Ask Me Help Desk - Our poor Starby

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Originally Posted by HistorianChick

Woo-hoo!!!! I have another blob!!!! :D

YAY!!! :)

The bright green blobs are fun.

Congrats Chicky.

I'm a little under 100 away to my next one.

After the 6th (I believe) it's 200 per square. Yup, harder, but worth it. :)

Awww... but we love you, Sir Stringer! :)

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Originally Posted by HistorianChick

Awww.... but we love ya, Sir Stringer! :)

That is worth much more... thanks... but...

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Originally Posted by Stringer

I only have...3 (and one of those was 'free') :(

Sweetie, it's just a green square. In the long run, it really doesn't mean that much.

We love you, tons and tons. :)

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There :D

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Sweetie, it's just a green square. In the long run, it really doesn't mean that much.

We love you, tons and tons. :)

Thanks... me too... but...

If they don't mean that much, then... why are ya'all jumping around so much... :p

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Originally Posted by HistorianChick

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There :D

Now that is one that I will treasure hon :D... can you move it under my avy??

I only have one stringer. So don't feel bad.

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i only have one stringer. so dont feel bad.

Thanks, but I have been here for two years... :(

Bye for a while... going to sulk... (not really)

No sulking allowed.

Go have fun.

Smile, it makes people wonder what you're thinking. :)

Hi, alty, I know everyone here is giving positve assumptions, but no one really knows what's going on. And I for one am perturbed at that because am in healthcare and everything is black or white and no grey areas. This all grey.

So, love, give us some positive information, I know we all offer hugs, kisses and loved starby to death because of her attitude but giving your all is somewhat overdone.

I have taken care of many many palliative clients, some with DNR orders on them, so when it gets down to the nity grity, I am the one who can't adminster CPR because the DNR order says NO! so I make them comfortable and administer ice to lips and change bedlinnen, luvvy. So just where is starby now, is she in my area of my expertise or is she getting better, or don't you know.

Sorry, but I am a realist and always will be because that is what I have to be for palliative clients I care for.

Annie

Hi Annie,

Starby is in Medicine Hat, in the hospital.

Her liver is no longer functioning and one of her kidney's has completely shut down.

Her parents have signed a DNR and the doctors are not hopeful that she'll survive more then 4 weeks.

When I talked to her she sounded okay, not great, but to me it was music to my ears. I thought she sounded pretty level headed and coherent, until I talked to her Aunt and realized that everything she said to me was way off.

I haven't heard from her since last week. Her Aunt writes me when she has news, but it seems that Starby's parents and siblings are keeping the rest of the family out of the loop as much as they can.

Even if she did survive this she'd be in hospital or a home for the rest of her life. Her bones are basically ash. The injury she received to her leg will not heal, or so the doctors have said. She'd be in a wheel chair for the rest of her days and she lives alone, she wouldn't be able to do it on her own.

Also, she would have to survive for the next 6 months without a functioning liver and only one working kidney before she's even be considered for a transplant. Right now she wouldn't survive the surgery, also, because her liver was damaged due to alcoholism she's not even eligible for the transplant list until she's been clean for at least 6 months.

It's a tough spot, it seems to be lose/lose no matter what.

On the bright side, she's allowed to make trips outside every day now. Her friend Sally goes to the hospital whenever she can and she tells Starby how much we love her and miss her.

Sadly, even though I have hope, I don't think she's going to survive this.

I've had a lot of experience with liver failure and I know that this is a death sentence, it's just a matter of time.

It truly would be a miracle if she survived.

Hugs Tickle. Sorry that this is bad news.

So much for upbeat Friday. We can still hope!

There is always room for hope

Hope springs eternal.

I'm still hoping, but I can't help but be realistic.

The odds aren't in her favor, not at all.

Hope is all we have left.

Was it Will Rogers that said "Plan for the worst, then everything that happens is gravy" or Mark Twain?

I stiil want to get just one more greenie from her, or give one.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Hi Annie,

Starby is in Medicine Hat, in the hospital.

Her liver is no longer functioning and one of her kidney's has completely shut down.

Her parents have signed a DNR and the doctors are not hopeful that she'll survive more then 4 weeks.

When I talked to her she sounded okay, not great, but to me it was music to my ears. I thought she sounded pretty level headed and coherent, until I talked to her Aunt and realized that everything she said to me was way off.

I haven't heard from her since last week. Her Aunt writes me when she has news, but it seems that Starby's parents and siblings are keeping the rest of the family out of the loop as much as they can.

Even if she did survive this she'd be in hospital or a home for the rest of her life. Her bones are basically ash. The injury she received to her leg will not heal, or so the doctors have said. She'd be in a wheel chair for the rest of her days and she lives alone, she wouldn't be able to do it on her own.

Also, she would have to survive for the next 6 months without a functioning liver and only one working kidney before she's even be considered for a transplant. Right now she wouldn't survive the surgery, also, because her liver was damaged due to alcoholism she's not even eligible for the transplant list until she's been clean for at least 6 months.

It's a tough spot, it seems to be lose/lose no matter what.

On the bright side, she's allowed to make trips outside every day now. Her friend Sally goes to the hospital whenever she can and she tells Starby how much we love her and miss her.

Sadly, even though I have hope, I don't think she's going to survive this.

I've had alot of experience with liver failure and I know that this is a death sentence, it's just a matter of time.

It truly would be a miracle if she survived.

Hugs Tickle. Sorry that this is bad news.

Damn.

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Originally Posted by Catsmine

Was it Will Rogers that said "Plan for the worst, then everything that happens is gravy" or Mark Twain?

I stiil wanna get just one more greenie from her, or give one.

You can give one but getting one won't be easy.

Are you sure that's the quote?

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Are you sure that's the quote?

It's close.

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Damn.

Sorry Stringer.

I've said it all before, but not in one post. I know it's hard to see it straight on, to realize that hope really is all we have.

I still hope though. I can't help it, even though my brain says it's silly to have hope when there doesn't seem to be any.

Miracles happen. We may get one. But at what cost? She'll be dependent on her parents for the rest of her life, her worst nightmare.

At this point I just hope she's not in pain and knows that she's loved. :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Sorry Stringer.

I've said it all before, but not in one post. I know it's hard to see it straight on, to realize that hope really is all we have.

I still hope though. I can't help it, even though my brain says it's silly to have hope when there doesn't seem to be any.

Miracles happen. We may get one. But at what cost? She'll be dependant on her parents for the rest of her life, her worst nightmare.

At this point I just hope she's not in pain and knows that she's loved. :)

Trying to be as succint as Stringer -- YUP.

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Originally Posted by Catsmine

Trying to be as succint as Stringer -- YUP.

Damn.

I didn't mean to bring everyone down.

Tickle asked for the truth, so I told her.

This isn't news to any of you, but I know it's hard to hear it all at once, to see the whole picture instead of just bits and pieces.

Darnit, I feel like I just sweared in front of my kids instead of saying it under my breath. :(

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Damn.

I didn't mean to bring everyone down.

Tickle asked for the truth, so I told her.

This isn't news to any of you, but I know it's hard to hear it all at once, to see the whole picture instead of just bits and pieces.

Darnit, I feel like I just sweared in front of my kids instead of saying it under my breath. :(

Damn..

Here's the soap... :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Damn....!

Here's the soap.....:rolleyes:

Hey!

Pthttt, that doesn't taste good at all! :(

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Hey!

Pthttt, that doesn't taste good at all! :(

Here's a Corona... help? :D:D:eek:

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Here's a Corona....help? :D:D:eek:

A man that knows his way to my heart.

I love Corona.

Thanks much Mr. Stringer dear. :)

::hiccup::

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

A man that knows his way to my heart.

I love Corona.

Thanks much Mr. Stringer dear. :)

::hiccup::

Now, please sit over here and tell me all about those little 'dirty' words that you can't seem to resist saying... ;)

I'Mmmmmm... listening dear...

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Damn.

I didn't mean to bring everyone down.

Tickle asked for the truth, so I told her.

This isn't news to any of you, but I know it's hard to hear it all at once, to see the whole picture instead of just bits and pieces.

Darnit, I feel like I just sweared in front of my kids instead of saying it under my breath. :(

Hi alty, did I miss something, a post from you, a PM regarding this? Because I can't find any explanation.

Tick

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Hi Annie,

Starby is in Medicine Hat, in the hospital.

Her liver is no longer functioning and one of her kidney's has completely shut down.

Her parents have signed a DNR and the doctors are not hopeful that she'll survive more then 4 weeks.

When I talked to her she sounded okay, not great, but to me it was music to my ears. I thought she sounded pretty level headed and coherent, until I talked to her Aunt and realized that everything she said to me was way off.

I haven't heard from her since last week. Her Aunt writes me when she has news, but it seems that Starby's parents and siblings are keeping the rest of the family out of the loop as much as they can.

Even if she did survive this she'd be in hospital or a home for the rest of her life. Her bones are basically ash. The injury she received to her leg will not heal, or so the doctors have said. She'd be in a wheel chair for the rest of her days and she lives alone, she wouldn't be able to do it on her own.

Also, she would have to survive for the next 6 months without a functioning liver and only one working kidney before she's even be considered for a transplant. Right now she wouldn't survive the surgery, also, because her liver was damaged due to alcoholism she's not even eligible for the transplant list until she's been clean for at least 6 months.

It's a tough spot, it seems to be lose/lose no matter what.

On the bright side, she's allowed to make trips outside every day now. Her friend Sally goes to the hospital whenever she can and she tells Starby how much we love her and miss her.

Sadly, even though I have hope, I don't think she's going to survive this.

I've had alot of experience with liver failure and I know that this is a death sentence, it's just a matter of time.

It truly would be a miracle if she survived.

Hugs Tickle. Sorry that this is bad news.

Thanks alty, ignore my other post. Hugs back

Tick

Alty, personally, I'd rather have a sad truth than to have bits and pieces of false hope... Im glad you gave the update on how starby is doing.

To look at her situation realisticly is sad. It really is. Because she is a wonderful lady and I really do wish that she'd get better and survive this!

(Ps: I'm sorry if this post is written in a clumsy way... just so hard to find the right words when it comes to this. So many things are raceing trhough my head.)

There aren't any "right" words Roxy, just whatever's in your heart and you said that very well. :)

I did get another update from Jo's Aunt, a letter from Jo's mom. Jo's Aunt asked me not to post it but I will tell you the most important part.

Jo is asking to see her family so she can make peace with them. She wants to tell everyone she loves them.

She's slipped back into being paranoid and not at all clear.

Take care all and Happy Fathers day to all the dads. :)

Thanks, hon.

This doesn't sound good, but we'll keep the positives flowing for her.

Yup, I second that Cat, thanks Alty. :)

At least it sounds like she is trying and willing to make peace with her family before it is too late... She needs to have that chance with her family.

Thank you for the updates Alty. You have been awfully quiet lately, I hope you are going OK (well, as OK as you can be right now)

What a long painful journey. God is good and he keeps his promises. I am happy as well for Jo that she is able to have moments of clarity where she is able to know that she is loved and wants to leave her family knowing that they are loved as well. My prayers will be that those moments of clarity will be full of love and void of pain. God Bless Jo

Thanks for that Alty. If anything comes of this, I hope she gets her wish and makes peace with her family.

Still miss her...

I don't know her, but I miss the chance to get to know her :( :( I'm praying so hard for her. I really want to meet her and get to know her before its too late