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  • Jul 21, 2012, 04:35 PM
    blessed r we
    My husband brought property real and now he owns, however , my name is not on the
    Property, we've been married 22yrs, how can I have my name added
  • Jul 21, 2012, 04:36 PM
    blessed r we
    My husband it's paid off , no liens. Taxes were just paid..
  • Jul 21, 2012, 04:40 PM
    blessed r we
    My husband owns the property, honestly , I didn't think anythingof it until recently.. A friend of mine list her husband in a sking accident now she's going thriugh probate.. God forbid if anything happens to my husband
  • Jul 21, 2012, 04:44 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    You ask him to add it and he writes up a new deed and files it.
  • Jul 21, 2012, 04:47 PM
    AK lawyer
    If he wishes, he can execute a deed to the both of you as "joint tenants with right of survivorship". Between spouses this is called a "tenancy by the entirety".
  • Jul 21, 2012, 05:19 PM
    ScottGem
    What makes you think he wants to share the property with you? Unless you live in a community property state it is possible he can keep these assets separate from you.

    Does he have a will?
  • Jul 22, 2012, 12:33 AM
    GV70
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    What makes you think he wants to share the property with you?

    LMAO-A very good question!
  • Jul 22, 2012, 12:43 AM
    NDE PTSD
    There are benefits to you not being on the title. You are married and you will have ownership in that property. He may have purchased it with out your name because you have bad credit or debt to income. Love your husband and trust him because the law will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment to recover or sell that property. I think your in good hands.
  • Jul 22, 2012, 05:25 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    There are benefits to you not being on the title. You are married and you will have ownership in that property. He may have purchased it with out your name because you have bad credit or debt to income. Love your husband and trust him because the law will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment to recover or sell that property. I think your in good hands.


    Excuse me? Were do you get that just because they are married the OP will have ownership? Yes, in a community property state, she might, but we don't know where the OP lives. What law do you think "will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment to recover or sell that property".

    We appreciate your wanting to help our members, but we take pride in the accuracy of our advice. Also, in the law forums responses must conform to statutory law. I know of NO law such as you described.

    While it may be true that the husband purchased this property for reasons such as you list, it is also just as possible that he is putting aside assets to keep from the OP.
  • Jul 22, 2012, 05:35 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    LMAO-A very good question!


    Beat me to it - leave it to Scott to cut to the chase!
  • Jul 22, 2012, 05:37 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    There are benefits to you not being on the title. You are married and you will have ownership in that property. He may have purchased it with out your name because you have bad credit or debt to income. Love your husband and trust him because the law will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment to recover or sell that property. I think your in good hands.


    This is a legal board and "we" take great pride in our answers.

    What does "... the law will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment" mean?

    I find several of your posts to be - well, odd: "Your experience touched me. I died and left my body. I struggle with the feeling that I did die and came back to a different dimension living in a world I am not from. If I am right your man woke up to you in the hospital and you have kids in his new universe." https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/bereave...-639804-2.html
  • Jul 22, 2012, 08:39 AM
    GV70
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    What does "... the law will not let him die " mean?

    That means the Congress will pass the bill where it will be stated,"HE CAN NEVER DIE". Easy!
  • Jul 24, 2012, 12:45 AM
    NDE PTSD
    Judykay, Your 22 years old. I am 50 years old and have life experience. I am only giving my own life experience and these people can take it or leave it. I am not making disrespectful or rude comments. I am not trying to injure or mislead people. I don't know what your problem is with me but please understand I am not trying to do harm.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 12:47 AM
    anonymousdude
    Maybe You Should Divorce Him For Not Adding Your Name.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 01:04 AM
    NDE PTSD
    GV70, The last thing I want to do is step on a lawyer's toes. I own a few homes and in one State I can legally own homes with out her being on the title. My wife is still entitled to the home if I die. The State will not take my home or my vehicles upon my death. My wife and family will recover it and just because their name is not on the title does not mean they are not going to get it. Again, I am sorry if my comments hurt peoples feelings or stepped on toes. Its just my own life experiences.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 01:54 AM
    GV70
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    GV70, The last thing I want to do is step on a lawyer's toes. I own a few homes and in one State I can legally own homes with out her being on the title. My wife is still entitled to the home if I die. The State will not take my home or my vehicles upon my death. My wife and family will recover it and just because their name is not on the title does not mean they are not going to get it. Again, I am sorry if my comments hurt peoples feelings or stepped on toes. Its just my own life experiences.

    OK-I agreed with you in one of your previous posts but only in the part of Judy"s age-I guess she is living her youthful days.
    Your answers are out of the main point:
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by blessed r we View Post
    how can I have my name added

    That's a LEGAL board and life experience answers which are NOT based on the laws are not welcomed.
    The OP question is, "How can I have my name added..."and your answer is ,"... the law will not let him die "./?? /

    P.S.-Question: "What's your name?"
    Answer: "Yes, I have a fridge."
  • Jul 24, 2012, 03:18 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    Judykay, Your 22 years old. I am 50 years old and have life experience. I am only giving my own life experience and these people can take it or leave it. I am not making disrespectful or rude comments. I am not trying to injure or mislead people. I don't know what your problem is with me but please understand I am not trying to do harm.

    We understand that you are trying to help and appreciate that effort. The problem is that if you post legal answers based on life experience you can, inadvertently do harm. None of us have a problem with you personally. But we take pride in the accuracy of the responses given here. So we question inaccurate responses.

    If you read some of the other responses in this thread, we did deal with the Community Property issue. But we don't know where the OP lives. We don't know whether community property laws apply. So telling the OP that " You are married and you will have ownership in that property. ... Love your husband and trust him because the law will not let him die and not give you the mortgage payment to recover or sell that property." is not accurate or even good advice. Too often a husband putting assets into his own name is a sign of them getting ready to divorce. I'm not saying that's the case, here, I don't know I wish the OP had come back and entered into a dialog so we can have more info to help her. But your advice did not have legal or even moral backing.

    We welcome anyone who wants to help here. And I'm sure with your life experience, you can help. We are only asking that you be careful in the accuracy of the advice you give.

    By the way, I'm sure Judy will appreciate your estimate of her age. But age is not a factor when giving legal advice. Knowledge is!
  • Jul 24, 2012, 05:26 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    Judykay, Your 22 years old. I am 50 years old and have life experience. I am only giving my own life experience and these people can take it or leave it. I am not making disrespectful or rude comments. I am not trying to injure or mislead people. I don't know what your problem is with me but please understand I am not trying to do harm.


    Where to start - first it's you're, you apostrophe re.

    I'm 22 years old? Where are you reading that? Please, please share that with me. So you have life experience and I've been sitting in a closet by myself for x years? Priceless! I think I've been on AMHD for 22 years (or so it seems).

    It is reassuring to know that some day I'll be 50, like you, and wise, like you, with life experience (possibly instead of legal knowledge). I'd like to know what these words from your advanced age mean (advice given to a widow): "Your experience touched me. I died and left my body. I struggle with the feeling that I did die and came back to a different dimension living in a world I am not from. If I am right your man woke up to you in the hospital and you have kids in his new universe."

    I should find comfort because "my man" is off somewhere, having kids in his new universe? Again - what?

    Oh, look, I'm 22 over here and widowed a month ago - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/bereav...-639804-2.html. What?

    The high point of my day! I am looking forward to being as old as Scott is some day. Wonder how old Scott will be then?

    My problem with you? Incorrect answers on the legal board. It's not the least bit unusual to read other answers to get a feeling for someone, get a sense of their experience, where they are coming from.

    I don't know what this means: "I own a few homes and in one State I can legally own homes with out her being on the title. My wife is still entitled to the home if I die. The State will not take my home or my vehicles upon my death. My wife and family will recover it and just because their name is not on the title does not mean they are not going to get it. Again, I am sorry if my comments hurt peoples feelings or stepped on toes. Its just my own life experiences."

    I'm not aware of ANY State where you cannot own a home individually. I am also not aware of a State where the "State" takes homes and vehicles routinely when someone dies. What are you talking about? This is your own experience following your own death? What?

    You have complained about your treatment (or lack thereof) at the hands of the VA. Does the VA provide you with medical treatment and meds?
  • Jul 24, 2012, 05:28 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    That means the Congress will pass the bill where it will be stated,"HE CAN NEVER DIE". Easy!


    Hey, GV! I'm 22 years old. For sure I can never die - I'm starting over, in fact!
  • Jul 24, 2012, 05:29 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GV70 View Post
    P.S.-Question: "What's your name?"
    Answer: "Yes, I have a fridge."



    Oh, best ever!
  • Jul 24, 2012, 06:18 AM
    ScottGem
    OK, I want to nip this in bud. I'm not going to kill the previous posts, but I will remove further ones. I believe NDE PTSD is sincere in wanting to help and his belief that he was helping. Unfortunately that belief was misguided because his answers were not up to the standards of this site. We have explained why they weren't and hope that he understands and is more careful in the future to check the accuracy of his responses.

    This has happened before. People happen upon this site and are inspired to help. They jump in without spending time browsing around. They blunder by not giving high quality advice because they think they know something from personal experience. Sometimes such people learn when we point out these mistakes and go on to become respected contributors. Other times they leave in a huff. So lets cut the newbie some slack and see which way he goes.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 06:49 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    OK, I want to nip this in bud. I'm not going to kill the previous posts, but I will remove further ones. I believe NDE PTSD is sincere in wanting to help and his belief that he was helping. Unfortunately that belief was misguided because his answers were not up to the standards of this site. We have explained why they weren't and hope that he understands and is more careful in the future to check the accuracy of his responses.

    This has happened before. People happen upon this site and are inspired to help. They jump in without spending time browsing around. They blunder by not giving high quality advice because they think they know something from personal experience. Sometimes such people learn when we point out these mistakes and go on to become respected contributors. Other times they leave in a huff. So lets cut the newbie some slack and see which way he goes.


    With respect, Scott, the newbie just called me a phony, drug addict and alcoholic.

    The good news is I'm 22.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/introd...sd-685566.html
  • Jul 24, 2012, 07:31 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    With respect, Scott, the newbie just called me a phony, drug addict and alcoholic.

    The good news is I'm 22.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/introd...sd-685566.html

    Thanks for pointing that out. I've handled that, see that thread.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 07:39 AM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    ...
    The good news is I'm 22.
    ...

    Perhaps. But you are wise beyond your years. :)
  • Jul 24, 2012, 08:03 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by NDE PTSD View Post
    Judykay, Your 22 years old. I am 50 years old and have life experience. I am only giving my own life experience and these people can take it or leave it. I am not making disrespectful or rude comments. I am not trying to injure or mislead people. I don't know what your problem is with me but please understand I am not trying to do harm.


    Couldn't go back and edit - again, let me explain:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/bereav...-639804-2.html

    BrittyC5 said “First off I am so sorry for your loss. I too have just lost my boyfriend of 4 years due to an overdose. He was 23. I am 22"

    Judykaytee said “FrChuck's posts on loss always truly bring tears to my eyes. I was widowed and, yes, he's correct - I have never stopped loving my husband. Sometimes I miss him, particularly when I first wake up in the morning. I have moved on. I met someone, fell in love and married again - but one person does not replace another. No one is an expert on grief and grieving. What works for me may very well make the grief worse for you. I found that my grief came in waves - better one day, worse another day, better the next. There were days when I didn't care if the sun ever came up again. I had to force myself to get dressed, go to work, eat. In the beginning every minute was a struggle, then every hour was a struggle, then every day, then every week, then every month - and you get the picture. It does get easier. That doesn't mean it gets better. You've had a terrible loss at a young age. When you lose a partner at any age it doesn't make any sense. I, at least, had a business to run, was established. You, on the other hand, are just starting out. My husband was very sick for a long time, and we had the opportunity to discuss what he wanted for me - I realize you didn't have that opportunity but the advice probably would be the same. You do your boyfriend no respect if you bury yourself (so to speak) with him. You have to go on. All I can tell you is to find what helps you heal - solitude (as much as you can find solitude), keeping busy, perhaps a group, prayer (if you are religious), preserving your memories, contact with his family - whatever works for you. I PROMISE you it will get easier. And, yes, I know - I didn't believe it either.”

    Please point out where I said I’m 22 and my husband died a month ago.

    I’m not seeing it.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 08:03 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    Perhaps. But you are wise beyond your years. :)


    Yes, and I've lived a lifetime and more in those 22 years.

    I actually got married when I was minus 3.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 08:07 AM
    ScottGem
    As we have said NDE misunderstood something he read. Probably the post you are referencing. We all know that (except maybe NDE)

    So can we now stop this?
  • Jul 24, 2012, 08:24 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    As we have said NDE misunderstood something he read. Probably the post you are referencing. We all know that (except maybe NDE)

    So can we now stop this?



    Yep.

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