Ask Me Help Desk - Our poor Starby

I know that she is my better off now, but I have to admit that the pain I am feeling is selfish and about me at the moment and I am feeling guilt about that part.

Everyone knows that I considered the Duck a good friend and I felt very close to her. We were close but not quite what you (Alty) and her had together. We spoke on the phone many times about a range of subjects including being 'The Duck.'

She was, in my opinion a strong willed person and it took a lot for her to change her mind on any subject. But she was not inconsiderate, rude or uncaring. Though she joked about becoming an 'expert' she was very proud of it and she finally admitted that to me. She was having problems in her life at times like most of us do but she was always there for those who needed her, and sometimes she would get in peoples' faces to try to help them. If you were Jo's friend and you needed help, she was there for you... always.

She was a friend to many here, this was a big part of her life. AMHD desk impacted on her and she impacted on us.

I'm glad that she still had that 'one feather' left. Although I truly doubt her claim that she could still fly and 'dump' on us if we messed with her.

She was the one who designated me as the 'Sheriff' over a year ago now.

I feel love for Starby. You have earned your peace dear.

Stringer

I got the message on Facebook, too. I will miss you, dear Jo. And will never forget.

I posted the wrong link.. sorry Jo

This is for you

YouTube - Ryan Cabrera - I Will Remember You (With lyrics)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I just told Jared, his words "She's in heaven now, right? She'll be able to do all the things she couldn't. You should be happy for her mommy".

He's right.

Our children see things so much more clear that we do... sometimes its hard for us, with everything we go through as adults, to simply accept that 'its better this way' and that saying always gives me a chill... it sounds terribly selfish... but better for who? You know? 'better' would be her NOT in pain, and with her family and happy and healthy...

I hope that all came out right...

I told ayla and she said 'thats sad moma, but she gets to be with baby jesus, so its not a lot sad'

It made me cry. I had to go into the bathroom so she wouldn't think she said something wrong you know?

Very well said Stringer.

Beautiful song Cats, have it playing now.

I'm torn apart with those feelings jennie. Somewhere, I'm really sad that Jo is no more with us, and won't ever be, but somewhere, I'm happy for her... and it's horrible!

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Originally Posted by Unknown008

I'm torn apart with those feelings jennie. Somewhere, I'm really sad that Jo is no more with us, and won't ever be, but somewhere, I'm happy for her... and it's horrible!

Bittersweet.

My sincere condolences, all...

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.

Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

I agree jerry. It's a terrible feeling. Part of me (and I'm ashamed to admit this) is upset and selfish that I never got to meet her, never got to say hi. And then I bring myself up short and realise how truly selfish it is of me to think like that... I will meet her one day.

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Originally Posted by ArcSine

My sincere condolences, all....

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.

Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

Very well said hon...

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Originally Posted by ArcSine

My sincere condolences, all....

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.

Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

Thank you, that is beautiful.

It really is, not to repeat Stringer but thank you.

ArcSine,

That was a very beautiful post. Thank you so much.

IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

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Originally Posted by MsMewiththat

IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

Beautiful poem.

Thank you. :)

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

-Unknown

I have no poem, but I do have a laugh:)

Starby gave me my first PM, after I advised her on how to get her Pup to stop stealing food out of the fridge and stealing money from her purse.:eek:

If I do say so myself, I gave her some pretty good advise only to find out from a PM that she was trying to mess with Alty since it was April 1st (April fools day) So, I was the fool and couldn't post back, for fear that I would ruin the joke.

On a plus side for me, many others posted with great ideas.:D

All that has been written has been beautiful and she will be dearly missed by so many and she knows that. As what was posted earlier, she's just in the next room. USE her name, talk freely about her, enjoy her life that we knew (some more than others) and embrace the Starby that changed our lives.

Dear Jo,

Oh, I knew this was coming. Does not make it any easier. You will be missed. Love you Jo, and now enjoy your eternal peace forever. We will never forget.

RIP Jo (starby the Duck)

Finally I'm lost for words .

I'm going to miss her , and even though we've all expected it for a while it doesn't suppress the sadness that hits when it's final :(

And Thank you Alty for all the updates and the strength you've shown through all this , you my girl are a true friend!

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Originally Posted by Just Dahlia

I have no poem, but I do have a laugh:)

Starby gave me my first PM, after I advised her on how to get her Pup to stop stealing food out of the fridge and stealing money from her purse.:eek:

If I do say so myself, I gave her some pretty good advise only to find out from a PM that she was trying to mess with Alty since it was April 1st (April fools day) So, I was the fool and couldn't post back, for fear that I would ruin the joke.

on a plus side for me, many others posted with great ideas.:D

All that has been written has been beautiful and she will be dearly missed by so many and she knows that. As what was posted earlier, she's just in the next room. USE her name, talk freely about her, enjoy her life that we knew (some more than others) and embrace the Starby that changed our lives.

Oh, how this made me smile through my tears! Priceless and looking back, again, I remember Jo's big heart.

Thank you for posting this. I had forgotten!

I'm so sorry, Alty...

Rest in peace, Jo.

I have been following this post from the beginning but felt that it wasn't my place to post since I had never had any contact with Starby. I must tell you all though that Starby
Was extremely lucky to have connected with such a wonderful, fun loving and caring group as those she met here on AMHD.

I am sure she felt all the good vibes and love from you over these past weeks and will always be there looking down on every one of you and I'm sure she will make her presence known when she feels the need.

You have all been wonderful support to each other and especially to Alty! There definitely IS such a thing as virtual friendship and it definitely runs true and deep with the group in AMHD.

My thoughts and prayers go to all of you at this difficult time.

Karen

Alty, Stringer and everyone who knew Jo I am so sorry for your loss. My heart sank when I read the news and instantly thought of you all and her family. Your all in my thoughts.

Thanks Sunny. :)

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Alty, Stringer and everyone who knew Jo I am so sorry for your loss. My heart sank when I read the news and instantly thought of you all and her family. Your all in my thoughts.

Thank you, she was special.

Yes, alty, I agree with JKT, no words just thoughts and I will share them some other time.

A sad tick today

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Originally Posted by tickle

yes, alty, I agree with JKT, no words just thoughts and I will share them some other time.

a sad tick today

It's often hard to express what we feel, especially through the written word.

Tick, we all know what's in your heart, no words necessary. :)

*Hugs tick* :)

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Originally Posted by Unknown008

*Hugs tick* :)

Thanks, Unk, that really helps a sad tick , right back at you !

I am so happy to know she is at peace.
Hug to you all, she was a wonderful lady and she WILL be a perfect angel!

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Originally Posted by startover22

I am so happy to know she is at peace.
Hug to you all, she was a wonderful lady and she WILL be a perfect angel!

I agree Starty.

Perhaps she'll even monitor AMHD once she gets her wings. :)

I'm ringing bells dear, so she gets them sooner.

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

So good to see you back rebbie , we miss you!

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Originally Posted by jrebel7

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

Rebbie, I'm so glad you came.

Love you so much lady.

As for the accent, I can't do it justice, but Jo made me giggle until I cried when she did her version of you. :)

That giggle, that voice, I still have her last message on my answering machine, just can't seem to delete it.

Hugs my dear Rebbie. She's at peace now, she's at peace.

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

So good to see you back rebbie , we miss you !!

Thank you Angel! You surely are one of my most special Guardian Angels. I treasure your friendship.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Rebbie, I'm so glad you came.

Love you so much lady.

As for the accent, I can't do it justice, but Jo made me giggle til I cried when she did her version of you. :)

That giggle, that voice, I still have her last message on my answering machine, just can't seem to delete it.

Hugs my dear Rebbie. She's at peace now, she's at peace.

I miss her so much Alty! My heart feels like it is in a million pieces. I'm sure the "Duckster" would be about picking up all the pieces of our hearts and mixing them all up so we would all have a piece of each others hearts in our own to keep with us forever, including hers.

I love you much also. Love and Hugs!

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Originally Posted by jrebel7

I miss her so much Alty! My heart feels like it is in a million pieces. I'm sure the "Duckster" would be about picking up all the pieces of our hearts and mixing them all up so we would all have a piece of each others hearts in our own to keep with us forever, including hers.

I love you much also. Love and Hugs!

I miss her too Rebbie, but she wouldn't want us to break apart, she'd want us to stay strong, to remember her with a smile, because that's who she was.

So chin up, for our Ducky. Put a smile on your face, remember her and all she meant to us, keep her memory alive.

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Originally Posted by jrebel7

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

Welcome back my friend.

Hey Rebbie, it's been quite so time :)

Thanks for the kind words :)

Stringer and Unky! So good to see you and read your words. Miss you both.