I wish mine was boring, mine is eventful as heck!

I'm hungry!

Just saying.

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I wish mine was boring, mine is eventful as heck!

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Oh Rome. I hope things get better between you and your fiancé pronto...

4th of July is coming up; maybe you should plan something special?

EDIT:: CRAP. Got my months wrong.. May JUNE July... haha

Sarah

I just don't know what to do, how much longer I can take her being emotionally closed off

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I just don't know what to do, how much longer I can take her being emotionally closed off

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Have you told her that ↑

Sarah

I think her and I are going to sit down tonight(whether she likes it or not) and put it all out there and then I will have a really tough decision to make

Yes you should Rome.

Remember no "you" "you" "you" more we, we, we..

No need to tell the guy with a gazillion greenies how to communicate ;)

Sarah

Ha ha

Awl you're making me blush.

I am going to tell her that we need to come to some type of agreement, some type of way to resolve the issue we have right now. I hope she's willing to work on it, if not I might have to take my own advice that I give daily here, it's always the hardest to take your own advice.

Yeah, it is hard to take your own advice... agree totally.

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I am going to tell her that we need to come to some type of agreement, some type of way to resolve the issue we have right now. I hope she's willing to work on it, if not I might have to take my own advice that I give daily here, it's always the hardest to take your own advice.

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Well goodluck to you.

When it comes to "those" types of conversations it's best to keep it short. I'd say 1/2 hour at most-- unless you want a snowball effect and have everything unravel like a ball of yarn [DARN two idioms].

Well.. be direct Rome- have everything you want to say written down until you see her [I forget stuff and then I'm like DARN wish I remembered to say ______].

We'll be here to dry those man tears.
Sarah

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Ha ha

Awl you're making me blush.

I am going to tell her that we need to come to some type of agreement, some type of way to resolve the issue we have right now. I hope she's willing to work on it, if not I might have to take my own advice that I give daily here, it's always the hardest to take your own advice.

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Ain't that the truth. I can dish it, but it's really hard to take it. ;)

You're doing what's best for you Rome, you cannot be expected to live like this forever, that's not fair, that's not a relationship, that's not give and take.

You're a strong guy, you're a sweet guy, you know what to do, you'll do it, and no matter what the outcome, you'll go on, you'll be okay.

I hope she decides to get help, even if it's talking to me. It will hurt me to hear what she has gone through but if it even helps a little finally telling someone what happened, I'll gladly put that weight on my shoulders

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I hope she decides to get help, even if it's talking to me. It will hurt me to hear what she has gone through but if it even helps a little finally telling someone what happened, I'll gladly put that weight on my shoulders

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I hope she does too Rome, I really do. Not only for you but for her too, she needs to get this off her shoulders.

If she'd rather talk to a stranger, or a group of us, maybe you could talk her into joining AMHD. You know what kind of advice she'd get. Maybe it would help to hear it from people that don't know her.

Just a thought. :)

I agree with Alty.. She doesn't have to tell people that she's Rome's GF/Fiance/--w/e

Sarah

I am going to have her read Alten's post and see what she thinks, and maybe try to talk her into posting her own story. Or at least writing it down on paper to get it out.

Write it down, scream it, cry it out-- as long as it's out.

Sarah

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I am going to have her read Alten's post and see what she thinks, and maybe try to talk her into posting her own story. or at least writing it down on paper to get it out.

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Writing it out really helps, even if she doesn't share it with anyone.

I just happened to write mine for everyone to read. I needed the feedback, the confirmation that I can be who I am even though I was who I was (did that make sense)?

Maybe buy her a journal, a really pretty one with pink flowers on it (buy two, send one to me ;)) someplace to write down everything she feels she can't speak of outloud. Then, if she wants to share it, she can.

Like all I have going on in my head is the new Daughtry song "no surprise" because after the talk, if she doesn't decide to change or make some type of effort, then that's what it's going to come to and it shouldn't come as a surprise

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Like all I have going on in my head is the new Daughtry song "no surprise" because after the talk, if she doesn't decide to change or make some type of effort, then that's what it's going to come to and it shouldn't come as a surprise

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She must know that you aren't happy Rome, so it probably won't be a surprise.

I imagine this isn't the first time you two have talked about this, but she has to realize that this is the last time, that the buck stops here, it's time to fish or cut bait.

Umm don't you mean Theory Of A Deadman?

♪Well it ain't no surprise
That you'd turn me on and leave♪

Sarah