That's why no one understands. And I just wish that someone did
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That's why no one understands. And I just wish that someone did
Is your question the one on the following link? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ir-138660.html
What about what I said? No one cares about it
Yes they do. People have been trying to answer you since you first come to this site. You refuse to accept their explanations and reasonings.
What's the truth? It doesn't make sense at all... I fyou can see from my point of view, you would see that he doesn't, he doesn't have to, he says he doesn't, and I really feel he doesn't, and I would believe him if it wasn't for everyone else being so different. So does he or not? Is it possible that he IS telling the truth, when he says he doesn't find others attractive?
I want to hear the truth from him but I don't want to keep asking him and he won't really answer. He said he called this weekend but I didn't answer. I know that's a lie because I was home all weekend, had my phone with me, and checked the collar id.
You HAVE heard the truth from him. STOP ASKING HIM.
"caller ID" A collar is on a blouse or shirt.
Yes, we do care about what you say! If we didn't, we wouldn't have spent the amount of time that we have on you!Quote:
Originally Posted by br_hjs
How exactly is your boyfriend treating you now, please?
Let's put your feelings aside for just a little bit. What are his actions towards you in the last few days, please?
I'm just going to go on myself and not have strangers tell me what to think.I will think what I want and decide myself if it the truth or not because this isn't workning at all, no one understands... does that necessarily make me wrong?? I guess that's what I really want to know but not exactly in those words. But I'm going blind from crying and looking at the computer screen, so many hours a day and still not getting any where. So I'll keep asking him until he answers and I'll just have to believe what he says. Even if it is a lie, I'll just think its not
Actions do speak louder than words, you know? A person can say anything they want. But, what they DO with how they ACT is what really matters.
I don't know. I don't get to talk to him much at all to even know. I can tell you almost everything we said to each other today if that helps:Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
Me: Here's your history homework
Him: o thanks
Me: why didn't you call this weekend?
Him : I did and you didn't answer
Me: That sounds like a like since I have caller id and know if you wouldve called
Him: isn't that what I always say, 'that sounds like a lie,' or I used to anyway. Go ahead say something
Me: what
Him: that sounds like a lie
Me: Well, if you called what day was it?
Him: I don't remember. Why can't you call me?
Me: because of your mom.
Him: o yeah that's right
Me: well, what would she do if I called?
Him: I don't know. That would be pretty funny though
Me: Well, can you call me today?
Him: I'll try, but I don't know if I can
And that's pretty much it.
O and I asked him to answer that question and he said "what question?"
And he said he couldn't remember but I didn't want to ask him again.
He didn't call today but he probably couldn't.
Can't you just give me a yes or no? Why can't you? Why couldn't he?
Just what you think yes or no. doesn't mean its true
I wish he was this way all the time
This is probably the best e-mail I've ever gotten from him:
Hello Michelle. I have been busy these past couple days and haven't got the chance to reply. There is so much to talk about and do, yet no way to do it. I suppose we will just have to wait until we are older. I miss you terribly, but don't mind the wait. It gives me plenty of time to relax and enjoy my youth. How have things been at your house? Has anyone mentioned me lately or have they forgotten all about me? I really must be going, its early in the morning and I need to sleep.
Yours forever,
Go to bed, Michelle. You are making too many demands upon your mind and body and it is rendering you useless. You can't think straight when you act this way. You are pushing this boy away, and you need to think more before you act or react. You are like a nagging wife with this guy and soon you will give him no choice but to move on. THAT is why you feel him distancing himself. You are too high maintenance. Men like women who are cheerful, fun, funny, smart, caring and independent.
Go to bed and start over in the morning.
Hugs, Didi
That still doesn't answer my question. Hurry I'm going blind and I have to type with my eys closed and it hurts to look at the screen
You are so correct!Quote:
Originally Posted by grammadidi
I'll come back in a week and see what responses I have from all of you, I will think myself about it, talk to him about it, and maybe if I can do it even talk with my brother about it since he keeps asking me what's wrong... he notices something's wrong before I even notice it. Anyway, from that I will decide what I think the truth is... I do know that I've told him a long time ago that everyone else would think he would find others attractive and he said "well, theyre all wrong"... that's not exactly what was said I don't thinkbut pretty close
I'll come back in a week and see what responses I have from all of you, I will think myself about it, talk to him about it, and maybe if I can do it even talk with my brother about it since he keeps asking me what's wrong... he notices something's wrong before I even notice it. Anyway, from that I will decide what I think the truth is... I do know that I've told him a long time ago that everyone else would think he would find others attractive and he said "well, theyre all wrong"... that's not exactly what was said I don't thinkbut pretty close
I'll come back in a week and see what responses I have from all of you, I will think myself about it, talk to him about it, and maybe if I can do it even talk with my brother about it since he keeps asking me what's wrong... he notices something's wrong before I even notice it. Anyway, from that I will decide what I think the truth is... I do know that I've told him a long time ago that everyone else would think he would find others attractive and he said "well, theyre all wrong"... that's not exactly what was said I don't thinkbut pretty close
Soory, it was being slow and wouldn't go so I said that more than once
And you all think you know I need to go to sleep because I'm going to be tired or whatever... it isn't that easy and I usually sleep from like 5pm - 9pm.
Can someone please explain this site to her? I need to go
How old is your brother? Please excuse me if you have already posted it elsewhere. By now, anybody following all of these thoughts about you would have to read through a dearth of posts!Quote:
Originally Posted by br_hjs
Thanks everyone for the support if you have left advice~!
Just a few things that I want to leave you with tonight, Michelle. One is a link to another poster who is around your age. She did not choose her avatar. Her avatar says, "Troll Alert High." I and others have tried to help her. She heard from me very pointedly, about wasting other people's time. That post of hers where I mentioned that to her has since disappeared. She has since then tried to post good things rather than things to draw attention to herself and also argue with those who are trying to help her. She has been listening and acting on the advice that she has been given.
One of the links is: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...tml#post651124
Unfortunately, her avatar remains. I hope that the same thing doesn't happen to you... I am hopeful that administration will take off the avatar that they have given to her. For a definition of what a troll is, please see the following sites: Troll (Internet) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia and Troll Definition
There have been mainly three of us who have tried to help you. Others have jumped in now and then, and they are also excellent helpers and advisors. But, they also have other fires that they need to try to put out with people in trying to help others, depending on their area of their expertise.
You can trust that we are not some strangers in the darkness of cyberspace who are trying to steer you in the wrong direction. We really do care. If we didn't, we wouldn't have spent the time on you that we have already. We just aren't able to physically be there to give you a real hug when you need it or a real shoulder on which to cry. All three of us have had extensive experience in the care and counseling of youth and children by virtue of the professions that we have had or do currently hold. I may have said it before, and if I have, I will say it again. I don't think that it's any accident why certain people meet and come together for whatever purpose. There is a purpose being served right here on this site, Michelle.
grammadidi was awesome in taking of her free time to start a new thread for you! So far, I think that it has worked out pretty well! But, we seem to be going in circles again with the advice that we are giving you and the way that you are acting on it. Actions do speak louder than words, Michelle!
There is one more thing that I would like to leave with you. It is sort of a diversion, but could be helpful to you. It could also be fun to do! It is a series of private messages that I received from a member of this site several months ago.
The moniker that she uses is serena6878. I don't know if she is still involved with this site or not.
The following was the first message. This being after we had already exchanged correspondence concerning the particular concern that she had.
For you, of course you would substitute male names for the friends.Quote:
Hi, Clough
I have a quiz for you. Please help me finish it.
First, please write down a series of numbers from 1 through 11.
Then, please write down two of your female friends' name separately beside number 3 and 7.
Please write down three song names separately beside number 8, 9 and 10.
Let me know when you finish it :>
Serena
For me, when all was said and done, the results were exactly on target! Really freaked me out!
Clough
I did the quiz. Now what??
He is almost 24Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
Okay. Thanks! I got to go for awhile. Have business to which to attend and also a 2&1/2 hour rehearsal to conduct.Quote:
Originally Posted by br_hjs
Would you like to give the quiz that I posted a try? The results might possibly astound you!
I am waiting to see if others might want to participate in it also, before I post what the answers might mean.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I have MY answers all prepared! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Clough
Hugs, Didi
I'm glad that you are participating also, Didi! I will get back to you later tonight! By the way, I just love your art! The rehearsal that I have to conduct will last until 10:00. I should be back home about 10:30.
I have some work to do, but I should be back online around 10:45 or so tonight. Thanks for saying you loved my art. :) Have a good evening.
Hugs, Didi
Can I play too Clough?Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
Of course! All are welcome and invited! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by friend4u178
I don't understand it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
What is it that you don't understand about it, Michelle? #1, #2, #3 or #4??Quote:
Originally Posted by br_hjs
1. First, please write down a series of numbers from 1 through 11.
2. Write down two of your female friends' names - one beside #3 and the other beside #7.
3. Write down the names of three songs. Put one each beside number 8, 9 and 10.
4. Let me know when you finish it.
I don't have 2 friends
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