You are a far more patient person then I am Blacky.

Ha! Thanks for that...

So how is married life treating you Blacky?

Hmmm... ummm... its interesting... has its ups and downs...

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And ins and outs? ;)

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And ins and outs? ;)

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Haha... yes... wrong thread... but your statement is quite accurate... :cool:

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Hmmm... ummm... its interesting... has its ups and downs...

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Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:

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Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:

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LOL! So very true Cat. :)

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Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

I miss those days.

Sigh.

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Interesting is better than the wrong kind of excitement. :eek:

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Very true... just got to enjoy the ups, and deal with the downs...

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Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

I miss those days.

Sigh.

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Haha yes, that is quite enjoyable... the freedom and privacy... that's something neither of us really had before, so its nice... :)

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Ah to be a newly married couple again. No kids, the newness of living together, the ability to have sex in every room and on every surface of your house without someone walking in on you.

I miss those days.

Sigh.

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Our son is five weeks older than our marriage. What married life without kids? :(

Okay, so there was one good thing about my MIL. She would take the kids for days at time. :)

We waited until 3 years of marriage before we decided to try for a child. It was nice having the house to ourselves.

Rod and I didn't live together before we married. We decided to save our money, stay with our parents so we could have a decent down payment for a house when we married.

It wasn't that new, other then having to learn to share the bed and dealing with his snoring. Neither one of us were virgins so that part of marriage wasn't a shock, but sharing a space with someone 24/7, it was a learning experience and it was often tough. It didn't help that we rented his sisters house for the first year. Long story there, she had some of our money, she had bought another house, the real estate market dropped and she didn't want to sell for less then she paid. We couldn't get our money until she sold so we rented the house from her.

After a year, the house still on the market, constantly having to find places to go on the weekend when she had an open house. No being allowed to have our dog (Indy) because she didn't want a pet in the house. It wore on us. We ended up getting the house we live in now with an open mortgage so that we could pay the money she owed us without a penalty.

It was a tough year in many ways.

Wow... I guess not every marriage is a fairytale...

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Depends on how realistic you are about fairytales. ;)

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Depends on how realistic you are about fairytales. ;)

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Hmmm... so when does the "Happily ever after" happen?

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Blacky, if you wanted a fairytale you should have gone to the video store.

There are going to be hard times. There are going to be times when you think about leaving or want to scream. There are going to be times when you actually hate the person you swore to love.

It's natural. You're two different people, you're not going to agree on everything and there are going to be times when you fight.

The secret is to listen. To talk to each other. To remember why you married to begin with and to never forget the love you have for eacthother.

There are things about Rod that annoy the ever loving hell out of me. There are times when I just want to smack him. I know he feels the same way. The thing is, we talk it out. We are partners in this. We are committed to making it work, so it does.

We're lifers. I vowed to stay with him until death do us part and I plan to keep that vow, even if I have to kill him. ;)

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When you realize that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. :)

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When you realize that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. :)

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Yep :)

Hmmm I understand Alty... Till death do you part... somehow that part of the vow is not very evident these days...

Yeah its not very evident these days but then there are some circumstances when people shouldn't stay in a marriage, like if it is really unhealthy or something.

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Hmmm I understand Alty... Till death do you part... somehow that part of the vow is not very evident these days...

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We wrote our own vows.

They went something like this;

Rod's: I promise to put the toilet seat down after using the bathroom in the middle of the night. I promise to put my sock in the hamper and not under the bed. I promise never to say you look fat in a dress. I promise to change at least 10 diapers on each child that we have. I promise that I will never ever cheat on you and if I do, you can kill me. ;)

Andrea's: I promise to forgive you when you leave the toilet seat up in the middle of the night after I tripped on your socks that weren't in the hamper. I promise not to blame you for getting me pregnant which is why I look fat in that dress. Ten diapers! Good luck with that! If you cheat on me you're going to wish you were dead.

Amen. :)

That's a very good point. If it's that bad, then its best to just cut all ties and leave.

I guess once upon a time, people would work through things no matter how bad they were, that's all I'm saying.

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We wrote our own vows.

They went something like this;

Rod's: I promise to put the toilet seat down after using the bathroom in the middle of the night. I promise to put my sock in the hamper and not under the bed. I promise never to say you look fat in a dress. I promise to change at least 10 diapers on each child that we have. I promise that I will never ever cheat on you and if I do, you can kill me. ;)

Andrea's: I promise to forgive you when you leave the toilet seat up in the middle of the night after I tripped on your socks that weren't in the hamper. I promise not to blame you for getting me pregnant which is why I look fat in that dress. Ten diapers! Good luck with that! If you cheat on me you're going to wish you were dead.

Amen. :)

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That's really nice Alty... very personal

Well people often suffered in silence and lived miserable lives because they thought they couldn't get out of the marriage.

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We wrote our own vows.

They went something like this;

Rod's: I promise to put the toilet seat down after using the bathroom in the middle of the night. I promise to put my sock in the hamper and not under the bed. I promise never to say you look fat in a dress. I promise to change at least 10 diapers on each child that we have. I promise that I will never ever cheat on you and if I do, you can kill me. ;)

Andrea's: I promise to forgive you when you leave the toilet seat up in the middle of the night after I tripped on your socks that weren't in the hamper. I promise not to blame you for getting me pregnant which is why I look fat in that dress. Ten diapers! Good luck with that! If you cheat on me you're going to wish you were dead.

Amen. :)

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I love it. :D

For our's it was closer to:

You want to marry her?

You want to marry him?

We were married by a Judge who was a friend of the family in his apartment. I sometimes think that was better for us than the stress of a larger wedding. :)

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That's true, but sometimes they decided not to live like that and do something about it, other than leave. They'd do everything they could, and more, to improve their situation because divorce was the last thing on their mind.

To some, including me, death is better than divorce. That's going along the lines of the vows, till death do us part.

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I love it. :D

For our's it was closer to:

You wanna marry her?

You wanna marry him?

We were married by a Judge who was a friend of the family in his apartment. I sometimes think that was better for us than the stress of a larger wedding. :)

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Yes that sounds nice, its what suits the individuals that's important. The stress of a larger wedding can be tough!

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Thats true, but sometimes they decided not to live like that and do something about it, other than leave. They'd do everything they possibly could, and more, to improve their situation because divorce was the last thing on their mind.

To some, including me, death is better than divorce. Thats going along the lines of the vows, till death do us part.

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I guess that's true, divorce seems easier these days rather than staying and working on it. I guess it depends on the situation.

Hello! Good Morning everybody! :)

Hi Sergie!

Also, welcome pinkangelgirl. Wow, that's a mouthful. I'm giving you a nickname. Pinky. You are now Pinky. No, you don't have a say in the matter. ;)

Those weren't my actual vows, but they would have been good ones. :)

Rod and I have been through a lot. The death of three parents, mine only 6 1/2 months apart when our son was only 2 yrs and 4 months old.

The death of his mother almost 3 years ago and the having to deal with his sister about the will, which still hasn't been resolved.

The day to day stuff, arguing about money, work, the kids, you know, normal married stuff.

The fact is, I love him. Yes, I know I could find someone else. Yes, I could be just as happy with someone new. The thing is, I don't want to. I love him. More importantly, I like him. I like everything about him. I mostly like the fact that he likes and loves me too.

We're a family and we're here for the long haul.

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Hi Sergie!

Also, welcome pinkangelgirl. Wow, that's a mouthful. I'm giving you a nickname. Pinky. You are now Pinky. No, you don't have a say in the matter. ;)

Those weren't my actual vows, but they would have been good ones. :)

Rod and I have been through a lot. The death of three parents, mine only 6 1/2 months apart when our son was only 2 yrs and 4 months old.

The death of his mother almost 3 years ago and the having to deal with his sister about the will, which still hasn't been resolved.

The day to day stuff, arguing about money, work, the kids, you know, normal married stuff.

The fact is, I love him. Yes, I know I could find someone else. Yes, I could be just as happy with someone new. The thing is, I don't want to. I love him. More importantly, I like him. I like everything about him. I mostly like the fact that he likes and loves me too.

We're a family and we're here for the long haul.

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What else a Man may want to hear Alty? You're really a good Mom and good wife! Cheers :D

Welcome to the lounge Pinky! :D

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Hi Sergie!

Also, welcome pinkangelgirl. Wow, that's a mouthful. I'm giving you a nickname. Pinky. You are now Pinky. No, you don't have a say in the matter. ;)

Those weren't my actual vows, but they would have been good ones. :)

Rod and I have been through a lot. The death of three parents, mine only 6 1/2 months apart when our son was only 2 yrs and 4 months old.

The death of his mother almost 3 years ago and the having to deal with his sister about the will, which still hasn't been resolved.

The day to day stuff, arguing about money, work, the kids, you know, normal married stuff.

The fact is, I love him. Yes, I know I could find someone else. Yes, I could be just as happy with someone new. The thing is, I don't want to. I love him. More importantly, I like him. I like everything about him. I mostly like the fact that he likes and loves me too.

We're a family and we're here for the long haul.

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Hi there! Thanks and I don't mind being called pinky or anything to do with the color pink!

Sounds like you have a strong marriage and a good attitude towards it:)

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I guess thats true, divorce seems easier these days rather than staying and working on it. i guess it depends on the situation.

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Well once upon a time, divorce was such taboo. To even mention the word once in a marriage was to drop a huge bomb-shell and the relationship will struggle to get to where it was before even the word was mentioned. Now it gets used all the time, for small things, big things, things that could be worked out, things that need a lot of work.

I still do not believe in divorce and never will. I no matter how hard my life gets or what happens, I would try to work things out because that's how I believe it should be. Divorce should never be an option because people make mistakes and things happen, but everything, and I mean everything can be sorted if both parties are willing to give it their all.

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What else a Man may want to hear Alty? You're really a good Mom and good wife! Cheers :D

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:o

I'm an okay mom and wife Sergie. The fact is, you're only as good as your partner and your partner is only as good as you. It's a lot of work, and it's worth it. :)

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Hi Sergie!

Also, welcome pinkangelgirl. Wow, that's a mouthful. I'm giving you a nickname. Pinky. You are now Pinky. No, you don't have a say in the matter. ;)

Those weren't my actual vows, but they would have been good ones. :)

Rod and I have been through a lot. The death of three parents, mine only 6 1/2 months apart when our son was only 2 yrs and 4 months old.

The death of his mother almost 3 years ago and the having to deal with his sister about the will, which still hasn't been resolved.

The day to day stuff, arguing about money, work, the kids, you know, normal married stuff.

The fact is, I love him. Yes, I know I could find someone else. Yes, I could be just as happy with someone new. The thing is, I don't want to. I love him. More importantly, I like him. I like everything about him. I mostly like the fact that he likes and loves me too.

We're a family and we're here for the long haul.

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Awesome Alty... just awesome...

Hi...

So tired. Want to sleep. Sleep please. Hi

Alty

Enough of the mushy stuff already :rolleyes:

Hey
Herbie
Sergie
Pinky
Blacky
Cat
Heath

Thanks for leaving me out M... :(