Ask Me Help Desk - How can I get a job with nothing to put on resume and poor interviewing skills?

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I wish I did then it could be some sort of an excuse.

You had mentioned 2011. How come? What significance does that year have?

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

You had mentioned 2011. How come? What significance does that year have?

Long story short this guy I really like online hung himself while we web camming each other. It was all my fault because I couldn't even get a job to come see him. Maybe If I wasn't so stupid & worthless I could have saved him and maybe he would have been alive today. Could have been happy or at least friends.

Now the same thing is happening again with another guy I like but this time.. I don't know I'm just a fool.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

It was all my fault because I couldn't even get a job to come see him.

His death was NOT your fault. He had bigger problems than you could have dealt with or solved. He committed suicide on camera?

And why can't you get a job within three months, especially now that you have a killer resume and me (us) behind you?

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Originally Posted by despicableme

Now the same thing is happening again with another guy I like but this time..I dunno i'm just a fool.

Um, why can't the guy travel to see you?

Stop it with the self-denigrating comments, for pete's sake.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

Now the same thing is happening again with another guy I like but this time..I dunno i'm just a fool.

I am sorry for the loss of your friend, but I don't see how that is your fault.

Due to the fact this thread is taking a different route, I would like to ask you when you first started to feel this badly about yourself?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

His death was NOT your fault. He had bigger problems than you could have dealt with or solved. He committed suicide on camera?

And why can't you get a job within three months, especially now that you have a killer resume and me (us) behind you?

He wanted me to watch because he told me it was all my fault because I didn't see him. I thought he was just playing but I guess not. Sound unbeilveble huh?

To answer your second question I don't know I don't have an excuse this time.

Well I found put the place I had interviewed a long time ago for is hiring people but the man never called back and now I'm kind of afraid to call about just to be rejected. Do I apply again? Yeah I have issues with calling people.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

Well i found put the place i had interviewed a long time ago for is hiring people but the man never called back and now im kinda afraid to call about just to be rejected. Do I apply again? Yeah I have issues with calling people.

You can apply there or at other places. There were lots of possibilities on that jobs board. You really need someone to role-play interviewing with you.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

He wanted me to watch because he told me it was all my fault because I didn't see him. I thought he was just playing but I guess not. Sound unbeilveble huh?

I wonder if he really followed through. Sounds extremely manipulative and cruel.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You can apply there or at other places. There were lots of possibilities on that jobs board. You really need someone to role-play interviewing with you.

I know.. where can I find someone? With my sister it's not the same I need a professional or something I think.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Um, why can't the guy travel to see you?

Stop it with the self-denigrating comments, for pete's sake.

I don't know he never said so.

I can try but I can't make any promises.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

I am sorry for the loss of your friend, but I don't see how that is your fault.

Due to the fact this thread is taking a different route, I would like to ask you when you first started to feel this badly about yourself?

I don't know I always felt badly about myself since high school but I guess it worsened after I left. I don't know I can never tell.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I know..where can I find someone? With my sister it's not the same I need a professional or something I think.

So let's find a professional to help you prep for this.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I don't know I always felt badly about myself since highschool but I guess it worsened after I left. I dunno I can never tell.

Are your parents aware of your depression?

Listen, this goes deeper than not having or being able to find a job.

I believe that before you begin your search for a job, you need to speak to a your parents about your feelings. Yes, they want you to get a job, and I can understand that, however, if you do get a job, your employer and co workers will sense your depression.

You need to work on you first.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Are your parents aware of your depression?

Listen, this goes deeper than not having or being able to find a job.

I believe that before you begin your search for a job, you need to speek to a your parents about your feelings. Yes, they want you to get a job, and I can understand that, however, if you do get a job, your employer and co workers will sense your depression.

You need to work on you first.

I think so, but if so what can they do about it? Nothing as far as I can tell. I talked to them about feeling "worthless" and other stuff but they just told me that I'm young and everything is going to be OK.

And I'd rather have a job and be depressed than not have one. Plenty of people have jobs and are depressed. That's no excuse.

By having job I do work on myself. I need money FIRST than I work on myself.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I think so, but if so what can they do about it? Nothing as far as I can tell. I talked to them about feeling "worthless" and other stuff but they just told me that I'm young and everything is going to be ok.

And I'd rather have a job and be depressed than not have one. Plenty of people have jobs and are depressed. That's no excuse.

By having job I do work on myself. I need money FIRST than I work on myself.

Your parents have health insurance that probably still covers you and any counseling and medical care you would get. And tell them that no, it's NOT going to be okay. You want the chance to sit down with a counselor for at least three sessions. And no, you don't want a job and be depressed -- automatic failure because you'll end up losing the job, and then will feel even worse about yourself.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I think so, but if so what can they do about it? Nothing as far as I can tell. I talked to them about feeling "worthless" and other stuff but they just told me that I'm young and everything is going to be ok.

And I'd rather have a job and be depressed than not have one. Plenty of people have jobs and are depressed. That's no excuse.

By having job I do work on myself. I need money FIRST than I work on myself.

True, however, you don't even want a job that requires ANY communication with people.

That's not real typical for a twenty year old.

The fact that you are also having web cam relationships and thinking you are "worthless" leads me to believe that you may be suffering from depression.

I doubt your parents know the severity of your situation.

You may need counseling.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Your parents have health insurance that probably still covers you and any counseling and medical care you would get. And tell them that no, it's NOT going to be okay. You want the chance to sit down with a counselor for at least three sessions. And no, you don't want a job and be depressed -- automatic failure because you'll end up losing the job, and then will feel even worse about yourself.

They don't have health insurance. I asked them once before. My mother is not willing to pay extra for health insurance. And my father doesn't have it either. I don't think I'm depressed anyway I don't act like it. I just need to stop being stupid and get my act together.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

True, however, you don't even want a job that requires ANY communication with people.

That's not real typical for a twenty year old.

The fact that you are also having web cam relationships and thinking you are "worthless" leads me to believe that you may be suffering from depression.

I doubt your parents know the severity of your situation.

You may need counseling.

It's not that I don't want one that requires communication I would rather not but I can't avoid it. But I can't even pass an interview for those type of jobs because I need to have those communication skills.

And what's wrong with having a web cam relationship? No other boy would want me, hell I don't want myself so that's the only kind I could get.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

They don't have health insurance. I asked them once before. My mother is not willing to pay extra for health insurance. And my father doesn't have it either. I don't think I'm depressed anyway I don't act like it. I just need to stop being stupid and get my act together.

Not depressed?

Your whole thread reeks of depression!

There are counselors who work on a sliding scale or who will barter or will certainly work out something with you, maybe putting off any payment until you get a job later. Want me to find one for you? ;)

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Not depressed??

Your whole thread reeks of depression!

I suppose so. Then what to do about it?

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I suppose so. Then what to do about it?

Find a counselor. Read my previous reply.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

There are counselors who work on a sliding scale or who will barter or will certainly work out something with you, maybe putting off any payment until you get a job later. Want me to find one for you? ;)

Noooo. Please don't you are already doing too much as it is. I don't deserve your help at all. I should have this all figured out already by myself. Don't even know why I posted at all.

Don't need a damn counselor don't need anything. If I was a better person and did what I suppose to I wouldn't need all of this. Just more time and money being wasted on somenoe can't do nothing right.

I'll just keep applying to jobs and keep failing than someone will take pity and hire me... then all would be better everything would be solved. And I will be happy. That's what I will do don't need to spend money I don't have on some damn bullsh*t feel good crap.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

Noooo. Please don't you are already doing to much as it is. I don't deserve your help at all. I should have this all figured out already by myself. Don't even know why I posted at all.

Don't need a damn counselor don't need anything. If I was a better person and did what I suppose to I wouldn't need all of this. Just more time and money being wasted on somenoe can't do nothing right.

I'd be out of a job as a counselor if all my potential clients felt that way.

We all need a leg up now and then. Now it's your turn. You need an unbiased person to be with to role-play and also to work on this depression thing, and to find out why you are looking for love on the Internet. And no, at 20 few people have it all figured out. I'm still figuring it out at 67.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I'll just keep applying to jobs and keep failing than someone will take pity and hire me...then all would be better everything would be solved. And I will be happy. That's what I will do don't need to spend money I don't have on some damn bullsh*t feel good crap.

Well, having that attitude won't slove anything.

Look, WG and I are trying to help you out. It is up to you if you want to accept it.

Allow WG to look up the places for you...

I can't stop anyone.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I can't stop anyone.

Would you check out some counselors if I found some names for you?

Isn't there an employment thingy coming up this week for you? To learn how to do a resume, etc.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Would you check out some counselors if I found some names for you?

I'm not doing anything else right? All their going to say is that I have no problems, I haven't been abused, I'm not blind or deaf, no disability, I'm just selfish and lazy good for nothing scum.

But yes, I will check out some counselors.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I'm not doing anything else right? All their going to say is that I have no problems, I haven't been abused, I'm not blind or deaf, no disability, I'm just selfish and lazy good for nothing scum.

You are almost funny. Now, what do you mean you aren't doing anything else? I'm not going to knock myself out to find you some names if you plan to just sit and spin in front of your computer.

Do I have to drive up from Chicago and wrestle you to the floor myself?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You are almost funny. Now, what do you mean you aren't doing anything else? I'm not going to knock myself out to find you some names if you plan to just sit and spin in front of your computer.

Do I have to drive up from Chicago and wrestle you to the floor myself?

You're right, your right I'm sorry. I'm taking my frustration out on you instead of myself where it belongs. I'll find the name myself you guys have been doing too much seriously, I'll find some names be scared as hell to call but I'll try.

No you don't have to drive anywhere.

I'm sorry this is why don't dersve help from kind people like you guys. I ask for help then I act all rude, arguing why I don't need help, then back to square one. Guess just need someone to validate my worthlessness.

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Originally Posted by despicableme

You're right, your right I'm sorry. I'm taking my frustration out on you instead of myself where it belongs. I'll find the name myself you guys have been doing to much seriously, i'll find some names be scared as hell to call but i'll try.

No you don't have to drive anywhere.

It would take me only a hour or less of travel. :) I could take you for a ride in my neat little Dodge Neon and we could turn up the volume real high on a One Direction CD.

I do want a report now and then as to your progress. Remember, I'm only an hour away...

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Originally Posted by despicableme

I'm sorry this is why don't dersve help from kind people like you guys. I ask for help then I act all rude, arguing why I don't need help, then back to square one. guess just need someone to validate my worthlessness.

Okay. I'll go for it. Now let's make you worth something. :D

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Isn't there an employment thingy coming up this week for you? to learn how to do a resume, etc.?

Yes lots of things coming up, on the 8th a career fair for aldi a bunch of hospitals and stuff and this goodwill program to help make resumes and stuff..

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Originally Posted by despicableme

Yes lots of things coming up, on the 8th a career fair for aldi a bunch of hospitals and stuff and this goodwill program to help make resumes and stuff..

You can teach them a thing to two now about resume construction. You are planning to attend the career fair, right? And will reapply at Goodwill, right?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Okay. I'll go for it. Now let's make you worth something. :D

Haha, You are funny. That drive would be nice though...