Hey Red. Still coughing like crazy but I feel fine other than that.
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Hey Red. Still coughing like crazy but I feel fine other than that.
Hi, Red and Adam. :)
Adam, I hope the cough goes away soon. Take care of yourself. :)
Hey cat,how you?
Have you tried honey and lemon adam? Might help ease the cough.
Oh,and spit out any phelm... gross I know,but do!
Hi Adam, Red, Cat and Bear!
Bear, I hope your computer is better now :)
Doing well. How are you doing?Quote:
Originally Posted by redhed35
Hi, Unky. :)
How is your computer doing?
Mine? Still restarting now and then, the mouse freezes occasionally...
Bear (albear) had some problems with windows 7 and vista some time ago.
Most be something going around.. having my own computer problems,I need to run the cleaner and spyware on a daily basis.
I'm grand cat... getting close to the end of the year,starting to feel the year now. Looking forward to christmas.
Hey Everyone. How are you?
Just have to rant for a second but My girlfriend is getting on my nerve. Does anyone else ever miss being single? I'm not breaking up with her but Just the thought makes me happy sometimes. When I lived by myself my bills were a lot cheaper. Now she is living with me and my electric doubles and my water bill goes up and things like that. I wasn't ready for it. Now I am a little behind on my bills and will have to figure something out but I just got off the phone with her and she gets to spend her check shopping on Friday. It just doesn't seem fair that I am stuck with all the bills and she gets to live there freely and spend her money on whatever. Argh!!
Does she not split the bills with you?
And does she not contribute at least a minimum revenue to the house?
Nope she doesn't split the bills. She just does her own thing. I miss being single. I had a minimum on all my bills and I managed just fine and could still do whatever I wanted. Now I am strapped and it blows. I wasn't ready to move her in but I put a lot of thought in to it and decided OK because her step dad kicked her out pretty much. Now things get annoying anymore. Anybody that is single just stay single.
I love being single, but, like anything, there is also an upside to having a girlfriend, especially around the holidays.
I think you two really need to work out some sort of arrangement where she pays a weighted portion of the bills (allocated based upon percentage of total income). It just isn't fair Adam, and it puts way too much stress on you. None of my business though.
You got to try the new skin! The profile page errors have been fixed! Yay! :D
Thanks Kc. I think I need to talk to her. She either needs to pay at least on bill or something. Or I could make her move out. Then I would have money again. I don't know what that is anymore. I would still date her but just not live with her. She has no idea what the real world is like. No idea what so ever. I know she couldn't make it at all. Take a bifg step into the big world. Buy a house on your own and see how it goes. Haha
Good morning adam, unky, kc, cat, red... who ever else I missed.
Adam, ask her to help with the bills. Its just an obvious thing that from the start she should have been helping. I guess that's rude on her part.
Good Morning Sunny. I agree with you on that. It makes it a little harder on me and stresses me out. I don't mean to complain so I apologize for that everyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
Your not complaining adam. I guess you would have just thought she would offer to help. I think its totally fine if you just ask her to help out.
Before I married my husband when we first moved in together, he told me to pay my car payment and the phone bill. He would cover the rest. That was fair since he made 4 times the amount I did then. It worked out well.
Well I make about $2000 a month and she makes about $500 something a month. I have about $1600 a month in bills plus gas money or groceries or whatever. All she pays is her own car insurance and her own gas. Hell If She paid the electric bill that would help a lot. I just don't think she knows how to manage money very well. She pays her insurance every 6 months which is about $500 dollars and she has a hard time saving for that. Then When she says she is using her check this week to go shopping it just makes me frustrated!
Well it's a fine time to sit her down and explain that all to her. She won't know unless you tell her. Get it out in the open.
I need to. Her Birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and then Christmas shortly after. How does she expect me to buy her anything? Haha. Yet she will probably buy me two or three hundred dollars worth of stuff. It just isn't fair, I don't even want anything. Argh. HahaQuote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
I feel for you I really truly do. I just hope when you do talk to her, and you will, she will understand what your saying.
I can only hope. I love her to death but I am one who stresses about money a lot. That is the only thing that I don't like in our relationship. Thanks for the sympathy Sunny,Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
I am the same way. I used to stress so bad. I did all the bills and banking. My husband just had a debit card and handed me his receipts. I could tell him we are broke and it was a given he would go spend more. Or he would just open the mail and toss the bills about on the table like he didn't care it wasn't his concern. HA! Not any more. We have since done some changes and he pays everything. I pay cable, phone, internet and my Jeep. I cover the daycare cost also. He gets the rest. Which is a good load. But now he sees where I have been coming from for all these years. Even if we don't keep it this way it's a great eye opener for him. When I say we are broke, then we are broke. Simple as that.Quote:
Originally Posted by adam_89
That would be so nice. I'm thinking all the bills I have are my house, my 2 store credit cards, Electric bill, Water bill, cable bill, car insurance, Phone bill, & Loan payment. I pay it all. I would be happy to get a few off my load. I wonder what her reaction is going to be when I ask her to take a few bills. It is only fair right?Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
Yes its fair. I support you 100% and I think you need to talk to her. Your not out of line at all about this. I can't believe she hasn't offered.Quote:
Originally Posted by adam_89
Keep your chin up. Maybe she just didn't realize it.
If I am lucky all will go well, and she will be like, I didn't think of it like that and we will have our plan. Or it could backfire. The worst case scenerio is that she says no and I kick her out and tell her I can't support her!Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
You can also tell her that you don't want to have any christmas gift, before your bills problems are fixed and that you're comfortable with the flow of money in and out of the house. Just a suggestion. My mom for example has asked her brothers (who happen to be businessmen who earn... erm... quite a lot) not to give birthday or christmas gifts anymore. That saves some time, the time that we had to choose original gifts every year and extra expenses.
Up to now, it works. After all, we need what we need, the things that people give us are only 'secondary' if we remove the most important part of it, that is the intention behind it. (well, except if that gift comes to be really helpful)
Oh you tell her to pay such and such as a gift to you. Then maybe that can open the discussion easier.
Thanks Unky, I will try that. In my family we all decided to do a secret Santa. Should save a lot of money instead of spending 3 times as much on the whole family.
I think I forgot to say hi to you... Hi Sunny!Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
Yup, lol, you got a better point that me! :) :p
That could definitely work and is definitely a possibility. I got to do something!Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
Going to lunch dudes. I need the gym today. Much frustration built up inside and I am going to work that weight room like a crazy woman.
Talk with you all in a bit. If for some reason I don't make it back I hope you all have a great Thanksgiving with who ever your spending it with.
When is thanksgiving?
Thanksgiving is tomorrow Red!
Apparently this Thursday.
Bye Sunny! Have a good workout at the gym and a good lunch! :)
All right I am going to get me some lunch. See you guys in a bit.
You know what I wonder? How many people we break up here on this site? Makes you wonder doesn't it?
Thanksgiving is tomorrow!
Oh no,I'm not ready,and I'm working,no nice dinner or presents ready,it's a disaster...
Oh well.. the kids will understand.
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Originally Posted by adam_89
ADAM! Bless yourself and turn around 3 times...
I would not worry about it...
The majority that post are looking for comfirmation for what they already know in their hearts,the ones that do get back together,well,we were just a sounding wall for their pain or confusion.
I have an exam tonight... why why am I not studying..
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