Dad was ill and... well really long story. But it is amazing how we can help each other through a keyboard and a monitor.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:00 AM
    startover22
    Yeah, sure does help to be able to talk about it.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:13 AM
    Synnen
    What really helps is that the "family" here doesn't judge, doesn't expect anything of you, and doesn't have this crazy idea that you're horrible if you're not like them!

    I came to the realization that the biggest reason I don't really "fit in" is that I'm so different from my family, different lifestyle, different ideas, everything!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:16 AM
    shatteredsoul
    Hey there Syn, hope its OK that I jump in here. I am sorry about the situation with your sister, I can relate, because I haven't got along with my sister since I was like 6. We just always seem to have some sort of conflict every time we get together, or for that matter, whenever we talk. It makes it difficult.and I am sorry that you struggle with that. We don't see eye to eye on anything! It hurts to not get along with family, even when we really want to and it just doesn't work. Just wanted to say that. Thank God for friends, because without them life would be unbearable!!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:26 AM
    Synnen
    Of course I don't mind you jumping in--why would I be unhappy with someone offering comfort?

    Yeah--it's the same with my sister and I. We have never really been friends, and never really seen eye-to-eye about anything. I hate the way she raises her kids, and try to bite my tongue on it, but it sucks to watch her scream at them. She and I also have very different ideas on everything--and the fact that she has 5 kids and I have none keeps that gap of understanding between us HUGE.

    I'm sorry that you have to go through it too... although from listening to people here, it seems to be more common than I thought it was!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:33 AM
    shatteredsoul
    Yeah, I have a feeling my sister would say the same thing. We have different ideas on everything and she has an opinion about EVERYTHING I do. An opinion I can handle, it's the judgmental stuff that gets on my nerves. Everything is a criticism or an attack. Well, thanks for listening to me, I didn't mean to change the subject.
    So, the family here that doesn't judge is really life saving isn't it?? I know it has saved me a few times!
    I am a Comfort? I am glad you see it that way!!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:36 AM
    alkalineangel
    Hello all. Called in today, connor has a fever. So I'm here. :)

    Synnen - sorry it is so rough on you, I know how it feels to be the odd one out in your family... I do everything backwards... kid, marriage, then graduation... lol... and the catholics they are can't take it. :)

    J- I think the hairdo will look marvelous!

    CBW - hope you are doing well.

    Everyone else - Hope all is well!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:38 AM
    shatteredsoul
    I hear that AL!! I come from a long line of conservative Catholics, so me getting married when my youngest was three months, was quite an adjustment for everyone. A$$ backwards, is how I do everything, so maybe we should start a club for that!! LOL
    Hope Connor feels better soon.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:39 AM
    startover22
    Oh, poor Connor, movies and gatorade today?
    The boys are going to show up today. Kids had a busy swimming weekend, they went to bed at 7 and fell asleep at 7:01...
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:41 AM
    Synnen
    What's scary is that my family would be more okay with a baby before marriage than they are with the fact that we don't have kids.

    Since pretty much everyone in my family was a teen mom, not a single one of them understands having a life without kids. That's a big part of the arguments--that I feel I should have the same respect for MY lifestyle as they have for THEIR lifestyle, and it just doesn't happen.

    I am a second-class citizen in my family because we don't have kids.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:44 AM
    shatteredsoul
    Well that is just wrong. I don't think that is fair at all. Everyone lives life in their own way, why should you have kids just because they do? So basically no one approves of your life in your family? That is really just sad. I am sorry you have to deal with that kind of scrutiny, it is way more difficult than anything I have to manage with my family.

    YOu always have us!!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:46 AM
    alkalineangel
    :( that is sad, I'm so sorry.

    I agree shattered... we should just form our own family of misfits, and bash around all over the place... we will have tons more fun.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:46 AM
    startover22
    Synn, that is ridiculous. The fact that you still get to make all of your own choices is hard for someone to undersatand when they have to make shoices about what the WHOLE family wants to do. Dinner, movie, clothes, daily activities. I bet your mother would love to have some alone time with JUST you. I like you the way you are and hope they come to realize what they are missing with the judgements. Hugs to you... Start
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:48 AM
    shatteredsoul
    THE MISFITS, I LOVE IT!! GOod idea AL!!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:50 AM
    J_9
    LOL, I am the second class citizen in my family and I did everything the Catholic way. Got married in a catholic church, waited to have children until after I was married. My sister did everything the opposite. But for some reason I am the black sheep. Well, until I am needed, then I am the best thing in the world. Other than that, I don't really feel like part of my family at all.

    Good thing I have such great in-laws.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:56 AM
    startover22
    Latley (past few years) I have disconnected myself from the people that bring me down. My dad doesn't like it but I tell him that there is no good in being around these people, there is just no good to come out of it.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:59 AM
    shatteredsoul
    How do you do it Start? I think that is something I am still learning. How do you disconnect? Why do we care so much what they think anyway?
    J-9, even when you do it right, it seems there is always someone there to judge. I am sorry that you too struggle with family in that way. Although when they need you, they are sure of who to call to make it right! Families are strange aren't they?
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:08 AM
    startover22
    We care because it is there right in our veins and the thought of family is overwhelming sometimes. From the highest to the lowest family member they all have played a part in our lives. So when you find someone who has no GOOD to offer, you leave the situation. YOu leave it alone instead of try to explain why you are right and they are wrong...
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:08 AM
    Emland
    Happy Monday everyone - ug

    Nothing like taking a week off to spend with the kids and come back to a pile of crapola and a list of problems and complaints on your desk.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:09 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shatteredsoul
    Although when they need you, they are sure of who to call to make it right!! Families are strange aren't they?

    This is actually the funny part. They called a couple of years ago about Dad's health. Wanting to know something or asking for advice. When I would tell them what they needed to know, or give my advice, I was wrong. Always just wrong. So, I quit calling, would not answer the phone, etc, it was easy cause we lived so far apart. I did not need the aggravation of them asking me, then putting me down. Not that I didn't love my parents, but I didn't need the drama and the insults.

    Well, 6 months of no contact, I wouldn't even answer e-mails, I got an e-mail saying how right I was those long months ago. They wished they had listened to me in the first place. Now there was nothing that could have saved my Dad even back then as his health was beginning to spiral downward, but had they listened then he would have had a more productive last few years.

    It is a shame that sometimes we have to step away from our families, for a short time, sometimes even longer, to see what is lacking in family dynamics. My sister and I still don't get along, my brother and I are 2 different people. But my mother has a new respect for me. It is sad that his death is what gave my mother a new respect for me, but sometimes it takes pain to find joy.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:09 AM
    startover22
    Mmmm, Emland, you are definitely rightO. Time to get to work sweet. Have a good day.

    You are a lucky lady to see the bad bring some good. You always learn from your trials. I really like that about you. And yes sometimes it is too late.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:42 AM
    curlybenswife
    I stepped away from my mother and my sister 10 years ago no regret here I see them maybe twice a year what's the point in being somewhere with people who make you uncomfortable and feel unwanted after traveling who knows for how long with no thanks its not like I have the money blow on petrol so screw it bens family are much nicer that's for sure.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:45 AM
    shatteredsoul
    Seems like everyone has a family that is disappointing in some way. I guess they can never always give you all of what you need and that is what friends are for.
    J-9, it is too bad they took so long to hear you, it could have been a different road for all of you. That really is a shame. I am glad to hear that things are better with your mom.
    I guess at the end of the day, we just have to forgive them for not being who we need them to be, and try to focus on the people who are there for us.
    It is good to have In Laws that are kind and helpful, CBW, it is a shame that you don't feel comfortable with your own family. I have a feeling we all kind of feel that way, in some form or another.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:45 AM
    startover22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    I stepped away from my mother and my sister 10 years ago no regret here i see them maybe twice a year whats the point in being somewhere with people who make you uncomfortable and feel unwanted after traveling who knows for how long with no thanks its not like i have the money blow on petrol so screw it bens family are much nicer thats for sure.

    I feel exaclty what you just said. There is no point... we do what we have to and if people don't like it well, I say go find someone you like then.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:53 AM
    Synnen
    You know... that's exactly it! I'm tired of driving who knows how long, spending my time and money, to be with people that want me to be something I'm not once I'm there!

    So... since we're sisters... are you going to teach your kids to call me Aunty Synn?

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