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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I have to say, I had the best parents in the world. I'm an only child, a result of 8 years of trying, surgeries, disappointment, finally I came along and my parents were thrilled.

We were very close. After I married and left home we still had dinner together every Sunday, saw eachother a few times a week, went on holidays together. They had an amazing relationship with Jared, his loss hurts me more then my own.

My father was a major family man. We meant the world to him, we were the the motivation for everything he did. When Jared came along he was thrilled. He loved my little boy more then anything and that's saying alot because his love for me was not measurable.

Both my parents died in 2001, I was 30. They passed 6 1/2 months apart, both of cancer.

Here's the amazing thing. Yes, I miss them, yes I mourn them, not a day goes by that I don't think about them and wish they were here, but.... I am one of the luckiest people I know. I had 30 amazing years with them. I had more in those 30 years then most people get in a lifetime. I have memories that will last me until the day I die and that will carry on in my children. I had the best, I was blessed.

Now who's getting sappy?

Pictures? Okay.

My mom with Jared
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My Dad 1 year before he died.
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That's amazing that you can say that. I wish I could. We had tradegy early in my family. A terrible police chase killed my first born brother when I was only 5. I barely remember it to not at all really. My parents should have went to counseling. But they didn't and it caused hardship and emotions that were never dealt with and they drifted and split when I was 18. They stuck it out many years for the sake of us kids. But I lost out. I have no family memories since they just were living separate lives under the same roof. Then a few months after they split on of my other brothers killed himself. Again, no one talks. My family just won't talk. Kills me because there are so many things about my family and I have no idea because they all fell apart before I could appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Thats amazing that you can say that. I wish I could. We had tradegy early in my family. A terrible police chase killed my first born brother when I was only 5. I barely remember it to not at all really. My parents should have went to counseling. But they didnt and it caused hardship and emotions that were never dealt with and they drifted and split when I was 18. They stuck it out many years for the sake of us kids. But I lost out. I have no family memories since they just were living seperate lives under the same roof. Then a few months after they split on of my other brothers killed himself. Again, no one talks. My family just wont talk. Kills me because there are so many things about my family and I have no idea because they all fell apart before I could appreciate it.

Sweetie, I am a firm believer that we make our own future, that we can change our lives.

My parents were great, my childhood was not ideal. Not because of them, never because of them, and had they known the things I'd gone through they would have stopped it, they would have seen to it that I got all the help I needed. I was too scared to tell them, they never knew, and I'm glad that they died without that knowledge.

I could live each day in the past, never letting myself move past it, but I choose not to. Every day is a new day, every experience is something to be cherished. My children, my family, my friends, I'm a lucky lady.

Don't live in the past sweetie, look to the future, make it your own, live it, own it, it's yours for the taking. :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I have to say, I had the best parents in the world. I'm an only child, a result of 8 years of trying, surgeries, disappointment, finally I came along and my parents were thrilled.

We were very close. After I married and left home we still had dinner together every Sunday, saw eachother a few times a week, went on holidays together. They had an amazing relationship with Jared, his loss hurts me more then my own.

My father was a major family man. We meant the world to him, we were the the motivation for everything he did. When Jared came along he was thrilled. He loved my little boy more then anything and that's saying alot because his love for me was not measurable.

Both my parents died in 2001, I was 30. They passed 6 1/2 months apart, both of cancer.

Here's the amazing thing. Yes, I miss them, yes I mourn them, not a day goes by that I don't think about them and wish they were here, but.... I am one of the luckiest people I know. I had 30 amazing years with them. I had more in those 30 years then most people get in a lifetime. I have memories that will last me until the day I die and that will carry on in my children. I had the best, I was blessed.

Now who's getting sappy?

Pictures? Okay.

My mom with Jared
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My Dad 1 year before he died.
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Not sappy! Beautiful! I think you resemble your Dad.Those beautiful eyes :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Sweetie, I am a firm believer that we make our own future, that we can change our lives.

My parents were great, my childhood was not ideal. Not because of them, never because of them, and had they known the things I'd gone through they would have stopped it, they would have seen to it that I got all the help I needed. I was too scared to tell them, they never knew, and I'm glad that they died without that knowledge.

I could live each day in the past, never letting myself move past it, but I choose not to. Every day is a new day, every experience is something to be cherished. My children, my family, my friends, I'm a lucky lady.

Don't live in the past sweetie, look to the future, make it your own, live it, own it, it's yours for the taking. :)

I don't live in the past really. It bugs me but I don't dwell on it. But with my family and things that have happened and the distance with us all I don't really feel like I have family. I sat in a hospital room for 7 hours with my dad a few weeks back and I had nothing to say to him. I just don't have that family bond and I don't know why. I think growing up the last child and being stuck during the rough times it caused me to have the distance. I don't know. I have no idea. But it was nice. He talked and mentioned about his times in the navy that I knew nothing about and it was nice. All these years he traveled the world before I was born and I had no idea. Strange.

I must have taken a sappy pill today.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

I dont live in the past really. It bugs me but I dont dwell on it. But with my family and things that have happened and the distance with us all I dont really feel like I have family. I sat in a hospital room for 7 hours with my dad a few weeks back and I had nothing to say to him. I just dont have that family bond and I dont know why. I think growing up the last child and being stuck during the rough times it caused me to have the distance. I dont know. I have no idea. But it was nice. He talked and mentioned about his times in the navy that I knew nothing about and it was nice. All these years he traveled the world before I was born and I had no idea. Strange.

I must have taken a sappy pill today.

Not sappy at all Sun! I think when tragedy strikes a family,you can go two ways,stick together and hurt together or put up protective walls to try to stop the pain.

It sounds like everyone was in their own personal hell and no one knew how to connect.

The good news ,its not too late.The conversation about his Navy life was a beginning.
I hope you have more talks in the future.Sometimes all you have to do is plant the seed.

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Originally Posted by artlady

Not sappy at all Sun! I think when tragedy strikes a family,you can go two ways,stick together and hurt together or put up protective walls to try to stop the pain.

It sounds like everyone was in their own personal hell and no one knew how to connect.

The good news ,its not too late.The conversation about his Navy life was a beginning.
I hope you have more talks in the future.Sometimes all you have to do is plant the seed.

Thanks artlady.
That's true for sure. I do agree.

So on a lighter note... how about those Mets? Lol

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

So on a lighter note...how about those Mets? lol

I'm a die hard Yankee fan :) Its almost like a family law that you be one ;)

I'm Canadian. Mets? Yankees? Bah! ;)

I don't even watch it. I just like to say that to change the topic.
I prefer football actually. Love the hype with the super bowl and the Monday night wings and drafts and all the good stuff.

I am Canadian. Hockey Rules big time. How about the those Leafs, eh ?

Tick

Hehe. Cubs/bears :D all the way :D

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Originally Posted by tickle

I am Canadian. Hockey Rules big time. How about the those Leafs, eh ?

tick

The leafs look like there making lots of good changes. Maybe I will actually watch them this year. Many good changes. Happy that Burke is around. Doing what he said he was going to do.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

She just shook her head, told him he was a child. His response, a blast with the hose.

Made me chuckle!

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Sorry I am getting sappy.

Not a problem. :):)

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Originally Posted by ordinaryguy

Made me chuckle!!

You should have been there. I almost peed my pants I laughed so hard. Actually, I may have peed my pants. :p :o

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

hehe. cubs/bears :D all the way :D

Hello! SOX :D

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

so on a lighter note...how about those mets? Lol

Mets?? :d

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

I dont even watch it. I just like to say that to change the topic.
I prefer football actually. Love the hype with the super bowl and the monday night wings and drafts and all the good stuff.

My kind of gal... :):):)

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

hehe. cubs/bears :D all the way :D

:eek::eek::eek: Hate the Cubs... love the Bears... Didn't know that you were a fan Jennie.