I met my boyfriend to Facebook , he used to live 24 hours away so he moved down to were I live and we live with my parents, we want to get married but how do I convience my parents?
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I met my boyfriend to Facebook , he used to live 24 hours away so he moved down to were I live and we live with my parents, we want to get married but how do I convience my parents?
You are too young to get married. How old is he?
17.. We've been together for 8months and he treats me really good.. And we really do love each other
You need to finish school and wait until you are an adult. Has he finished high school? Does he have a good job? How will you support yourselves?
he's been living with me for a while if I marry him ill continue school , he graduated and yes he has a job to support both of usQuote:
Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
I am 16 as well and I would like to get married to the boy I have been with for 10 months however, given the situation it would be difficult on him. He may have a job but when he is paying all of the bills including yours the relationship will change quite a bit. And with you going to school and not working it will put a lot of stress on him and that would just make your relationship harder. If you really love him and you are really wanting to marry him then I suggest you wait until you are at least 18 so he can save up money and not have to stress or struggle with anything. I know it will be difficult but it will make your relationship that much stronger.
Marriage isn't some pie in the sky romantic thing with a pretty gown and lots of gifts. It's serious business, and it's for people who are ready FINANCIALLY to go out on their own and possible not only support themselves but also support a child.
I'll bet you $100 that I could sit down with your boyfriend's finances and prove that you can't possible survive together. And it's downright embarrassing to get married while you are living with parents.
ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area.
Most areas do not permit marriage under 18. Some will allow it with parental consent. So you need to tell us where you are.
Does he have his own room in your parent's house? How long have you known him?
I live in Wyoming,and the state does allow it.. But if we were to get married here and then move someplace else, out of state do you know if our marriage would still be valid, I read online that in some states it won't but I would like more feedbak on thatQuote:
Originally Posted by ScottGem
actually he makes 1,000 dollars a week so I think we would be fine, and we would move out as soon as we get married, I'm not so worried about money because every month he pays my mom rent and helps pay the bills and recieces a check every week for 1000 or sometimes even moreQuote:
Originally Posted by joypulv
well I would keep going to school and working, I do it already, and I make enough to buy my own things pay my phone bill and hell pay some bills and he makes 1,000 dollars a week, sometimes even more so money would be he problemQuote:
Originally Posted by christianf
Wouldn't be a problem sorry typoQuote:
Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
Why is he living with your family if he makes at least $1,000 a week? If he is a "man" who is ready for marriage, he should have his own apartment or house. What does his family think about this? Does he have his own room in your parent's house?Quote:
Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
Ever since he got here he said he wanted to move out.. The problem with that is his parents are in chicago, were in Wyoming, he's under age so he couldn't legally rent or buy a place on his own and besides I told him and my parents I wanted him to live here, and yes he has his own roomQuote:
Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
Very good point, so I'll repeat it - Why, if he's making $1,000/week does he live with your parents?
If your parents have no problem with you living with him in their house I doubt they'll care if you marry him and move out.
What does he do that pays a 17-year old high school graduate (maybe), $1,000 a week?
Yes, a marriage which is performed legally (based on age) in one State is recognized in others.
he works at night at a big store.. He does a 3 person job all on his own so he gets paid about 200 dollars a dayQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Why is he living with your family in the first place?
He wanted to move out as soon as he got his job but like I said before he's underage and hea parents live in chicago we live in Wyoming and my mom has legal guardianship of him but I was the one that asked him and my parents if he could just live hereQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Why do your parents have legal guardianship? How did they get it?
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Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I'm with you - there's something odd about people in Chicago giving guardianship to people in Wyoming.
$200 a day working in a warehouse? I'm having trouble with that.
And how will they move out on their own if he can't rent a place because he is underage?Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
And after high school, what will she do?
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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
I'm guessing her parents will/would sign the lease.
What will she do after high school (another question)? Probably nothing.
I asked the high school question before you did. HA!Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Things just don't add up in this story.
Because since he lives here and he's a minor.. For him to finish his school here his parents had to make a letter saying my mom had the right to sign everythig for him and that he was living with us, its not really legal gardianship itss a notorized letter saying she has responsibility over him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
Back to where we started - why did his parents allow him to move in with strangers and authorize them to sign "everything" for him.
And you're right - that's not legal guardianship.
There's nothing odd about it he does a 3 person job he's not going to get paid 50 buks a day, he goes in at 9:30 pm he has to clean the whole store, and have that done by 11 pm after that he has to help with stackig the merchandise until 6 jusg for that they pay 12 an hour and then drom 6 amto 12 am he is a cashierQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
After you get married your legally amancipated and your parents are no longer in charge of you that's how (:Quote:
Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
wrong.. Don't judge if you don't know what's going on, actually I'm alreadyy a senior, I got moved up, because of my learning level and I already have a couple of scholarships for a cosmetology school, therefore I will be doing something after high school :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
And how did your parents get legal guardianship?
were not strangers, my parents and his parents have know each other for a long time. Actually my mom and his mom are bestfriends, they've known each other since 4th grade, they're 38 now, that's not a strangerQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
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Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
I see from your attitude that you are going to have problems if you decide to get married at 16.
At any rate - he could get an apartment now with your parents as co-signers. Or your parents could rent the apartment with permission for him to live there.
You took a test to move up? You skipped a grade?Quote:
Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
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Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
That's also nothing that you posted until now - you either met him on FB (why did I think that? Oh, I know, that's what you posted) OR your mom and his mom, blah, blah, blah.
What attitude I am just explaining myself to everyone saying the story doesn't add up, trying to clear up everything so there will be no misunderstanding. That's all.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
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Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
I find "dat" rather difficult to believe based on this: "Theres nothing odd about it he does a 3 person job hes not gunna get paid 50 buks a day, he goes in at 9:30 pm he has to clean the whole store, and have dat done by 11 pm after dat he has to help with stackig the merchandise ..."
I'm not so sure you're "gunna" get a scholarship for cosmetology school.
I actually was part owner and operated a couple of "whole stores." Nobody got paid $1,000/week for working from 9:30PM-11:00PM and then after "dat" helping with "stackig" the merchandise.
Maybe I should have owned a store in Wyoming -
The school I was attending in chicago is a very good school, I moved here in 9th grade but everything they were learning I had already learned and passed those classes, so I talked to my counselor , she gave me assesments on all of those subjects and found that I was past those levels so they moved me up to tenth grade , that was two years ago, now I'm a senior I'm actually tacking a couple of colleges classes this yearQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Yeah, Judy, I was trying to keep an open mind about all the spelling mistakes. I was always at the top of my high school class, but would never have been able to skip a year. Maybe high school is different now.
It sounds like the cosmetology scholarships are a sure thing.
maybe you should have (: and my misspelling, km typing on my iPod trying to get this over with as fast as possible, yea I'm misspelling some stuff, so what? Im just trying to get everythjng straight hereQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
I'm in Chicago. May I ask which one?Quote:
Originally Posted by MayraCarlos
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