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  • Jul 23, 2009, 07:59 PM
    Alty

    Judy it's understandable that all this brings out all the worst memories we have. It's the nature of the beast.

    I wish Jo's parents would just let her go. The doctors have already told them that even if she were to survive she'd need care for the rest of her life. That's no life, especially not for someone as independent as Jo.

    It's best that they just let her go peacefully but I can't understand the need to keep trying. I understand that all too well.

    In the end there's nothing that they can do if it's her time to go.

    I wish her a quick painless end to all of this.
  • Jul 23, 2009, 08:11 PM
    albear

    Same here, I wish starby an easy passage when its her time to go, and my best wishes go out to her and her family.

    I hope that came out all right, its difficult to say much on here, but I do mean well.
  • Jul 23, 2009, 08:13 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by albear View Post
    same here, i wish starby an easy passage when its her time to go, and my best wishes go out to her and her family.

    i hope that came out alright, its difficult to say much on here, but i do mean well.

    It came out just fine Bear. :)
  • Jul 23, 2009, 08:22 PM
    Stringer

    I think so too bear.

    This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers... I just don't know.
  • Jul 23, 2009, 09:14 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Stringer View Post
    I think so too bear.

    This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers....I just don't know.

    It was only that long ago Stringer. It's been so different without her here. I still expect her to pop in, tell one of her funny stories, join in the jokes and fun.

    I can't believe this, yet I can. We've had some time to get used to the idea of her going but it's still such a shock.

    I just love her so much, even though we never met. I can't believe we never will. :(
  • Jul 23, 2009, 09:47 PM
    startover22
    Awww... your spirit and hers Alty matched perfectly, it is obvious. Take it all for what it was and is to you;)
    Judy love, I am so sorry for the losses in your life. Your experience helps us all here
    Stringer, thank you
    And Bear... you say the right things all the time... dont underestimate;)
  • Jul 24, 2009, 03:30 AM
    Catsmine
    Even those of us who only talked a couple of times loved her. Godspeed, Jo.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:11 AM
    shazamataz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Stringer View Post
    I think so too bear.

    This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers....I just don't know.

    I still remember the message she posted about tripping over on her porch, I was online at the time and didn't think much of it, just told her to get to the hospital and asked is she was OK.

    I wish I had have said more to her then.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:01 AM
    jenniepepsi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post

    I wish I had have said more to her then.

    Don't dwell on that so much hon. She wouldn't want that. She understands I'm sure, and I'm sure she knows you would have said more to her had you known. *hugs*
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:18 AM
    binx44

    How is starby doing? My sister broke the same bone from being hit by a truck it took a long recovery time. I wish her the best. And will pray for her
  • Jul 24, 2009, 10:11 AM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by binx44 View Post
    how is starby doing? my sister broke the same bone from being hit by a truck it took a long recovery time. i wish her the best. and will pray for her

    She's not well Binx.

    The break in her leg is the least of her worries.

    Her liver is not functioning, one kidney has shut down, there's an infection causing massive amounts of liquid to form in her abdomen, and many other things.

    I doubt she'll be with us much longer and for her sake I hope it's quick and painless because she's been in pain for months now.

    Godspeed Jo, I think that says it best. We all love you, never forget it.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 10:38 AM
    JoeCanada76
    Yes, we all do...
  • Jul 24, 2009, 11:59 AM
    binx44

    Wow.. I didn't know so much was going on in her life. She was and still is a wonderful person. I do hope when her time comes that she goes peacefully because no one deserves to be in pain like that. I still remember how nice she was when I first came on the forum. She will be greatly missed. :(

    We all love you, never forget it and I don't think any of us will ever forget her or the things she's done for people.

    I would write more but hearing about the pain she's in and what's she's dealing with has made me cry...
    May the sun always warm the path her feet follow.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 12:27 PM
    jenniepepsi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    She's not well Binx.

    The break in her leg is the least of her worries.

    Her liver is not functioning, one kidney has shut down, there's an infection causing massive amounts of liquid to form in her abdomen, and many other things.

    I doubt she'll be with us much longer and for her sake I hope it's quick and painless because she's been in pain for months now.

    Godspeed Jo, I think that says it best. We all love you, never forget it.

    Yes I agree that I hope she simply goes to sleep. I don't want her suffering anymore than she already has.

    I have been reading through some of her posts and greenies (mostly I'm bored, but I wanted to get to know the person behind 'starby') and she seems like such a wonderfully caring and loving person, and I am so saddened that I may not get the chance to say hello to her.

    *hugs for starby*
  • Jul 24, 2009, 01:28 PM
    kp2171
    Danke for the update darlin.

    I haven't posted much, cause I know where she's at, there just isn't a lot of "turning back"... even when there are upswings.

    Much love to all.

    Every day is a gift.

    Its so hard to keep that perspective... even my worst day is another day spent with people I love.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 01:48 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kp2171 View Post
    danke for the update darlin.

    i havent posted much, cause i know where shes at, there just isnt a lot of "turning back"... even when there are upswings.

    much love to all.

    every day is a gift.

    its so hard to keep that perspective... even my worst day is another day spent with people i love.

    So true KP. From what I've been told she's only awake for an hour or two a day and those wakeful period are filled with confusion and pain.

    She's drifting away, but boy is she a toughy. She's already lived longer then the doctors thought she would. I'm glad she had that extra time, her family had a great birthday party for her, even brought Niki (Jo's dog) along. She was full of smiles, eating cake, loving every minute of it.

    I'm glad she had that. I'm also glad that she seems to have made peace with her family.

    I wish things were different, but wishes don't usually come true. She's a big part of my life and no matter what happens she always will be.

    Darnit, more freakin tears. I would think they'd be dried up by now. :(
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:19 PM
    Catsmine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Darnit, more freakin tears. I would think they'd be dried up by now. :(

    The older you get, hon, the more fall. Each one of mine are a memory of an absent friend.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:21 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Catsmine View Post
    The older you get, hon, the more fall. Each one of mine are a memory of an absent friend.

    I've shed too many in my lifetime, I don't shed them easily. It takes a lot to make me cry.

    My mom used to say that you have little teacups behind your eyes. They fill up and then you have to cry to empty them.

    Loved my mom. :)
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:31 PM
    Catsmine
    As the teacups get bigger, they empty easier. I'm as tough as they come, but I can cry at John Wayne movies nowadays.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 05:21 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Catsmine View Post
    As the teacups get bigger, they empty easier. I'm as tough as they come, but I can cry at John Wayne movies nowdays.

    Movies don't usually make me cry, life is enough.

    Does it ever get easier?

    If it does is that a bad thing?

    I wish I had the answers, sadly I only have questions. :(

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