Suing parents over carelessness, depression, pulling rug from under my feet
Hi, I was staying in an accommodation near university, and it closed down.. my parents wouldn't let me live near the univresity, and I'm not that organized, so in my final year, they paid for a place away from university it was my grandfathers money
So, I didn't bother going there because I didn't want it, it was totally wasted. And I've got no degree now. My grandfather has left my mother a lot of money that's how she threw money at a flat I didn't want
If I had a degree I could get a reasonable job. They pulled the rug under my feet in my final year. Is there any way I can sue my mother?
I told them I'd tell him what they/she was doing, and they told me not to tell him because I wasn't meant to know he was paying. He liked to be like the righteous man paying when nobody knew it was him. They manipulated me really.
His memory was going in his old age, sometimes he got frustrated when I spke to him, he said I should have told him, then when I told him they told me not to, he was angry with them but never spoke to them about that. One time he came round and I asked my parents about it in front of him, and my mother completely admitted that she just got that flat I didn't need to get me out of the house not to get me the degree. My grandfather was silent.
He paid for me to go to secondary school too
But he gave money to my mother to pay for it.
The situation has caused me to become depressed, and even going for a job interview would be a nightmare because I have to relive it explaining them why I don't have a degree. And without a degree, salaries are so much less.
Comment on smoothy's post
Listen. If my parents couldn't afford it and said so then I'd either not have gone, or I'd have paid myself and tried to do it that way. But that wasn't the case. And if my parents could afford it but refused, and I'd have known in advance, then I'd have either not gone, or worked and gone. But this situation was one where they gave me the impression that I was covered, and then pulled the rug from my feet. I would have preferred to know in advance and then make a decision either not doing the degree, or trying to do it while working.
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
I am slightly autistic and not organized and it's not so easy to manage a job and a degree. The flat was very near home anyway so I didn't bother moving into it, I stayed at home and commuted from there. But it was harder for me when living far. I couldn't manage myself properly that far away. If I had known my parents would do that then I'd have either not done it, or worked prior to starting the degree.
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
I am not passing blame, just explaining the situation. My father refuses to discuss it, and paid 1 year of rent for a flat I didn't want. It was my grandfather's money not his so maybe it didn't mean much to him. I tried to speak to him constantly One time /i spoke to him and he had tears in his eyes and said he was worry about what happened.. and that he made a mistake, but it's like that discussion never happened.. now he just says he doesn't make mistakes, and he refuses to discuss it. He won't even take a question like why he did what he did, he says he can't answer it he doesn't remember now. Even at the time when I was desperate and asking him he'd always say he's watching the football or he's eating his dinner. But this is all irrelevant. And this thing you bring up about throwing blame around all on me for example, is childish, and irrelevant.
Comment on smoothy's post
What do you think the justice system is for ? People are wronged, and the justice system can sometimes allow for that wrong to be somewhat corrected. The person that is wronged describes it, you call it "whining" because you are childish. And this is not some small thing. People carelessly slip on a slippery floor and don't know how to fall properly and they hurt themselves and sue, I think they should've noticed the floor was slippery, but maybe some minds aren't capable of that. If it was me, I wouldn't sue in that situation because I'd put it down to me being careless. By your logic you could call anybody's case "whining". That's not how the justice system works, you should know that better than me.
Comment on joypulv's post
Yes I am disorganized enough not to do any of those things I find them very hard. But I was organized enough to get through the 2 years of college where I lived near there. Quite simple how that is so. I had to get to enough exams. I'm barely organized enough to manage a shower without a fiasco. I do have aspergers and I'm trying to get organized to deal with that and apply for disability, there is much to fill out, but I'm not asking about that, and that's entirely my fault that I haven't sorted it out yet.. there are organizations offering advice that are very good.
Comment on joypulv's post
And why is everybody responding as a new answer instead of just in the comments section?
Comment on AK lawyer's post
If somebody has just come out of university and somebody else with the same knowledge has, and one has a degree and one hasn't, then the one that has is likely to be given a higher salary.
Comment on smoothy's post
Listen, you don't know me, and you don't have enough information to go on to think that I'm a bullsh*er. If you do then bear in mind that you're in a situation where you can make any absurd judgement about my level relative to other candidates, and not be accountable for it because it's entirely a game you are playing in your mind, and not very well either. You don't know how I compare to other people on my degree to say I'm a bullsh*er. The fact that I completed 2 years of my degree is the best you have to go on. You know nothing. You don't know what the modules were. You don't know the specifics of what it took to pass each. You know nothing, so don't go saying I'm a bullsh*er.
Comment on smoothy's post
The fact is most people on the degree don't know things relevant to the work place.. I knew more than most and people came to me for help with stuff a lot, because of my knowledge, but for the workplace, we are all rather clueless. You don't know how people felt about the degree. You don't know what kind of university it was, all you have are guesses. And bad ones.
Comment on smoothy's post
How do I have this special insight? It's not special insight. I was THERE on the degree talking to people and passed two years of it. You're a joker. A complete ignoramous. You think being on the degree we didn't know? Fool. Yes there are bull*shers, and people that con their way through, and if you knew about hiring and had any common sense, you'd know that you have to know the field to weed them out. And ask them questions on the subject, then you see straight away. This is common sense. I remember somebody joking with me because one guy that got the degree went to a job interview and couldn't do a simple thing that anybody withsuch a degree would be expected to know. Sure there are BShers, and they can be found out. But you don't find out without asking questions on the field. You may be good at your job or jobs of hiring people but I hope you didn't do it this way. You need to know your field to question the candidate or you're useless. Do you deny that?
