I wish mine was boring, mine is eventful as heck!
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I wish mine was boring, mine is eventful as heck!
I'm hungry!
Just saying.
Oh Rome. I hope things get better between you and your fiancé pronto...Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
4th of July is coming up; maybe you should plan something special?
EDIT:: CRAP. Got my months wrong.. May JUNE July... haha
Sarah
I just don't know what to do, how much longer I can take her being emotionally closed off
Have you told her that ↑Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Sarah
I think her and I are going to sit down tonight(whether she likes it or not) and put it all out there and then I will have a really tough decision to make
Yes you should Rome.
Remember no "you" "you" "you" more we, we, we..
No need to tell the guy with a gazillion greenies how to communicate ;)
Sarah
Ha ha
Awl you're making me blush.
I am going to tell her that we need to come to some type of agreement, some type of way to resolve the issue we have right now. I hope she's willing to work on it, if not I might have to take my own advice that I give daily here, it's always the hardest to take your own advice.
Yeah, it is hard to take your own advice... agree totally.
Well goodluck to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
When it comes to "those" types of conversations it's best to keep it short. I'd say 1/2 hour at most-- unless you want a snowball effect and have everything unravel like a ball of yarn [DARN two idioms].
Well.. be direct Rome- have everything you want to say written down until you see her [I forget stuff and then I'm like DARN wish I remembered to say ______].
We'll be here to dry those man tears.
Sarah
Ain't that the truth. I can dish it, but it's really hard to take it. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
You're doing what's best for you Rome, you cannot be expected to live like this forever, that's not fair, that's not a relationship, that's not give and take.
You're a strong guy, you're a sweet guy, you know what to do, you'll do it, and no matter what the outcome, you'll go on, you'll be okay.
I hope she decides to get help, even if it's talking to me. It will hurt me to hear what she has gone through but if it even helps a little finally telling someone what happened, I'll gladly put that weight on my shoulders
I hope she does too Rome, I really do. Not only for you but for her too, she needs to get this off her shoulders.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
If she'd rather talk to a stranger, or a group of us, maybe you could talk her into joining AMHD. You know what kind of advice she'd get. Maybe it would help to hear it from people that don't know her.
Just a thought. :)
I agree with Alty.. She doesn't have to tell people that she's Rome's GF/Fiance/--w/e
Sarah
I am going to have her read Alten's post and see what she thinks, and maybe try to talk her into posting her own story. Or at least writing it down on paper to get it out.
Write it down, scream it, cry it out-- as long as it's out.
Sarah
Writing it out really helps, even if she doesn't share it with anyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
I just happened to write mine for everyone to read. I needed the feedback, the confirmation that I can be who I am even though I was who I was (did that make sense)?
Maybe buy her a journal, a really pretty one with pink flowers on it (buy two, send one to me ;)) someplace to write down everything she feels she can't speak of outloud. Then, if she wants to share it, she can.
Like all I have going on in my head is the new Daughtry song "no surprise" because after the talk, if she doesn't decide to change or make some type of effort, then that's what it's going to come to and it shouldn't come as a surprise
She must know that you aren't happy Rome, so it probably won't be a surprise.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
I imagine this isn't the first time you two have talked about this, but she has to realize that this is the last time, that the buck stops here, it's time to fish or cut bait.
Umm don't you mean Theory Of A Deadman?
♪Well it ain't no surprise
That you'd turn me on and leave♪
Sarah
Nope No Surprise is off daughtry's new album, heard them perform it the first time on american idol and I have to say its pretty good =PQuote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
But yah Theory of a deadman has that song too. Lols
This is similar to this Boom Boom Pow room I was in today. Nice thread Muddy!
Happy Tuesday dudes and dudets!
Happy Tuesday to you good sir, happy Tuesday to all the ladies around as well
Rome, how did the talk go with the fiancé? Did you end up sitting down together?
Yea we did, it was a lot more of the stress on her mind that I didn't know she was holding in. On Saturday, our oldest had a tee ball game, well her ex's mom and sister came and started saying things about my fiancé having to work and his sister said "Wow, great mother, doesn't even show up to support her child" and it really hurt my fiancé because she has to work because he's not paying ANY child support at all and hasn't ever. And it made my fiancé feel like she was a bad mother for not being there for our oldest. She finally let it out and she cried for almost and hour and a half because she feels like she's always doing the wrong thing and feels bad about it.
It seems pretty unfair of her ex's parents to be judging her... from what I remember, they didn't raise a little angel did they? :cool:
You two will be fine. Truthfully, a way needs to be established to where the ex's family isn't a part of her life (I realize they will be apart of the children's lives). I wouldn't want people around me that bring me down. As soon as you start judging the ability of parenting from another person, you had best make sure you look at yourself first.
That's what I said, in my family, we don't hold our tongues for no one. And for the past year I've been taking the high road, but when you insult my fiancé like that, in front of me. I was like the guy from Gladiator "Unleash hell" and I just said "well maybe if your son and brother paid child support she wouldn't have to work every Saturday." and they were taken aback by it. My fiancé has told them off since then and said they are not to be involved in her life anymore, if they come to the games then they are to be quiet and watch them, not causing problems. If they do, I have a friend who's a police officer that has said he will come and escort them.
If they try to say stuff to me then we will see a side of Rome that nobody wants to be on. I've held my tongue for too long and my fiancé said if they say anything, I can unleash the beast and she will have my back 110%
Hey boys,
Rome glad you talked with your fiancé about things. It's a tough road and especially when there are children that must be shielded from the nonsense. The thing is that we as adults have to protect them which often means we have to keep things bottled up so the kids don't see it. I'm guilty of that at times too and sometimes I break down. It startles my son when he sees mommy cry or upset. So I try to hide it. But we all have a breaking point and it just seems like your fiancé is there.
Kc, are you in better spirits than yesterday? Hope you're well-rested.
I think I'm busybusybusy today. :(
Yea, she has been dealing with a lot from that family. When she lived there, they gave her so many restrictions it was like dating a 16 year old. She was 25 and they gave her a curfew of 12(even when they didn't watch the girls) she had to do all the cleaning around the house, provide for the girls with no help from the father and now that she's living with me(after his sister and her had it out over his sister mouthing off about her), since then it's been constant stuff being said about how she's not doing the right thing, she needs to be with their father to be a family, and just tons of things telling her she's doing wrong.
Yes Nikos, I am in a much better mood today than I was yesterday, although I am a bit hungover... can't be perfect huh?
Hungover on a Tuesday?? :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
You're a wild man.
Wild... not really. Seems I get more wild during the week than I do on the weekends... weird, I know.
Yeah I was at KC's last night... it was WILD!
http://blogs.seattleweekly.com/buzzerbeater/drunk.jpg
I told that dude to get out of my shower... :cool:
You took that picture of me! I didn't think you would post it!
Morning everyone.
It is so good to hear that you and your fiancé got that one on one chat. Communication is key. I bet you are relived and happy some of the weight must be lifted. Maybe even if there wasn't any 'Boom Boom' sounds like there was probably a lot of comfort time.
Ha ha there was a lot of comfort time, and some boom boom. I think she needed to get that weight off her shoulders. I told her she needs to be more open and that if she can't be open with me than the relationship won't work. She agreed and said she will try to be more open but it won't be a over night change as she's not used to someone being there for her all the time. I told her I didn't expect an over night change, just an effort.
I am so excited and relived for you.
Glad things are looking up.
Maintaining the lawn is so much work! :D
Lol yep it is. We have a free night Friday we are spending together. The girls are going to their grand parents house for the night, so we will be going to a Chinese Auction, then I might think of something special to do for her. No idea what though
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