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Originally Posted by shatteredsoul

The funny thing is, she talked crap about me the whole night to my friends when we were out for my birthday. They told me what she said but I didn't say anything to her. Just continued to be loving. Although it makes me wonder why I still am friends with her. I think she has gotten worse in the last couple years..

What do you guys think I should do about that??? She has called several times since she left and I do not answer my cell phone. I just don't have anything nice to say, so I am not saying anything right now.

It's hard to know what to do with a friend like that. I discovered a long time ago that the collection of "friends" that we gather as we go through life is not necessarily made up of only people that we like or respect. Some people seem to remain our friends in spite of themselves, and in spite of what we might prefer. I guess I've come to regard such people as "anti-gurus", i.e. people who demonstrate for us the fruits of foolish behavior and attitudes so that we can avoid them in ourselves. For that we should thank them. On the other hand, I don't think we're obligated to subject ourselves to their foolishness unnecessarily or indefinitely. Not answering your phone when you don't feel like talking to her is fine, as is Start's idea about calling her on some of her more outrageous behavior. But only if you can do it calmly and without anger, so as not to give it energy and perpetuate it.

Yes, calmly and don't let it turn ugly, close the conversation with I have to go now attitude and all will work out or not. I have noticed that I have friends, and then I have FRIENDS!! I love them all but chose not to be close with some.
Sara, she is testing you and you have to be stern. How old is she again..
Cowboy, you have a wonderful smile and a way about you that is a loving calm to me. Thank you for that. I bet when you frown you still look happy!

6 months old stαrt 6 MONTHS old :(

Sara, what did Canada do to get banned? I didn't know that could happen. I better watch out! LOL
As for Shayla, she is probably getting ready to master a new skill or something. Is she teething? Also, she probably sense the turmoil with moving and the stress you are feeling. This is her way of acting that out. Be patient. Tell her no when she kicks, bites or pulls hair, put her in time out or her room for a minute. After that, do not give her any attention for bad behavior and redirect her attention to something else, a specific activity or something. When she focus on that, give her love and attention. IT may work, it may not. Just thought I would throw a tip out there.
Not so Ordinary Cowboy, yes, you have a valid point. I am not sure why I continue to keep friendships with people like that. It is almost idiotic. I don't know if I can explain myself and stay calm when she lashes back. That is the hard part for me. I am disappointed and.. what then what? It is so much easier to give other people advice!!

Ok, when she does these things, you need to lay her down and let her be. OR distract her from that behavior... no more duct tape sweet... LOL Take her to a different area and give her something different to do. Sometime kids get bored of the same thing, mix it up and give her lot's of kisses. I know it is hard and tiring, it is worth it in the long run. Just wait that baby of yours is going to hold your hand and tell you she loves you soon enough.

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Originally Posted by shatteredsoul

Sara, what did Canada do to get banned?? I didn't know that could happen. I better watch out!! LOL
As for Shayla, she is probably getting ready to master a new skill or something. Is she teething?? Also, she probably sense the turmoil with moving and the stress you are feeling. This is her way of acting that out. Be patient. Tell her no when she kicks, bites or pulls hair, put her in time out or her room for a minute. After that, do not give her any attention for bad behavior and redirect her attention to something else, a specific activity or something. When she focus on that, give her love and attention. IT may work, it may not. Just thought I would throw a tip out there.
Not so Ordinary Cowboy, yes, you have a valid point. I am not sure why I continue to keep friendships with people like that. It is almost idiotic. I don't know if I can explain myself and stay calm when she lashes back. That is the hard part for me. I am disappointed and.. what then what?? It is so much easier to give other people advice!!!!!

Crazy how we say the same things my sweet.

Like I said when she lashes out, you tell her good bye... Love you Shattered.

Yes it is crazy, that is why we are FRIENDS and not just friends, right? I hope so. OK, Start. Love you too.

Yes right, no need to question, wouldn't hurt you in anyway you should know it by now!
No need for questions... OK?
There is something about the people on here, they feel free to say and do everything under the sun. I get the feeling like if we were all face to face we would be put to the test... If it would be the quietest party ever or is it would just flow like here. I can't help but feeling that some of us would rather run to our computers.
I have always tried to be out spoken and honest... in all the threads, I don't pretend and what I say is what it is. Right now I am not even sure why I am saying this but an impact all of you and others on different thread you have made. For the better I am growing strong. Thanks

αwww love!!

Well she is teething so mαybe thαts why she's being α little grimlin :(

4 dαys till my bdαy dudettes--- jeeze will you guys be my nαnnies :p

Yes!

Ooo k it's α no-wαge job αnd plenty of hours... rules/regulαtions:
-you cαn dress how you like except hoe clothes :p
-cαn't sleep with my husbαnd
-cαn't sleep with me [ k well mαybe--shhhh... ]
-you hαve to cook whαt I like when I like αnd how I like

GREAT JOB EH?

You are too funny. Sara, you are taking a hold on my heart.
Am I sappy today or what? What is my prob?
I don't care if you pay, I just like to eat... be sure to add captain crunch to the grocery list and I am there. I promise I won't dress bad, just don't laugh when I come out with my shorts and long socks on!

α hold? I thought I αlreαdy got it-- psshtt

Shorts αnd knee socks! Thαt is too provocαtive!!

Your not sαppy your HAPPY-- it's αll becαuse you know you hαve α shot with.. yours truly--moi.. hαhα wow I'm gαyyy

Oh new rule we eαt whαt you don't like it's α no fun zone -- I don't wαnt smiles becαuse they're the devil's flirting techniques!!

OK Sara, Start and I will split the shifts, but after work its all Play!! UMMM, long socks with shorts? Do they have stripes on them? LOL I like the short shorts OK?? JK anyway, I am good at eating, at cooking I can order out very well!!

Now, do I have a shot toooooo?? LOL

I have a tip, but I don't know if it's a redneck one, although I am in South Florida with all the gators!! I have caught one by hand, but it was a baby one on a airboat night ride with some friends. Yahooooo!!
ANd the tip is... DON'T EAT YELLOW SNOW!!

OK no more questioning Start, now send me back the number and I will be happy!!

You are sappy and happy and I like that!! I am sweet and sour, what are you SARA? OTher than nutty and wild!!

Hot αnd horny? -- hαhα!! Just kidding!!

K well shαttered I told you no hoe clothes-- your lαid off until further notice-- I wαs thinking more like: http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/k/ke/keren_r...ndia-woman.jpg

Except running shoes αnd trαck pαnts- I don't wαnt you showing your sexy legs now.. do not tempt the husbαnd!! Lol----αnd it'd like if you'd weαr α long sleeved shirt too :D

Ps your tip! hαhα IT DOESN'T SNOW IN FLORIDA! hαhα!! You could sαy don't step on the YELLOW GRASS BECAUSE IT HURTS WHEN YOU WALK ON FLORIDA LAWNNN!! So hαrd

NO need to worry girl, not even in my wildest drunken stupor will I sleep with anyone's husband!! Oh yeah, I like that outfit, except it shows a little too much feet, LOL LOL.
I wouldn't even dream of tempting your husband, but you, well, maybe.
SSHHH don't tell him though!! LOL

hαhα not funny -- hαhα

No I'm teαsin' I trust him-- lol I wαs thinking the whole jude lαw αnd the nαnny fiαsco

Yeah well Jude Law is an idiot, who the hell cheats on SIENNA MILLER, what a dumb a$$@!
Oh, look at Halle Berry and her exhusband. He was like a sex addict or something and slept with tons of people when he was married to her. He is such a moron. She is like one of the most beautiful people in the world! Why is it that when men cheat on beautiful women, it is usually with those who are less attractive or appealing than their own wives? I guess beauty is not the reason men are faithful! You are a young beauty SARA and your daughter is an absolute gem. YOur husband is very blessed to have you both!!

I know it isn't always the men you can't trust, its some of the backstabbing women who want your man that we worry about!!

Do you agree?

αgree with the kniving b!tches out there!! GOD I HATE HOMEWRECKKERS

However α mαn cαn sαy no

Can And Should!!

Yes yes yes speαking of kniving b!tches here's one:Hottest Videos -- Week of 07/29 - TMZ.com

fαith hill yelling αt α fαn

Sara - My little guy is 10 months old and he has been sleeping like me the last couple of weeks. Waking up frequently not sleeping good. Oh, the changes, maybe it is because he has 8 teeth already. Maybe more are coming in, who knows?? You may live in Florida, but you will always have canada in you. Lol

Shattered - I will write more later, and hopefully everything gets resolved with your friend.

Canada - Wonder what happened?

Sara - You have people bothering, I know you took care of it.

I know I have not had much presence here, I have been busy running around playing with the little one, and spending quality time with both my little guy and wife.

αwwwwwwwww jesus spending quαlity time with the fαm. I love husbαnds thαt do thαt :) αww...

αnd oh yeα I got thαt little twit tαken cαre if [teheeeheee]

But me lαddiess αnd gents I gtg αnd be mommy now since shαylα is αwαke αnd reαdy to pester me:p

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Originally Posted by startover22

Yes right, no need to question, wouldn't hurt you in anyway you should know it by now!!
No need for questions....OK?
There is something about the people on here, they feel free to say and do everything under the sun. I get the feeling like if we were all face to face we would be put to the test....If it would be the quietest party ever or is it would just flow like here. I can't help but feeling that some of us would rather run to our computers.
I have always tried to be out spoken and honest.....in all the threads, i don't pretend and what I say is what it is. Right now I am not even sure why I am saying this but an impact all of you and others on different thread you have made. For the better I am growing strong. Thanks

I personally feel that it would flow. I say what is in my thoughts and heart and that is exactly what and how I want it to come out on here. My true being. I honestly do not think it would be the quietest party ever. Especially with so many kids running around and everybody else talking about everyday life. I do believe when you form friends here, it is special and important.

I just hope that we all make a big difference in somebodies life on here. Whether it be friends we have found, or people on other threads that needed help and somebody to lean on.

I had to comment start. Anyway, hope the baby is finally resting considering he has been up since 3 am. Had a hour rest at 8 am. Well I am here for more then a second lol. Hee Hee.

Joe

Ooo I'll be αble to sneαk in αnd out to come to ASMH:D

Shαylα is plαying with her excersαucer :)

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

I personally feel that it would flow. I say what is in my thoughts and heart and that is exactly what and how I want it to come out on here. My true being. I honestly do not think it would be the quietest party ever. Especially with so many kids running around and everybody else talking about everyday life. I do believe when you form friends here, it is special and important.

I just hope that we all make a big difference in somebodies life on here. Whether it be friends we have found, or people on other threads that needed help and somebody to lean on.

I had to comment start. Anyway, hope the baby is finally resting considering he has been up since 3 am. Had a hour rest at 8 am. Well I am here for more then a second lol. Hee Hee.

Joe

Thanks Joe, and hey Joshua is taking on his Fathers tendencies... Sleeping less, playing more...
My friend Allison left and my whole emotional breakdown is stemming from that. I love her and know I won't see her for a long while. I will miss her. My mother left yesterday and I will miss her too. Trying to get her to move to the country with all the other Rednecks in this place... She is the sweetest, most easy going creature on this planet and that my friends is SOMETHING!
Sara, are you cheating time my sweet? And yes it was long ago when we both just started on this site you had the hold on me... remember?

How come I can't rate people here?

Yes, I guess Joshua is taking after me. Proud does not like that because she is the opposite. Needs double of the amount of sleep then I do. Your friend is very special to you. You both always keep in touch with each other, right? You have lots of people who love you and we all know where you get your sweetness from. Your mom. I know your going to be fine, start. You're a strong person.

Well I am finally going to get out, and go for that walk and proud can get her needed rest.

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Originally Posted by nicespringgirl

how come I can't rate ppl here??

Member Discussions. There is no rating in member discussion threads.

We are all friends here nicegirl, so we know you love us either way sweetie pie! And we love you...

:):):) yes I remember the dαy we first met ::sigh:: brings α droplette to my eye :)

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Originally Posted by saraispiel19

:):):) yes i remember the dαy we first met ::sigh:: brings α droplette to my eye :)

You are such a poop. I am going to for clean my bathroom! Be back in a bit!

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

Member Discussions. There is no rating in member discussion threads.

But I saw your giving reputation to startover22 and NS on the first page, I want to give you some reputation on something you and some others said, but I can't.:(

Spring: go to one of his posts on α different threαd then- lol silly girl:p

Don't cry sweety, we all just started talking and it was moved to a different thread. If you want to say it on the post that is fine too! We all read what is said and you can use you little quoter button. I know I know the toilet is calling for meeeeee

I TOLD YOU NOT TO EAT THOSE BURRITOS AND TACITOS!!

Lol see you lαter stαrt :)

I'll be singing "endless love" while your gone :(

Cleaning the toilet was fun, now I will sweeppppppp... Sara, don't be yucky

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Originally Posted by shatteredsoul

what did Canada do to get banned??

Canada continued to post in the Adult Sexuality board, she is a minor. She was warned several times not to post there, yet she continued.

She was offered a warning, but her PMs were either turned off or her box was full. She is banned for one week, when she comes back, if she posts in Adult Sexuality she will be permanently banned.

Now would anyone like to ask me anything further on the subject...

That is too bad, she was very nice. She shouldn't be posting there as a minor. Hopefully she doesn't and can come on and be where she belongs.