Ask Me Help Desk - Our poor Starby

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

very true tick, some people grow up and never do those things again... It's sad.
It makes you feel free and alive, like jumping into the cold ocean and just being thankful that it is there and that you can feel the cold water around you.

Very nicely said

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No updates for a while, sorry all.

Her Aunt is getting ready to move and also just got over a bad bought of the flu, so I'm not surprised I haven't heard much.

Rebbie talks to Sally when she can (Sally is Jo's best friend) and Sally talks to Jo about us all the time, tells her how much we love her and miss her, so yes, she knows we're thinking about her and praying for her.

No news is good news. Right? :)

That's what we are hoping for!

I'm glad she is getting our messages and knows we are thinking of her.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

No updates for a while, sorry all.

Her Aunt is getting ready to move and also just got over a bad bought of the flu, so I'm not surprised I haven't heard much.

Rebbie talks to Sally when she can (Sally is Jo's best friend) and Sally talks to Jo about us all the time, tells her how much we love her and miss her, so yes, she knows we're thinking about her and praying for her.

No news is good news. Right? :)

Thank you hon! I agree,no news is good news.I am glad to hear she knows we are all very concerned and praying for her.If positive energy is healing I think we are on the right tract.

I agree Arty. Starby seems to be getting better. I'm aware that the docs are still skeptic, but the hope is still there, ready to be caught.

Well, and I always think time can change a lot of things and certainly far more time has passed than anyone ever expected.

Prayers continue, of course, and maybe, just maybe the answer will be "yes."

I agree no news is good news. Thanks for keeping us updated alty *hugs* I am so saddend by this and I didn't even know her, I can't imagine what this is doing to you and to all the other people on this board who came to know and love her.

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Originally Posted by artlady

I love the rain and I will walk in it whenever I can! I haven't danced in it lately and it isn't crazy at all Tickle,its freeing :)

I am the same way! Especially when I have my son with me and we see puddles. We hold hands and run and jump as high and as hard as we can. To me, those are memories for him. Memories he might carry down to his kids.

Ah, and for the dancing in the rain clip, it was really nice. This site, Stringer, is full of good clips I see! All so wonderful!

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i agree no news is good news. thanks for keeping us updated alty *hugs* i am so saddend by this and i didnt even know her, i can't imagine what this is doing to you and to all the other people on this board who came to know and love her.

I agree jennie.
I came in here and not long after all this happened. I may have talked to her but I was so new that I don't remember. My loss I am sure. With any luck we will have the chance to meet.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

I am the same way! Especially when I have my son with me and we see puddles. We hold hands and run and jump as high and as hard as we can. To me, those are memories for him. Memories he might carry down to his kids.

Those are the memories that last a life time. The little times you decide not to be the adult, but let your inner child come out.

I think that as adults, we often spend too much time being serious, running our households, raising our kids, we forget what it is to have a bit of fun, to let our guard down.

My fondest memories of my parents are the times they surprised me and just had fun. The time my parents were going out to dinner. My dad was all dressed up and ready to go, outside waiting on my mom. My friend and I were having a water fight. I sprayed my dad accidentally, expected him to get angry. Instead, he turned on the hose and we had a full on water fight. He was soaked. My mom came out, all dressed up, took one look at my dad, didn't know whether to laugh or cry. She just shook her head, told him he was a child. His response, a blast with the hose. We all ended up soaked and instead of going out that night we stayed in, ordered pizza and my friend got to sleep over.

It's my fondest memory to this day.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

I agree jennie.
I came in here and not long after all this happened. I may have talked to her but I was so new that I dont remember. My loss I am sure. With any luck we will have the chance to meet.

I hope you get the chance to talk to her. She is a very special lady.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Those are the memories that last a life time. The little times you decide not to be the adult, but let your inner child come out.

I think that as adults, we often spend too much time being serious, running our households, raising our kids, we forget what it is to have a bit of fun, to let our guard down.

My fondest memories of my parents are the times they surprised me and just had fun. The time my parents were going out to dinner. My dad was all dressed up and ready to go, outside waiting on my mom. My friend and I were having a water fight. I sprayed my dad accidentally, expected him to get angry. Instead, he turned on the hose and we had a full on water fight. He was soaked. My mom came out, all dressed up, took one look at my dad, didn't know whether to laugh or cry. She just shook her head, told him he was a child. His response, a blast with the hose. We all ended up soaked and instead of going out that night we stayed in, ordered pizza and my friend got to sleep over.

It's my fondest memory to this day.

Eww! That's sure something that one won't ever forget Alty! :)

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

I hope you get the chance to talk to her. She is a very special lady.

That she is.

She has a heart of gold, a quick wit, and two feathers on her back. Wait... what? ;)

She's a very good friend. I'm honored to know her.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Those are the memories that last a life time. The little times you decide not to be the adult, but let your inner child come out.

I think that as adults, we often spend too much time being serious, running our households, raising our kids, we forget what it is to have a bit of fun, to let our guard down.

My fondest memories of my parents are the times they surprised me and just had fun. The time my parents were going out to dinner. My dad was all dressed up and ready to go, outside waiting on my mom. My friend and I were having a water fight. I sprayed my dad accidentally, expected him to get angry. Instead, he turned on the hose and we had a full on water fight. He was soaked. My mom came out, all dressed up, took one look at my dad, didn't know whether to laugh or cry. She just shook her head, told him he was a child. His response, a blast with the hose. We all ended up soaked and instead of going out that night we stayed in, ordered pizza and my friend got to sleep over.

It's my fondest memory to this day.

For some reason that made me almost tear up. I had it all pictured out in my head. My parents were not like that at all. I was the last of 6 children and my mom was sick of raising us. I was a huge bother to her and for the most part just grew up alone. She went out a lot on my dad and those were my memories. Which is why in return I do as you just said. At random times I just let go and my son loves it. I hate what the world is today and what its going to be when he is an adult. I am trying my hardest to keep his little heart young.

Sorry I am getting sappy.

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Originally Posted by Unknown008

Eww! That's sure something that one won't ever forget Alty! :)

Haha, indeed, great story!

You really need to get to work on that biography Alty.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

For some reason that made me almost tear up. I had it all pictured out in my head. My parents were not like that at all. I was the last of 6 children and my mom was sick of raising us. I was a huge bother to her and for the most part just grew up alone. She went out alot on my dad and those were my memories. Which is why in return I do as you just said. At random times I just let go and my son loves it. I hate what the world is today and what its going to be when he is an adult. I am trying my hardest to keep his little heart young.

I have to say, I had the best parents in the world. I'm an only child, a result of 8 years of trying, surgeries, disappointment, finally I came along and my parents were thrilled.

We were very close. After I married and left home we still had dinner together every Sunday, saw each other a few times a week, went on holidays together. They had an amazing relationship with Jared, his loss hurts me more then my own.

My father was a major family man. We meant the world to him, we were the motivation for everything he did. When Jared came along he was thrilled. He loved my little boy more then anything and that's saying a lot because his love for me was not measurable.

Both my parents died in 2001, I was 30. They passed 6 1/2 months apart, both of cancer.

Here's the amazing thing. Yes, I miss them, yes I mourn them, not a day goes by that I don't think about them and wish they were here, but... I am one of the luckiest people I know. I had 30 amazing years with them. I had more in those 30 years then most people get in a lifetime. I have memories that will last me until the day I die and that will carry on in my children. I had the best, I was blessed.

Now who's getting sappy?

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My mom with Jared
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My Dad 1 year before he died.
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Ohh! Cute Jared! :p

Great photos Alty :)
Losing one parent would be hard enough but losing both so close together would have been unbearable.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I have to say, I had the best parents in the world. I'm an only child, a result of 8 years of trying, surgeries, disappointment, finally I came along and my parents were thrilled.

We were very close. After I married and left home we still had dinner together every Sunday, saw eachother a few times a week, went on holidays together. They had an amazing relationship with Jared, his loss hurts me more then my own.

My father was a major family man. We meant the world to him, we were the the motivation for everything he did. When Jared came along he was thrilled. He loved my little boy more then anything and that's saying alot because his love for me was not measurable.

Both my parents died in 2001, I was 30. They passed 6 1/2 months apart, both of cancer.

Here's the amazing thing. Yes, I miss them, yes I mourn them, not a day goes by that I don't think about them and wish they were here, but.... I am one of the luckiest people I know. I had 30 amazing years with them. I had more in those 30 years then most people get in a lifetime. I have memories that will last me until the day I die and that will carry on in my children. I had the best, I was blessed.

Now who's getting sappy?

Pictures? Okay.

My mom with Jared
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My Dad 1 year before he died.
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That's amazing that you can say that. I wish I could. We had tradegy early in my family. A terrible police chase killed my first born brother when I was only 5. I barely remember it to not at all really. My parents should have went to counseling. But they didn't and it caused hardship and emotions that were never dealt with and they drifted and split when I was 18. They stuck it out many years for the sake of us kids. But I lost out. I have no family memories since they just were living separate lives under the same roof. Then a few months after they split on of my other brothers killed himself. Again, no one talks. My family just won't talk. Kills me because there are so many things about my family and I have no idea because they all fell apart before I could appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Thats amazing that you can say that. I wish I could. We had tradegy early in my family. A terrible police chase killed my first born brother when I was only 5. I barely remember it to not at all really. My parents should have went to counseling. But they didnt and it caused hardship and emotions that were never dealt with and they drifted and split when I was 18. They stuck it out many years for the sake of us kids. But I lost out. I have no family memories since they just were living seperate lives under the same roof. Then a few months after they split on of my other brothers killed himself. Again, no one talks. My family just wont talk. Kills me because there are so many things about my family and I have no idea because they all fell apart before I could appreciate it.

Sweetie, I am a firm believer that we make our own future, that we can change our lives.

My parents were great, my childhood was not ideal. Not because of them, never because of them, and had they known the things I'd gone through they would have stopped it, they would have seen to it that I got all the help I needed. I was too scared to tell them, they never knew, and I'm glad that they died without that knowledge.

I could live each day in the past, never letting myself move past it, but I choose not to. Every day is a new day, every experience is something to be cherished. My children, my family, my friends, I'm a lucky lady.

Don't live in the past sweetie, look to the future, make it your own, live it, own it, it's yours for the taking. :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I have to say, I had the best parents in the world. I'm an only child, a result of 8 years of trying, surgeries, disappointment, finally I came along and my parents were thrilled.

We were very close. After I married and left home we still had dinner together every Sunday, saw eachother a few times a week, went on holidays together. They had an amazing relationship with Jared, his loss hurts me more then my own.

My father was a major family man. We meant the world to him, we were the the motivation for everything he did. When Jared came along he was thrilled. He loved my little boy more then anything and that's saying alot because his love for me was not measurable.

Both my parents died in 2001, I was 30. They passed 6 1/2 months apart, both of cancer.

Here's the amazing thing. Yes, I miss them, yes I mourn them, not a day goes by that I don't think about them and wish they were here, but.... I am one of the luckiest people I know. I had 30 amazing years with them. I had more in those 30 years then most people get in a lifetime. I have memories that will last me until the day I die and that will carry on in my children. I had the best, I was blessed.

Now who's getting sappy?

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My mom with Jared
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My Dad 1 year before he died.
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Not sappy! Beautiful! I think you resemble your Dad.Those beautiful eyes :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Sweetie, I am a firm believer that we make our own future, that we can change our lives.

My parents were great, my childhood was not ideal. Not because of them, never because of them, and had they known the things I'd gone through they would have stopped it, they would have seen to it that I got all the help I needed. I was too scared to tell them, they never knew, and I'm glad that they died without that knowledge.

I could live each day in the past, never letting myself move past it, but I choose not to. Every day is a new day, every experience is something to be cherished. My children, my family, my friends, I'm a lucky lady.

Don't live in the past sweetie, look to the future, make it your own, live it, own it, it's yours for the taking. :)

I don't live in the past really. It bugs me but I don't dwell on it. But with my family and things that have happened and the distance with us all I don't really feel like I have family. I sat in a hospital room for 7 hours with my dad a few weeks back and I had nothing to say to him. I just don't have that family bond and I don't know why. I think growing up the last child and being stuck during the rough times it caused me to have the distance. I don't know. I have no idea. But it was nice. He talked and mentioned about his times in the navy that I knew nothing about and it was nice. All these years he traveled the world before I was born and I had no idea. Strange.

I must have taken a sappy pill today.

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

I dont live in the past really. It bugs me but I dont dwell on it. But with my family and things that have happened and the distance with us all I dont really feel like I have family. I sat in a hospital room for 7 hours with my dad a few weeks back and I had nothing to say to him. I just dont have that family bond and I dont know why. I think growing up the last child and being stuck during the rough times it caused me to have the distance. I dont know. I have no idea. But it was nice. He talked and mentioned about his times in the navy that I knew nothing about and it was nice. All these years he traveled the world before I was born and I had no idea. Strange.

I must have taken a sappy pill today.

Not sappy at all Sun! I think when tragedy strikes a family,you can go two ways,stick together and hurt together or put up protective walls to try to stop the pain.

It sounds like everyone was in their own personal hell and no one knew how to connect.

The good news ,its not too late.The conversation about his Navy life was a beginning.
I hope you have more talks in the future.Sometimes all you have to do is plant the seed.

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Originally Posted by artlady

Not sappy at all Sun! I think when tragedy strikes a family,you can go two ways,stick together and hurt together or put up protective walls to try to stop the pain.

It sounds like everyone was in their own personal hell and no one knew how to connect.

The good news ,its not too late.The conversation about his Navy life was a beginning.
I hope you have more talks in the future.Sometimes all you have to do is plant the seed.

Thanks artlady.
That's true for sure. I do agree.

So on a lighter note... how about those Mets? Lol

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So on a lighter note...how about those Mets? lol

I'm a die hard Yankee fan :) Its almost like a family law that you be one ;)

I'm Canadian. Mets? Yankees? Bah! ;)

I don't even watch it. I just like to say that to change the topic.
I prefer football actually. Love the hype with the super bowl and the Monday night wings and drafts and all the good stuff.

I am Canadian. Hockey Rules big time. How about the those Leafs, eh ?

Tick

Hehe. Cubs/bears :D all the way :D

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I am Canadian. Hockey Rules big time. How about the those Leafs, eh ?

tick

The leafs look like there making lots of good changes. Maybe I will actually watch them this year. Many good changes. Happy that Burke is around. Doing what he said he was going to do.

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She just shook her head, told him he was a child. His response, a blast with the hose.

Made me chuckle!

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Sorry I am getting sappy.

Not a problem. :):)

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Made me chuckle!!

You should have been there. I almost peed my pants I laughed so hard. Actually, I may have peed my pants. :p :o

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

hehe. cubs/bears :D all the way :D

Hello! SOX :D

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

so on a lighter note...how about those mets? Lol

Mets?? :d

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I dont even watch it. I just like to say that to change the topic.
I prefer football actually. Love the hype with the super bowl and the monday night wings and drafts and all the good stuff.

My kind of gal... :):):)

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

hehe. cubs/bears :D all the way :D

:eek::eek::eek: Hate the Cubs... love the Bears... Didn't know that you were a fan Jennie.