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  • Oct 8, 2007, 10:43 PM
    br_hjs
    That's why no one understands. And I just wish that someone did
  • Oct 8, 2007, 10:50 PM
    Clough
    Is your question the one on the following link? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ir-138660.html
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:01 PM
    br_hjs
    What about what I said? No one cares about it
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:04 PM
    Wondergirl
    Yes they do. People have been trying to answer you since you first come to this site. You refuse to accept their explanations and reasonings.
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:09 PM
    br_hjs
    What's the truth? It doesn't make sense at all... I fyou can see from my point of view, you would see that he doesn't, he doesn't have to, he says he doesn't, and I really feel he doesn't, and I would believe him if it wasn't for everyone else being so different. So does he or not? Is it possible that he IS telling the truth, when he says he doesn't find others attractive?
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:12 PM
    br_hjs
    I want to hear the truth from him but I don't want to keep asking him and he won't really answer. He said he called this weekend but I didn't answer. I know that's a lie because I was home all weekend, had my phone with me, and checked the collar id.
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:15 PM
    Wondergirl
    You HAVE heard the truth from him. STOP ASKING HIM.

    "caller ID" A collar is on a blouse or shirt.
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:16 PM
    Clough
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by br_hjs
    what about what i said? No one cares about it

    Yes, we do care about what you say! If we didn't, we wouldn't have spent the amount of time that we have on you!
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:18 PM
    Clough
    How exactly is your boyfriend treating you now, please?
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:19 PM
    Clough
    Let's put your feelings aside for just a little bit. What are his actions towards you in the last few days, please?
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:19 PM
    br_hjs
    I'm just going to go on myself and not have strangers tell me what to think.I will think what I want and decide myself if it the truth or not because this isn't workning at all, no one understands... does that necessarily make me wrong?? I guess that's what I really want to know but not exactly in those words. But I'm going blind from crying and looking at the computer screen, so many hours a day and still not getting any where. So I'll keep asking him until he answers and I'll just have to believe what he says. Even if it is a lie, I'll just think its not
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:20 PM
    Clough
    Actions do speak louder than words, you know? A person can say anything they want. But, what they DO with how they ACT is what really matters.
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:27 PM
    br_hjs
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Clough
    Let's put your feelings aside for just a little bit. What are his actions towards you in the last few days, please?

    I don't know. I don't get to talk to him much at all to even know. I can tell you almost everything we said to each other today if that helps:

    Me: Here's your history homework
    Him: o thanks
    Me: why didn't you call this weekend?
    Him : I did and you didn't answer
    Me: That sounds like a like since I have caller id and know if you wouldve called
    Him: isn't that what I always say, 'that sounds like a lie,' or I used to anyway. Go ahead say something
    Me: what
    Him: that sounds like a lie
    Me: Well, if you called what day was it?
    Him: I don't remember. Why can't you call me?
    Me: because of your mom.
    Him: o yeah that's right
    Me: well, what would she do if I called?
    Him: I don't know. That would be pretty funny though
    Me: Well, can you call me today?
    Him: I'll try, but I don't know if I can

    And that's pretty much it.
    O and I asked him to answer that question and he said "what question?"
    And he said he couldn't remember but I didn't want to ask him again.
    He didn't call today but he probably couldn't.
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:28 PM
    br_hjs
    Can't you just give me a yes or no? Why can't you? Why couldn't he?
    Just what you think yes or no. doesn't mean its true
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:34 PM
    br_hjs
    I wish he was this way all the time
    This is probably the best e-mail I've ever gotten from him:

    Hello Michelle. I have been busy these past couple days and haven't got the chance to reply. There is so much to talk about and do, yet no way to do it. I suppose we will just have to wait until we are older. I miss you terribly, but don't mind the wait. It gives me plenty of time to relax and enjoy my youth. How have things been at your house? Has anyone mentioned me lately or have they forgotten all about me? I really must be going, its early in the morning and I need to sleep.
    Yours forever,
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:45 PM
    grammadidi
    Go to bed, Michelle. You are making too many demands upon your mind and body and it is rendering you useless. You can't think straight when you act this way. You are pushing this boy away, and you need to think more before you act or react. You are like a nagging wife with this guy and soon you will give him no choice but to move on. THAT is why you feel him distancing himself. You are too high maintenance. Men like women who are cheerful, fun, funny, smart, caring and independent.

    Go to bed and start over in the morning.

    Hugs, Didi
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:50 PM
    br_hjs
    That still doesn't answer my question. Hurry I'm going blind and I have to type with my eys closed and it hurts to look at the screen
  • Oct 8, 2007, 11:55 PM
    Clough
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by grammadidi
    Go to bed, Michelle. You are making too many demands upon your mind and body and it is rendering you useless. You can't think straight when you act this way. You are pushing this boy away, and you need to think more before you act or react. You are like a nagging wife with this guy and soon you will give him no choice but to move on. THAT is why you feel him distancing himself. You are too high maintenance. Men like women who are cheerful, fun, funny, smart, caring and independent.

    Go to bed and start over in the morning.

    Hugs, Didi

    You are so correct!
  • Oct 9, 2007, 12:02 AM
    br_hjs
    I'll come back in a week and see what responses I have from all of you, I will think myself about it, talk to him about it, and maybe if I can do it even talk with my brother about it since he keeps asking me what's wrong... he notices something's wrong before I even notice it. Anyway, from that I will decide what I think the truth is... I do know that I've told him a long time ago that everyone else would think he would find others attractive and he said "well, theyre all wrong"... that's not exactly what was said I don't thinkbut pretty close
  • Oct 9, 2007, 12:02 AM
    br_hjs
    I'll come back in a week and see what responses I have from all of you, I will think myself about it, talk to him about it, and maybe if I can do it even talk with my brother about it since he keeps asking me what's wrong... he notices something's wrong before I even notice it. Anyway, from that I will decide what I think the truth is... I do know that I've told him a long time ago that everyone else would think he would find others attractive and he said "well, theyre all wrong"... that's not exactly what was said I don't thinkbut pretty close

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