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  • Jan 20, 2010, 04:12 PM
    Alty

    You are a far more patient person then I am Blacky.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 04:42 PM
    BlackVY

    Ha! Thanks for that...
  • Jan 20, 2010, 04:56 PM
    Alty

    So how is married life treating you Blacky?
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:08 PM
    BlackVY

    Hmmm... ummm... its interesting... has its ups and downs...
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:23 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Hmmm... ummm... its interesting... has its ups and downs...

    And ins and outs? ;)

    Oops... wrong thread! :eek:
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:25 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    And ins and outs? ;)

    Oops....wrong thread! :eek:

    Haha... yes... wrong thread... but your statement is quite accurate... :cool:
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:27 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Hmmm... ummm... its interesting... has its ups and downs...

    Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:29 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:

    LOL! So very true Cat. :)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:30 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Haha... yes... wrong thread... but your statement is quite accurate... :cool:

    Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

    I miss those days.

    Sigh.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:32 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:

    Very true... just got to enjoy the ups, and deal with the downs...
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:33 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

    I miss those days.

    Sigh.

    Haha yes, that is quite enjoyable... the freedom and privacy... that's something neither of us really had before, so its nice... :)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:39 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

    I miss those days.

    Sigh.

    Our son is five weeks older than our marriage. What married life without kids? :(

    Okay, so there was one good thing about my MIL. She would take the kids for days at time. :)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:48 PM
    Alty

    We waited until 3 years of marriage before we decided to try for a child. It was nice having the house to ourselves.

    Rod and I didn't live together before we married. We decided to save our money, stay with our parents so we could have a decent down payment for a house when we married.

    It wasn't that new, other then having to learn to share the bed and dealing with his snoring. Neither one of us were virgins so that part of marriage wasn't a shock, but sharing a space with someone 24/7, it was a learning experience and it was often tough. It didn't help that we rented his sisters house for the first year. Long story there, she had some of our money, she had bought another house, the real estate market dropped and she didn't want to sell for less then she paid. We couldn't get our money until she sold so we rented the house from her.

    After a year, the house still on the market, constantly having to find places to go on the weekend when she had an open house. No being allowed to have our dog (Indy) because she didn't want a pet in the house. It wore on us. We ended up getting the house we live in now with an open mortgage so that we could pay the money she owed us without a penalty.

    It was a tough year in many ways.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 05:59 PM
    BlackVY

    Wow... I guess not every marriage is a fairytale...
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:02 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Wow... I guess not every marriage is a fairytale...

    Depends on how realistic you are about fairytales. ;)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:05 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    Depends on how realistic you are about fairytales. ;)

    Hmmm... so when does the "Happily ever after" happen?
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:08 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Wow... I guess not every marriage is a fairytale...

    Blacky, if you wanted a fairytale you should have gone to the video store.

    There are going to be hard times. There are going to be times when you think about leaving or want to scream. There are going to be times when you actually hate the person you swore to love.

    It's natural. You're two different people, you're not going to agree on everything and there are going to be times when you fight.

    The secret is to listen. To talk to each other. To remember why you married to begin with and to never forget the love you have for eacthother.

    There are things about Rod that annoy the ever loving hell out of me. There are times when I just want to smack him. I know he feels the same way. The thing is, we talk it out. We are partners in this. We are committed to making it work, so it does.

    We're lifers. I vowed to stay with him until death do us part and I plan to keep that vow, even if I have to kill him. ;)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:09 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Hmmm... so when does the "Happily ever after" happen?

    When you realize that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. :)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:21 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    When you realize that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. :)

    Yep :)
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:22 PM
    BlackVY

    Hmmm I understand Alty... Till death do you part... somehow that part of the vow is not very evident these days...

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