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Basic question: Have you cleaned out caches, cookies, and history and restarted your browser?Quote:
Originally Posted by DaniCalifornia
If so, contact Ben. There may be a glitch in the system or between 'skins' again.
Yep, I had to install updates and restart last night
Thank you Judy. You've been where I am now, and just recently as well. I think you understand my grief very well.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Frankly it still doesn't seem real at this point. I just saw Jared's winter jacket on the floor in the foyer. He always forgets to hang it up, it's black, like Jasper. For a moment I thought, hoped, that it was Jasper. He loved sleeping in the foyer. I usually had to step over him in the morning when I went into the garage for my morning cigarette. For just that moment I thought that maybe it had all been a dream.
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Originally Posted by Alty
And you will hear his footsteps for a very long time - I do understand your grief. It will seem unreal for a very long time. I never know whether to put away all reminders, at least for now, or look at everything (collars, toys) on a daily basis and try to cope.
How are your children taking the loss? You have your own grief and watching them grieve must tear you apart again.
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Originally Posted by Alty
Sorry for the loss of your loved companion Jasper. No words can help with the hurt, but know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Looking at pictures helps, but I can't get myself to look at his toys, collar, leash and stuff. That's too real. With the pictures I can at least pretend that he's still here. With the stuff it's very obvious he's not.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
The kids aren't handling it too well. Yesterday Sydney spent the day crying, moping around. Jared handled it a bit better yesterday, but then today he broke down completely. We've had a lot of cries, hugs, and long talks. It's especially hard because we didn't know this was going to end up being the choice we had to make until we got to the vet and she said that there was nothing more we could do. At that time we decided to put him out of his misery. We never really thought that the kids might want to be there because they didn't want to with Indy. We wanted to spare them that. But when we got home without Jasper, and told them what we had to do, they were very very upset that they hadn't been allowed to be there.
But then, they really don't know what it's like. They'll have to face that one day if they decide to have animals in their life, but they shouldn't have to face it as children. Still, a part of me wonders if the reality would have been better for them to face and accept then whatever they think happened. Because we all know that sometimes we make things far worse in our minds then they are in reality.
Time will help heal. We all know that. But right now it's still very fresh, and very painful for all of us. It still seems surreal to me. I feel like I'm not even in my own body right now, that it's someone else going through this.
Thank you Wildsporty. Words can't ease the pain, but it nice to know that so many people care. That does help.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildsporty
I know it hurts. He will always have part of your heart. It will get a little easier Alty, in time.
Canada is nice this time of year. Just saying, since you want to be out of the country.
NO IT IS NOT!! Ask I write this it is SNOWING again... not cool. Well yeah actually it is, a little too cool, freezing in fact... On the whole though Canada is a prety good place to be and summer will be here soon enough!
Synn - I am so sorry for your loss. The death of a friend is never easy, and I will do my best to send positive, healing energies your way.
Alty - The same for you. I love my pets as children, and the loss of one is heartbreaking. Healing energies to you and your family as well.
Hope everyone else is doing well. I have been so busy the last few days. A wonderful uncle passed last week, so I had to venture out of town for his services. It was a wonderful celebration of life, and I loved visiting with my family. It may sound odd to be joyful, but He was suffering horribly from alzheimer's and a slew of other medical issues so, while I miss him, I am happy he is no longer suffering.
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Originally Posted by alkalineangel
Sorry for your family's loss. I understand completely. One of my aunts recently passed from alzheimer's as well. She had suffered for years and the passing becomes a blessing really at that stage.
Sorry for your loss :(
So very sorry for your loss. I think it's wonderful that you celebrated his life rather than grieving his death. Many people forget to celebrate the good times.Quote:
Originally Posted by alkalineangel
And I go on and on about my loss. I'm so very sorry. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by alkalineangel
It just goes to show, we're all suffering, life is never perfect, and loss is all around us.
I'm so very sorry for your loss, but I am so very happy for you that you could see this as a celebration of his life. I think that's what death should be, a celebration of what that being (be they human or animal) was, what they contributed to this world, what their life meant to them, and to us.
It truly is only those of us that are left behind that suffer. The deceased loved one is at peace. That should be something to be grateful for, even while we're feeling the pain. Their pain is over. That's a blessing.
Well this thread has turned really sad. Not that that's a bad thing. It's a place to talk about everything. Your joys, your sorrows. But, I am going to lighten the mood.
We got a new addition. We simply couldn't stand the quiet in the house, and we're not a one dog family, never were. We were going to wait until we were done grieving, but this fell into our laps, and we made the decision to follow our hearts. Boy am I glad we did.
I'm still mourning Jasper, but now there's a little something that can and does put a smile on my face, and it really does feel like forever since I smiled.
So meet Rascal, our newest addition.
He's a border collie cross, around 8 weeks old. He came for a farm. Farmer had an accidental litter and the puppies were free to a good home. Well, we're a good home.:)
Here are a few pictures.
The kids, Chewy, Rod and I, are very happy to welcome him to our home.
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Very cute... but I was going to suggest a nice, furry, Haplopelma... always lightens my mood and they're so soft and cuddly.
Odinn, I tried talking my hubby into a spider once, but he flat out refused. I'd love one! The only problem I'd have is feeding it live food. I'm really not big on killing anything, even a cricket. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by odinn7
Ha! You Googled it, didn't you? LOL... not too many people know off the top of their head what a Haplopelma is.
They do make nice, quiet, and easy to care for pets... but yes, they need live food so I can understand what you're saying.
Really though... adorable little puppy.
You know what would happen if you have a spider when I get there! Out comes the vacuum!
Tarantulas are too big to fit into most vacuum hoses. :p
He is adorable, Nothing like a cute, cuddly pup to bring a smile.
He's a lucky boy. And Chewy is pretty darn cute too.
I'm partial to beagles. They are my favorite, although at the moment I am beagleless
Is that a word?
Anyway what a cutie!
Thanks for the sweet dreams Odinn!Quote:
Originally Posted by odinn7
Not a problem! Any time I can help, just let me know...
Well that depends on the size of the pieces they are in when you start to vacuum them up... I am unashamed of smashing a spider or four... ::shudder::Quote:
Originally Posted by odinn7
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Originally Posted by Alty
Rascal is simply adorable. Very sweet I can see why he brings a smile to your face.
What a day!!
My off day and I spent it apparently trying to do myself in.
My boyfriend and my daughters boyfriend are working on the roof today and I, being the good hostess decided to cook for them.
I had a beautiful butternut squash to fix and while slicing it to cook I managed to take a chunk out of the heel of my hand on the mandolin slicer.
Not enough to hit the Urgent care just enough to hurt like h, e, double hockey sticks and bleed enough to illicit an offering of blood from my daughters boyfriend if I needed a transfusion.
I wish I'd never seen that d**n squash.
Then up to the roof to check on progress, after discussing the plan with the men folk, I misstep and you know it, right through the roof on the outside of the house.
One second safe and sound the next on the ground with 4 dogs gathered round to check me out.
That was only 5:00 and I'm ready to just go back to bed, what's the worst that could happen.
All in all not so bad, nothing broken and we all got a good laugh afterward.
I'm so glad I'm working tomorrow I don't think I can take another day at home.
OMG! That's awful! I'm worn out just reading that! It wasn't a good day for you, that's for sure. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Get some rest... have a drink (if you drink) and get everyone to cater to you tonight.Quote:
Originally Posted by LadySam
Having that drink now, who knew cooking and supervising could be so dangerous?Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9
Been there, done that, and got the scar to prove it.Quote:
Originally Posted by LadySam
LOL! Actually Odinn, I didn't Google. A long time ago, when I was much younger than I am now, I dated an entomologist. Of course he wasn't an entomologist then, but he is now, and we're still very good friends. Because of him I probably know more about spiders (which I adore) then most people.Quote:
Originally Posted by odinn7
If you googled his name you'd actually find out that he's one of the top entomologists in the country. No, not Canada, actually in the US, even though he is Canadian, born and raised, educated, and actually lived around 10 minutes from my house when I was younger. I won't mention his full name here (I don't have his permission), and his full name would get your around 50 pages of Google links, but, if you Google "brent the bug guy", you'll get plenty. :)
Back when the networks were on strike he even did Leno, brought a bunch of his bug friends along. Don't know if you can still view the show on the net, I know I had trouble the last time I tried.
Because of him I've learned more about spiders that I probably care to know. But I've always found them fascinating. I'd love to have one, but Rod is a wuss! ;)
Holy crap on a stick! You sound like me! Sam, I'm beginning to think we're two peas in a pod. I often say that if I didn't have bad luck, I wouldn't have any!Quote:
Originally Posted by LadySam
Glad you're okay. Stay off the roof, and stay away from squash. Just the name alone should be reason enough. I'm sure they don't call it "squash" for no reason. ;)
A little accident prone too are you?Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
This morning I grabbed a hot pan, so I am treating myself to an ice pack and some Oreos with milk.
I think I'm down to folding laundry and watching TV, since there is not a soul here to drive to the hospital at the moment.
LS, is the laundry already out of the dryer?Quote:
Originally Posted by LadySam
Please, take care. Let others put the clothes away. Drawers can be dangerous (says the woman who got a splinter from one.) ;)
Group hug for everyone. :)
Oh dear, between the threat of splinters and dryer injury maybe I should just take a nap.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
With my luck this weekend I'm scared of lacerating myself with a zipper or worse.
Thanks for the giggle.
You're welcome.Quote:
Originally Posted by LadySam
If the sky is as gray in your part of the state as it is here, napping sounds like a great idea.
Being accident prone does make a good excuse to be lazy. ;)
Oh my gosh! You fell through your roof LS? Well I hope your weekend went better! I can't believe your day. I'm not laughing AT you, I'm laughing with you ;) I am also accident prone. If there is a hazard anywhere, you better believe I'm going to find it.
Sam, I would definitely stay away from the laundry. It can be deadly. You really don't want to take any chances. In fact, stay away from cooking too, order in. :)
I've got a major dilemma going on and I, for once, don't know how to handle it. Hoping some of you could shed some light. Here goes, hope it makes sense.
Two little kids have been in and out of CPS for all of their short lives. Girl is 8, boy is 10. They've been positive for marijuana, coke, meth, etc. Not because they are actively using it, but when they were younger mom was breast feeding. My friend, I'll call her Natasha, is a nurse who works with me and her husband works at the jail. They are the aunt and uncle to these children and are stand up citizens.
Natasha and her husband had legal custody of these children 3 times in their lives, the longest being an entire year. Recently their mother was in a drug/alcohol related car accident and died. Their father was in jail at the time. This time it was for driving without a license and not a drug related charge. Well, the judge let Dad out of jail to take care of these kids rather than passing them off to a more stable relative.
This all happened a week ago this past Thursday. Now Dad is having parties at his house, meth parties, morphine parties, etc. Their electricity is about to be turned off. Well, to go on, Natasha and several other members of the family have called CPS, but they will do nothing at this point. Their words to Natasha were... "So what is your concern?"
My mother-in-law used to teach 4th grade but now is retired an volunteers her time as a CASA. Natasha and I have followed her instructions step-by-step to have these children removed from the home, but CPS doesn't seem to have the time.
I just don't know what else to do at this point. If any of you can help that would be great, if you can't, that's great too, just support our efforts in getting these children to safety.
J, I have no actual help, I only have sadness that this is being allowed to continue. CPS is a joke. I've never had to deal with them at all, not individually (thankfully), and never in any other capacity. As such I have rose colored glasses on and always thought they put the kids first. That's obviously not the case here. This is a wake up call. I may never utter the words "call CPS" again. :(
I can only offer my support, hugs, and hope that these kids are placed with the people that should have them, and obviously want them.
It makes me sick. You need a license to catch a fish, or buy a dog, but any idiot can have a child. It's sickening.
I'm giving you my support, and wishing that I could do more. If there's anything you need, anything, anything at all, tell me, and if I have the power to do it, I'm there.
(hugs)
Thanks Alty, I just wish I knew what to do to help Natasha. My MIL and I have done all we can but until there is a life threatening situation apparently CPS has more important cases.
I guess I just don't understand this level of addiction. My kids are FIRST, plain and simple.
My brain hurts, my head hurts, my heart hurts. I think I'm going to drink a beer and go to bed.
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