Ask Me Help Desk - Pink & Black #4

Just thought I would stop in and say hi.
I have been MIA for a while, I know.
My computer crashed at the end of August and we just got a new one last week.
Going to the library to pay bills online stinks bad enough - trying to catch up with everyone here is worse (no privacy)

So, Anyway, Hello to all my online friends, I HAVE MISSSED YOU!

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... NowWhat, how are you?
Working still? I know all about the privacy thing... and I am at HOME! LOL
Awww, I have missed you sweet! How is the family? How are you?

Everything is really good. The job is good. It's easy work - but it is a balancing act. I never really realized what other families with 2 working parents go through.

My daughter is good at giving a guilt trip. "why do you have to go to work and not spend time with me.?"

Awwww... you know she loves you then. It is hard to have two parents work. I don't know how you ladies get everything done, I would be up way past bed time getting things done if I worked. Do you still like the job though? Or are you having second thoughts?

I do like the job. It is a nice change of pace. Being around other adults is nice.

I do have days where I have this overwhelming feeling of not liking people very much. I guess I am strange - but I ALWAYS say please, thank you, have a nice day.. etc... to people. The girl at the check out, the bagger or the dry cleaner. Anyone I come in contact with.
So many people out their have forgot their manners. It just amazes me. Then you get the people in that are a sweet as pie and you feel better about the human race. :)

You know I am having a problem and my little heart is having a hard time making a distinction between right and wrong...
As you all know I do daycare. I know this is a time of year that everyone seems to be broke (so to speak) but if I don't get paid, then I will be too! One ladies cell phone is shut off, has no heat right now. She said she will bring half the money today... and the rest on Friday... I know she is struggling. Dustin is gone and busy with football, I told her to come over with the girls and I will cook her a hot meal and at least she can be warm here... Oh dang, I told her that I have been where she is, I know how it is... my little heart was breaking for her but at the same time I feel so selfish for taking the only money she has... Ohhh man... I almost don't want to, but know that if I don't, my whole budget and planning will be off... that won't be good down the road! So help me out here lovely friends... PLEASE

Well, this is going to sound awful - but here goes.

You are not running a charity - you are running a business. And why? To provide for your family. So, you need to take your payment.
Now, if she is really hitting it hard, there are places that she can take her kids to that won't cost her anything. I know you don't want to lose the business, but if she can't pay you, are you losing anything?

Now, with that "business" out of the way, inviting her over for a warm meal is great. And we should always do that kind of thing if we can. Everyone hits the hard road sometimes. And allowing her to work out a payment plan is showing heart - because there are those out there that won't. Don't feel selfish for putting the needs of your family first.

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Originally Posted by NowWhat

I do like the job. It is a nice change of pace. Being around other adults is nice.

I do have days where I have this overwhelming feeling of not liking people very much. I guess I am strange - but I ALWAYS say please, thank you, have a nice day..etc.... to people. The girl at the check out, the bagger or the dry cleaner. Anyone I come in contact with.
So many people out their have forgot their manners. It just amazes me. Then you get the people in that are a sweet as pie and you feel better about the human race. :)

I use my manners too sweet... so funny, I really really notice it when others use their manners too!

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Originally Posted by NowWhat

I do like the job. It is a nice change of pace. Being around other adults is nice.

I do have days where I have this overwhelming feeling of not liking people very much. I guess I am strange - but I ALWAYS say please, thank you, have a nice day..etc.... to people. The girl at the check out, the bagger or the dry cleaner. Anyone I come in contact with.
So many people out their have forgot their manners. It just amazes me. Then you get the people in that are a sweet as pie and you feel better about the human race. :)

Yea I know what you men, for example start... no I'm joking, don't hit me:D

Mornin albear... I think you are swell too... LOL
NowWhat, I really needed that, thanks. I don't mind feeding and helping people I really don't. But I do mind if three out of five parents tell me they can't pay yet or have to pay later... that just means they are going to stay like that till after Christmas... So I guess I need to rethink the arrangements...

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Originally Posted by startover22

You know I am having a problem and my little heart is having a hard time making a distinction between right and wrong....
As you all know I do daycare. I know this is a time of year that everyone seems to be broke (so to speak) but if I don't get paid, then I will be too!! One ladies cell phone is shut off, has no heat right now. She said she will bring half the money today....and the rest on Friday....I know she is struggling. Dustin is gone and busy with football, I told her to come over witht the girls and i will cook her a hot meal and at least she can be warm here.....Oh dang, I told her that i have been where she is, I know how it is......my little heart was breaking for her but at the same time I feel so selfish for taking the only money she has....Ohhh man....I almost don't want to, but know that if i don't, my whole budget and planning will be off....that won't be good down the road! So help me out here lovely friends...PLEASE

You keep saying 'little heart' we all know its big

Awww... albear. You are too kind!

YouTube - Sarah McLachlan - World On Fire
She has a pretty voice... sorry, I know it is sad...

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Originally Posted by startover22

You know I am having a problem and my little heart is having a hard time making a distinction between right and wrong....
As you all know I do daycare. I know this is a time of year that everyone seems to be broke (so to speak) but if I don't get paid, then I will be too!! One ladies cell phone is shut off, has no heat right now. She said she will bring half the money today....and the rest on Friday....I know she is struggling. Dustin is gone and busy with football, I told her to come over witht the girls and i will cook her a hot meal and at least she can be warm here.....Oh dang, I told her that i have been where she is, I know how it is......my little heart was breaking for her but at the same time I feel so selfish for taking the only money she has....Ohhh man....I almost don't want to, but know that if i don't, my whole budget and planning will be off....that won't be good down the road! So help me out here lovely friends...PLEASE

Start I don't know precisely what her financial problems are but if she is in dire need and her heat is off and she has children. Then please suggest social services to her, they have emergency help available for situations like this.
Stringer:)

I know Stringer, I have suggested help, she just started a divorce a while ago, and it all started crumbling from there... Something about her being paid under the table by her dad and what not, stops her from getting help. I don't know, I love her girls, and she is a good lady. I knew it the first day we met, but I feel I can only do so much and babysitting for free isn't one of them... sad but true.

I am trying to teach Max how to fart with his armpit... I can't even do it so I don't know why I am even trying! LMAO

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Originally Posted by startover22

I am trying to teach Max how to fart with his armpit....I can't even do it so I don't know why I am even trying!! LMAO

Lol, you want to know as well don't you

Yes... I have wanted to learn this wonderful thing my whole life... Can you do it? albear can you?

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Originally Posted by startover22

Yes....I have wanted to learn this wonderful thing my whole life....Can you do it? albear can ya?

No, but for some reason I can make the same noise with my hands, so no need to stick my hands in my arm pits

Well, I will keep trying till I die... it will become my goal! LOL
HEY FIRMY WHERE ARE YOU??

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Originally Posted by startover22

Well, I will keep trying till i die......it will become my goal! LOL
HEY FIRMY WHERE ARE YOU???

I know when I'm not wanted lol

Naw, albear... I was just wondering where she was is all... I miss her..

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Originally Posted by startover22

Naw, albear...I was just wondering where she was is all....I miss her..

It's a good point though I haven't seen her in a while

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Originally Posted by startover22

I know Stringer, i have suggested help, she just started a divorce a while ago, and it all started crumbling from there....Something about her being payed under the table by her dad and what not, stops her from getting help. I don't know, I love her girls, and she is a good lady. I knew it the first day we met, but i feel I can only do so much and babysitting for free isn't one of them.....sad but true.

I understand.. 6 degrees... you have to take care of your own family first and foremost...

Yes, albear, I know she is off for a while but just a quick hello in here would do me some good... ;)
Stringer, I am going to do some re-thinking... I know I can come up with something... ;)

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Originally Posted by startover22

Yes, albear, I know she is off for a while but just a quick hello in here would do me some good.......;)
Stringer, I am going to do some re-thinking...I know I can come up with something....;)

Maybe you could get her to pay in installments instead of all of it in one go

I am going to ask if that will help, she is going to come over and eat and hang out here tonight I think? But if she doesn't I will send Davy over with a big ole pot of hot soup... and maybe homemade garlic bread...
Now the mention of garlic bread has to pull Firmy out of where ever she is... LMAO!

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Originally Posted by startover22

I am going to ask if that will help, she is gonna come over and eat and hang out here tonight I think?? But if she doesn't i will send Davy over with a big ole pot of hot soup...and maybe homemade garlic bread...
Now the mention of garlic bread has to pull Firmy out of where ever she is...LMAO!!

Nobody can resist garlic bread, except maybe vampires but firmy isn't one... is she?

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Originally Posted by albear

maybe you could get her to pay in installments instead of all of it in one go

A good idea Albear, that may help.

But if she is having problems with even getting heat and food, it is probably a drastic situation.

Start, several things here; 1. If she is going through a divorce and she has the children then suggest to her that she should have her lawyer go to court and get emergency money from her husband. He is still responsible in the eyes of the courts. 2. Try to find out exactly what her situation presently is "getting paid under the table by her Dad." Even if she is, it is a different situation with family. Any money that she is getting from him, even if she is working for him, can be described as a gift from family and not considered income. Then she can get the seriously needed money from Social Services (Family Services). That is what they are there for.

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Originally Posted by Stringer

A good idea Albear, that may help.

But if she is having problems with even getting heat and food, it is probably a drastic situation..

True

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Start, several things here; 1. If she is going through a divorce and she has the children then suggest to her that she should have her lawyer go to court and get emergency money from her husband. He is still responsible in the eyes of the courts. 2. Try to find out exactly what her situation presently is "getting paid under the table by her Dad." Even if she is, it is a different situation with family. Any money that she is getting from him, even if she is working for him, can be described as a gift from family and not considered income. then she can get the seriously needed money from Social Services (Family Services). that is what they are there for.

Some more good ideas here

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Originally Posted by Stringer

I understand..6 degrees....you have to take care of your own family first and foremost.....

Sage advice! If you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of others!

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Originally Posted by albear

true

some more good ideas here

This saddens my heart to hear about these situations, always has. Her husband, still is until the divorce, should be taking his responsibility here... this sucks. Is he only concerned about himself... possibly why this happened in the first place! I would definitely go after his as~ now. :mad: He will always have a responsibility for those children that HE brought into this world.he should step up, regardless of how he feels about her.:mad: :mad:

Just a quick hello to everyone.

Start, I'm sorry for your situation, but Your family comes first.
I don't know the lady,
But I think if someone was in a situation that resorted in essential heat being shut off,
They should be looking for assistance in other areas instead of stiffing the babysitter...

Honey you have a big huge heart, and that is a wonderful quality to have,
But let me just say that there are people who will use that to their advantage and to your disadvantage.
You are running a business, and business relationships should be kept separated from friendship relationships.
It's too easy to get stuck in their "feel sorry for me" guilt trips which I can already sense you're feeling.

Are you sure everything she's telling you is the truth... think about that...
Just the very little you explained sounds fishy to me...
No church or government assistance program is going to let a struggling mother go without heat...
And getting paid under the table?? puts her over the limit for assistance??
Like she reports it?? Isn't that the whole purpose of being paid under the table... so that you don't have to report it...

Just care a lot about you start and don't want to see anyone walking all over you dear... I'm not trying to be negative... Me loves Ya!

Nowwhat said it good:D you are not running a charity, you are running a business to provide for your family...

Okay, I missed a lot, but no time to go over it all.

Test is over. It was terrible!! I just knew I failed it. Need an 80% to pass...

I made a 90%

Woooooo Hoooooo

Good Job J!!

OMG, Kae, it was a really terrible test. Girls were walking out in tears. No, I wasn't one of those, but I was really sick to my stomach afterward. Now I just want to find out the 5 that I missed. Can't wait till Wednesday.

Now we are getting to stuff I DO know about. PREGNANCY!!

Oh boy, I bet seeing the tears wasn't a reassuring thing at the time.
You really put a lot of effort into knowing the material... So WOOOOOO HOOOOO for you!!

LOL. Pregnancy!! All right maybe this will be much easier section for you.
Might be some guys walking out of that one teary eyed:D

Congratulations, J! You are doing fantastic!
I like that doing a 90% inspires you to do even better!
Pregancy, huh? Have you talked to Rank lately?
(psst! Go Patriot's! )

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Originally Posted by J_9

Okay, I missed a lot, but no time to go over it all.

Test is over. It was terrible!!! I just knew I failed it. Need an 80% to pass..............

I made a 90%

Woooooo Hoooooo

YOU ARE FANTASTIC.. WAY TO GO!! :D

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Originally Posted by J_9

Okay, I missed a lot, but no time to go over it all.

Test is over. It was terrible!!! I just knew I failed it. Need an 80% to pass..............

I made a 90%

Woooooo Hoooooo

GO ON MY SON!! GET IN THERE!! (translates to = well done J)