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  • Jan 7, 2010, 12:41 AM
    Unknown008

    Still up Stringer! :eek:

    I'm now on role modelling. After that, I'll have religion and then conclusion. Phew, then another essay, this time I'll do the one on marriage.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 12:54 AM
    Stringer
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    Originally Posted by Unknown008 View Post
    Still up Stringer!? :eek:

    I'm now on role modelling. After that, I'll have religion and then conclusion. Phew, then another essay, this time I'll do the one on marriage.

    HI Unky, you should be able to find role models in education, sports (not Tiger Woods though), science, philosophers...

    Marriage, well there is always Marta... :)
  • Jan 7, 2010, 01:10 AM
    Unknown008

    Yes, you'll be my interviewees ;)

    Ok, my sister is claiming the computer. See you in about 8 hours time! :)
  • Jan 7, 2010, 08:51 AM
    adam_89

    Good Morning everbody. Can someone please help me out and give me a greenie on one of my posts? A somewhat new person gave me a reddie and called me stupid. The OP asked for ways to tell a guy no and I simply suggested a few ways. I would give that person a reddie back but I don't want to stoop that low. Here is the thread and you can read it. If it looks like a deserved a reddie then so be it and everyone who looks at it can give me one because I deserved it.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...im-432053.html
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:02 AM
    Unknown008

    Balanced! :)

    I prefer to keep away from those types of forums... because if someone doesn't agree with how I might think, well, I'm going to get reddies before I understand what's happening to me :eek: :p
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:47 AM
    adam_89

    Thanks a lot unky. I appreciate it. I was just making a suggestion.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:27 PM
    Unknown008

    I'm now on my next essay, marriage. The question is 'What are the causes of divorce? Provide appropriate solutions'

    The causes I came up with:
    Absence of trust/Infidelity
    Domestic Violence
    'Empty shell marriage'
    Lack of physical contact
    Less social stigma (I'm not sure how stigma arises when you get divorced :confused:)
    Pressures from in-laws
    Economic freedom
    Education-one knows one's rights
    Incompatibility
    'Erreur sur la personne' (the person didn't know the partner well enough)
    Erosion of moral values - Religious provisions (don't quite understand this one either)
    Laws simplified (does that mean divorce procedures are simpler?)

    Ok, I've not started yet. I won't add things I'm not sure about and the only things I really need are examples and the solutions. I know you guys know a lot of stuff about those ;).

    Alty, I finished my other essay on moral education :)
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:41 PM
    Stringer
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    Hey Bear, I know how much you like snow my friend... this is what we received today... as you can see it is still snowing. Sorry about the last one, you will have to turn your head to the left :(

    The first two are from our patio in the back and the last one was taken a few minutes ago out my front door.

    Stringer
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:45 PM
    Unknown008

    It all seems so smooth :)!

    Hi Stringer! :)
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:49 PM
    Stringer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Unknown008 View Post
    I'm now on my next essay, marriage. The question is 'What are the causes of divorce? Provide appropriate solutions'

    The causes I came up with:
    Absence of trust/Infidelity
    Domestic Violence
    'Empty shell marriage'
    Lack of physical contact
    Less social stigma (I'm not sure how stigma arises when you get divorced :confused:)
    Pressures from in-laws
    Economic freedom
    Education-one knows one's rights
    Incompatibility
    'Erreur sur la personne' (the person didn't know the partner well enough)
    Erosion of moral values - Religious provisions (don't quite understand this one either)
    Laws simplified (does that mean divorce procedures are simpler?)

    Ok, I've not started yet. I won't add things I'm not sure about and the only things I really need are examples and the solutions. I know you guys know a lot of stuff about those ;).

    Alty, I finished my other essay on moral education :)

    Control

    Lying

    Financial problems

    Mistrust (I think that you covered this one)

    Lack of 'growth'

    'Energy' in the marriage

    Lack of attention to each other

    Laziness

    Just off the top of my head Unky.

    Stringer
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:51 PM
    Stringer
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    Originally Posted by Unknown008 View Post
    It all seems so smooth :)!

    Hi Stringer! :)

    Hi Unky, I am off to bed now... later...
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:52 PM
    Alty

    Darnit, I can't greenie you Stringer. :(

    I agree, those are a few of the major ones.

    Studies have shown that most marriages end either because of money or because of sex. That's either lack of sex or sex with someone else.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:54 PM
    Unknown008

    Thanks!

    I now need the solutions to those problems. I know, and have seen that most of the time, counselling is the way to go. Being honest in most occasions is the solution. Are there more?
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:54 PM
    Unknown008
    Night Stringer :)!
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:55 PM
    Stringer

    I agree Alty... I don't want or need those problems... that's why I am saying g'night my friend... time for bed... :)
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:57 PM
    Stringer
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    Originally Posted by Unknown008 View Post
    Thanks!

    I now need the solutions to those problems. I know, and have seen that most of the time, counselling is the way to go. Being honest in most occasions is the solution. Are there more?

    TCB Unky... (Always) Take Care of 'Business', another is loss of love as a result of a lot of the other things.

    Pay attention to the little things.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:59 PM
    Alty
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    Originally Posted by Unknown008 View Post
    Thanks!

    I now need the solutions to those problems. I know, and have seen that most of the time, counselling is the way to go. Being honest in most occasions is the solution. Are there more?

    When it comes to money problems there are group counseling places and people that will come to your home, help you balance your cheque book, take a look at what you're spending, what you're bringing in and helping you to cut back so that you're not always living pay cheque to pay cheque.

    As for sex. If there is a lack of sex in the relationship then counseling is a definite must, in my opinion. No sex is usually an indicator of a larger problem. Deal with that problem and things resume to normal.

    Infidelity is very common. Usually the unfaithful partner is stepping outside the marriage because their needs aren't being fulfilled at home. There's usually a lack of communication, and the person feels like they have nowhere to turn. Sex outside the marriage usually doesn't have as much to do with physical need as it has to do with emotional need. Counseling is a definite must if they want the relationship to be saved.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 09:59 PM
    Alty
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    Originally Posted by Stringer View Post
    I agree Alty...I don't want or need those problems...that's why I am saying g'night my friend.....time for bed....:)

    LOL! Go love your wife Stringer. You're a lucky man. :)

    Night Stringer.
  • Jan 7, 2010, 10:00 PM
    Unknown008
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    Originally Posted by Stringer View Post
    TCB Unky...(Always) Take Care of 'Business', another is loss of love as a result of a lot of the other things.

    Pay attention to the little things.

    Sure will do my friend. I already mentioned those, so that you don't have to look for more :). You know however, how to overcome those problems, which I don't. :(
  • Jan 7, 2010, 10:02 PM
    Unknown008
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    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    When it comes to money problems there are group counseling places and people that will come to your home, help you balance your cheque book, take a look at what you're spending, what you're bringing in and helping you to cut back so that you're not always living pay cheque to pay cheque.

    As for sex. If there is a lack of sex in the relationship then counseling is a definite must, in my opinion. No sex is usually an indicator of a larger problem. Deal with that problem and things resume to normal.

    Infidelity is very common. Usually the unfaithful partner is stepping outside the marriage because their needs aren't being fulfilled at home. There's usually a lack of communication, and the person feels like they have nowhere to turn. Sex outside the marriage usually doesn't have as much to do with physical need as it has to do with emotional need. Counseling is a definite must if they want the relationship to be saved.

    Thank you for your input:)

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