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  • May 6, 2014, 01:42 PM
    ccordy30
    Child support
    Hi. I was paying child support for the past 3 years for a child I took 3
    DNA test for in which the child is not mine. How can I file a civil law suit for my money back??
  • May 6, 2014, 01:54 PM
    smoothy
    Were any of those DNA tests ordered by the court? Private DNA tests are not acceptable in a court.
  • May 6, 2014, 04:15 PM
    cdad
    Was it court ordered support? Were you married when the child was born? If you were married then you are the presumed father until a counterclaim is filed in court.
  • May 6, 2014, 04:29 PM
    ScottGem
    Pertinent questions. If you've been paying support without a court order, you did so voluntarily so can't sue for it to be returned. If you are paying due to a court order, why was DNA not done by the court BEFORE the support was awarded?
  • May 6, 2014, 11:11 PM
    GV70
    The laws vary from state to state .
    Generally child support cannot be recovered.
  • May 7, 2014, 12:42 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    First you will have to get the current child support order, over turned. You will need to continue to pay support, till it is.

    In some states, if you signed birth certificate, or if you were declared the father and agreed. You may have limited time to challenge the support order.

    So first you will need to challenge the support order in court, get a court ordered DNA test, and them make a motion to have child support ended.

    Until that time, child support is still payable
  • May 7, 2014, 04:33 AM
    ccordy30
    2 of the DNA's were private one of them were through the court. The case is closed now only because I paid out. but I was told I need to file a civil lawsuit against her for my money back but I have no idea how to do it or where to start it

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    Was it court ordered support? Were you married when the child was born? If you were married then you are the presumed father until a counterclaim is filed in court.

    Yes it was court ordered but we were not married.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    First you will have to get the current child support order, over turned. You will need to continue to pay support, till it is.

    In some states, if you signed birth certificate, or if you were declared the father and agreed. You may have limited time to challenge the support order.

    So first you will need to challenge the support order in court, get a court ordered DNA test, and them make a motion to have child support ended.

    Until that time, child support is still payable


    The case is closed. But once I proved the child wasn't mine I feel the child support should have been terminated especially after 3 Dna test.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    The laws vary from state to state .
    Generally child support cannot be recovered.

    Well I was told to file a civil law suit against her but I have no idea where or how to do that.. .

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Pertinent questions. If you've been paying support without a court order, you did so voluntarily so can't sue for it to be returned. If you are paying due to a court order, why was DNA not done by the court BEFORE the support was awarded?

    They didn't do a DNA before because the mother had forged
    My name on the birth certificate at the time of the child being born.. .
    So by my name already being listed as the father it was nothing I could do.
    But yes it was court ordered though...
  • May 7, 2014, 04:45 AM
    J_9
    What is your general location?
  • May 7, 2014, 04:47 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    What is your general location?

    Dade County/Miami, Florida
  • May 7, 2014, 04:48 AM
    J_9
    The mother can't forge your name. If you were not married you would be required to sign snow Affidavit of Paternity and show a legal form of identification.
  • May 7, 2014, 05:00 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Were any of those DNA tests ordered by the court? Private DNA tests are not acceptable in a court.

    2 of the DNA's were private one of them were through the court. The case is closed now only because I paid out. But I was told I need to file a civil lawsuit against her for my money back but I have no idea how to do it or where to start it
  • May 7, 2014, 05:03 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    2 of the DNA's were private one of them were through the court. The case is closed now only because I paid out. But I was told I need to file a civil lawsuit against her for my money back but I have no idea how to do it or where to start it

    You already said that. Your question will be responded to once one of our volunteer experts comes online.
  • May 7, 2014, 05:06 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Pertinent questions. If you've been paying support without a court order, you did so voluntarily so can't sue for it to be returned. If you are paying due to a court order, why was DNA not done by the court BEFORE the support was awarded?

    It was court ordered but they didn't Grant me a Dna before the child support started because at the time of the child's birth the mother signed the birth certificate. I wasn't present neither did I authorize her to do sign
    My name.
  • May 7, 2014, 05:08 AM
    ScottGem
    Sorry, but this doesn't make sense. A mother can list you as the father on the birth certificate, no forgery necessary. If she forges your signature on an Affidavits of Paternity, then when she takes you to court for support you simply tell the judge that you did not sign the Affidavits and that you want a paternity test done.

    You say the case is closed now. So I'm gathering that you finally got the court to order a DNA test which showed you are not the father and the child support was revoked and you are not paying any longer.

    Now you want to try to recover what you paid. Bottom line here is you need to prove that the mother knew you were not the father and fraudulently when after you for support. Not an easy thing to do, especially since you didn't fight it properly initially.

    You need to hire an attorney to file a civil suit against her. And, even in the unlikely event that you do win, do you think she has money to repay you?
  • May 7, 2014, 05:17 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Sorry, but this doesn't make sense. A mother can list you as the father on the birth certificate, no forgery necessary. If she forges your signature on an Affidavits of Paternity, then when she takes you to court for support you simply tell the judge that you did not sign the Affidavits and that you want a paternity test done.

    You say the case is closed now. So I'm gathering that you finally got the court to order a DNA test which showed you are not the father and the child support was revoked and you are not paying any longer.

    Now you want to try to recover what you paid. Bottom line here is you need to prove that the mother knew you were not the father and fraudulently when after you for support. Not an easy thing to do, especially since you didn't fight it properly initially.

    You need to hire an attorney to file a civil suit against her. And, even in the unlikely event that you do win, do you think she has money to repay you?

    I told the judge exactly what you just stated he ignored me. The case is closed only because I paid it out until it reached a zero balance. I agree I didn't fight this case properly I wish I had known about this ask.com before now. In the event I am successful in the civil law suit, she is a broke
    money hungry @#&@%#^ I would be waiting until she file taxes in order for her to have a dime.. .

    I was told with proof OF THE DNA'S I can file a civil law suit against her and haveher served myself to avoid paying an attorney. I was told to find my own forms on line. But I have no idea where to start looking..
  • May 7, 2014, 05:24 AM
    ScottGem
    I'm sorry, but it still doesn't make sense. What do you mean "paid it out until it reached a zero balance.". That's not how child support works. A court orders a monthly amount of support to be paid until the child reaches the age of majority.

    Second, garnishing a person's tax refund (assuming she gets a tax refund) is not easy. Winning a lawsuit is usually the easy part (though I don't think it will be in your case), but collecting is even harder.

    It is a shame you didn't get proper legal advice at the time, and I still don't think you are understanding what actually happened, but I suspect you tried to do this without a lawyer or legal advice and you need one now.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    I was told with proof OF THE DNA'S I can file a civil law suit against her and haveher served myself to avoid paying an attorney. I was told to find my own forms on line. But I have no idea where to start looking..

    Who told you this? Yes you need to shop around for a Family Law attorney. Many will give you a free consult. You can try a local law schools, many have clinics that will help you prepare the paperwork. But even if you do that, going into court without an attorney is not a good idea. And it is likely an attorney will cost more than you can collect.
  • May 8, 2014, 03:51 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    The mother can't forge your name. If you were not married you would be required to sign snow Affidavit of Paternity and show a legal form of identification.

    I was not at the hospital to sign at all... Neither did the mother have any ofmy identifications
  • May 8, 2014, 03:57 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    I'm sorry, but it still doesn't make sense. What do you mean "paid it out until it reached a zero balance.". That's not how child support works. A court orders a monthly amount of support to be paid until the child reaches the age of majority.

    Second, garnishing a person's tax refund (assuming she gets a tax refund) is not easy. Winning a lawsuit is usually the easy part (though I don't think it will be in your case), but collecting is even harder.

    It is a shame you didn't get proper legal advice at the time, and I still don't think you are understanding what actually happened, but I suspect you tried to do this without a lawyer or legal advice and you need one now.

    Who told you this? Yes you need to shop around for a Family Law attorney. Many will give you a free consult. You can try a local law schools, many have clinics that will help you prepare the paperwork. But even if you do that, going into court without an attorney is not a good idea. And it is likely an attorney will cost more than you can collect.

    I owed a total of 8,790 Retroactive support.. Child support took 55.00 a month from my payroll check. And for the past 2 years intercepted my taxes..
  • May 8, 2014, 04:17 PM
    talaniman
    Have you even talked to an attorney that can save you from paying further child support? Have you talked to one that can reopen your case? A guy who pays his child support out, NEEDS a lawyer in the worst way or Google on line court forms as there are many sights that you can download forms for a price. The county clerk may have forms for a small claims court. Have you been to the county, or city clerk? You pay a filing fee and submit the form they give you.

    Better to pay a lawyer. At least talk to one. How much are we talking about?

    How To File a Lawsuit

    Suing and winning are two different things, and may cost you the fees of her attorney.
  • May 8, 2014, 05:11 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Have you even talked to an attorney that can save you from paying further child support? Have you talked to one that can reopen your case? A guy who pays his child support out, NEEDS a lawyer in the worst way or Google on line court forms as there are many sights that you can download forms for a price. The county clerk may have forms for a small claims court. Have you been to the county, or city clerk? You pay a filing fee and submit the form they give you.

    Better to pay a lawyer. At least talk to one. How much are we talking about?

    How To File a Lawsuit

    Suing and winning are two different things, and may cost you the fees of her attorney.

    Over 10k
  • May 8, 2014, 05:34 PM
    talaniman
    The only way to reopen a closed case is with fresh evidence, and taking her to court for over paying or wrongly paying requires PROOF, and the right lawyer. If you are not going to go about this in the right way, your emotional outrage (which I do not blame you for not one bit) is USELESS.

    Did you review the link I gave you? There are many like it, so stop spinning your wheels and do your HOMEWORK. Get facts and tamp down on those feelings. Consultations can be FREE. Call around and find it.
  • May 8, 2014, 05:49 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    The only way to reopen a closed case is with fresh evidence, and taking her to court for over paying or wrongly paying requires PROOF, and the right lawyer. If you are not going to go about this in the right way, your emotional outrage (which I do not blame you for not one bit) is USELESS.

    Did you review the link I gave you? There are many like it, so stop spinning your wheels and do your HOMEWORK. Get facts and tamp down on those feelings. Consultations can be FREE. Call around and find it.

    Will do.. THANK YOU A lot..
  • May 9, 2014, 01:21 AM
    GV70
    Disestablishment of Paternity - New Florida Paternity & Child Support Law
    Termination of Child Support Obligation
    The alleged father may be relieved of his child support obligation pursuant to Florida Rule of Civil Procedure 1.540(b) RELIEF FROM JUDGMENT, DECREES, OR ORDERS:
    (b) Mistakes; Inadvertence; Excusable Neglect; Newly Discovered Evidence; Fraud; etc.
    On motion and upon such terms as are just, the court may relieve a party or a party's legal representative from a final judgment, decree, order, or proceeding for the following reasons:
    • mistake, inadvertence, surprise, or excusable neglect;
    • newly discovered evidence which by due diligence could not have been discovered in time to move for a new trial or rehearing.
  • May 9, 2014, 01:25 AM
    GV70
    HICKMAN v. MILSAP, No. 5D12–1239., February 08, 2013 - FL District Court of Appeal | FindLaw

    A recent Fifth District Court of Appeals case held that a disestablishment of paternity action does not relieve the alleged father of any previously established child support arrearages.
    The Florida statute, section 742.18, which deals with disestablishment of paternity states that the disestablishment of paternity “relief shall be limited to issues of prospective child support payments and termination of parental rights, custody, and visitation rights.. . All previous lawful actions taken based on reliance on the [male's previous status as father] are confirmed retroactively but not prospectively.”
  • May 9, 2014, 04:19 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    HICKMAN v. MILSAP, No. 5D12–1239., February 08, 2013 - FL District Court of Appeal | FindLaw

    A recent Fifth District Court of Appeals case held that a disestablishment of paternity action does not relieve the alleged father of any previously established child support arrearages.
    The Florida statute, section 742.18, which deals with disestablishment of paternity states that the disestablishment of paternity “relief shall be limited to issues of prospective child support payments and termination of parental rights, custody, and visitation rights.. . All previous lawful actions taken based on reliance on the [male’s previous status as father] are confirmed retroactively but not prospectively.”

    So in this case I assume Iam screwed and might as well take it as a LOST?.
    OVER $10K DOLLARS??
  • May 9, 2014, 04:54 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    So in this case I assume Iam screwed and might as well take it as a LOST?.
    OVER $10K DOLLARS??

    It certainly looks like it. But I'm still unclear on something. Were you at the original hearing where support was awarded? Because if you were and you denied paternity and denied signing an acknowledgement of paternity and a DNA test was not performed, then something was not right with the award. You might be able to do something based on that.

    But the only way you will know is by consulting a local Family Law attorney. I'm assuming you did not do so initially. Had you been represented at the original hearing you might not have been stuck with the support and the cost of the attorney may have been less than the $10K you have had to pay out.
  • May 9, 2014, 05:45 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    It certainly looks like it. But I'm still unclear on something. Were you at the original hearing where support was awarded? Because if you were and you denied paternity and denied signing an acknowledgement of paternity and a DNA test was not performed, then something was not right with the award. You might be able to do something based on that.

    But the only way you will know is by consulting a local Family Law attorney. I'm assuming you did not do so initially. Had you been represented at the original hearing you might not have been stuck with the support and the cost of the attorney may have been less than the $10K you have had to pay out.

    At the time of the hearing I told the judge that I did not sign the birth certificate the judge said well I don't think it's nothing we can do about that now. And then from there he proceeded to tell me I am responsible for the retroactive support but they terminated all current support there was no recurring support... I never consulted an attorney at the time because I figured everything would go in my favor.I was told I can file a civil lawsuit and not a small claims lawsuit because the amount is over $5,000... So I think consulting an attorney would be my best option if any at all
    And not to mention My name is STILL ON THAT Child's birth certificate.. .
  • May 9, 2014, 06:24 AM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    So in this case I assume Iam screwed and might as well take it as a LOST?.
    OVER $10K DOLLARS??

    The case holds that an action to disestablish paternity under section 742.18 doesn't include a retroactive modification of child support paid or adjudged.

    Although I see nothing in the opinion suggesting that you cannot sue under another statute or court rule (such as Florida Rule of Civil Procedure 1.540(b), quoted above by GV70) to recover what you paid in the past.

    But, in short, yes, you probably are.
  • May 9, 2014, 06:26 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    The case holds that an action to disestablish paternity under section 742.18 doesn't include a retroactive modification of child support paid or adjudged.

    Although I see nothing in the opinion suggesting that you cannot sue under another statute or court rule to recover what you paid in the past, such a suit would appear to be barred by the doctrine of res judicata.

    Okay so what exactly are you saying in this situation??
  • May 9, 2014, 06:32 AM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    Okay so what exactly are you saying in this situation??

    What's done is done.
  • May 9, 2014, 06:34 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    What's done is done.

    Sighs...
    Okay thank You for the advice..
  • May 9, 2014, 06:50 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    At the time of the hearing I told the judge that I did not sign the birth certificate the judge said well I don't think it's nothing we can do about that now. And then from there he proceeded to tell me I am responsible for the retroactive support but they terminated all current support there was no recurring support...

    From what I quoted above it does NOT sound like the original support hearing. That's what I'm trying to get at. Based on what GV70 posted, the judge was right. He could do nothing about support owed, but could terminate the support award for future support. What I'm trying to get at was whether this was the only hearing. If not when was support originally ordered. Or was support ordered retroactively at this one hearing? If so how far back did they go?
  • May 9, 2014, 06:54 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    From what I quoted above it does NOT sound like the original support hearing. That's what I'm trying to get at. Based on what GV70 posted, the judge was right. He could do nothing about support owed, but could terminate the support award for future support. What I'm trying to get at was whether this was the only hearing. If not when was support originally ordered. Or was support ordered retroactively at this one hearing? If so how far back did they go?

    Yes everything was done at this one hearing..
    She opened the case in 2007 but they didn't get to it until 2011 they went back as far as 2007 because she was receiving government benefits
  • May 9, 2014, 07:25 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    Yes everything was done at this one hearing..
    She opened the case in 2007 but they didn't get to it until 2011 they went back as far as 2007 because she was receiving government benefits

    Ahh now it makes more sense. I suspect, if you had representation, that you could have gotten it quashed before it got to a hearing. And, again, even if you do win a lawsuit, I'm not sure how you are going to collect it.
  • May 9, 2014, 10:45 AM
    GV70
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Ahh now it makes more sense

    I cannot agree more
  • May 9, 2014, 10:47 AM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    I cannot agree more

    So what do you guys recmnd I do?
  • May 9, 2014, 01:41 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    So what do you guys recmnd I do?


    Consult an attorney
  • May 9, 2014, 02:06 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Consult an attorney

    Okay thank you very much will do would you guys happen to have any links you can share with me to find an attorney I am in Miami Florida
  • May 9, 2014, 05:26 PM
    cdad
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ccordy30 View Post
    Okay thank you very much will do would you guys happen to have any links you can share with me to find an attorney I am in Miami Florida


    You can try this link and check with them. We arent allowed to give out an individuals name here.

    The Florida Bar HOME PAGE FLABAR ONLINE


    They have a free refferal service.
  • May 9, 2014, 05:32 PM
    ccordy30
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    You can try this link and check with them. We arent allowed to give out an individuals name here.

    The Florida Bar HOME PAGE FLABAR ONLINE


    They have a free refferal service.

    Thank you all

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