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  • Oct 9, 2010, 08:25 AM
    cgbc43
    I'm a military dependent but don't know my rights... where should I go?
    We married in Alaska , now he is in seattle and I'm not with him... what steps should I take next?
  • Oct 9, 2010, 08:38 AM
    cgbc43
    I'm a military dependent but don't know my rights... where should I go?
    Can I go and report my husband for abandonment at the US embassy in my country?
  • Oct 9, 2010, 08:52 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    There is no way to "void" a marriage without going to court. And a marriage in Alaska is valid anywhere.

    You need to divorce him if you are now not living together.
  • Oct 9, 2010, 09:08 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    I live in another country,and I have a lot of things still with him that I want to get back. Can I report him to the US embassy in my country?
  • Oct 9, 2010, 11:16 AM
    AK lawyer

    You are the wife of a U.S. serviceman? Where are you located. Are you a non-U.S. national? Where were you married? Do you have children by your husband?

    Might not do any good to report him to the U.S. embassy.

    Report him to his commanding officer.
  • Oct 9, 2010, 03:24 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on AK lawyer's post
    Yes I am.. got married in fort richardson ak.almost 5 months ago. I have to leave Alaska to attend a wedding then got a call from him saying our marriage is void and for me not to return in Alaska. He is now in Seattle to join another unit .
  • Oct 9, 2010, 03:29 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on AK lawyer's post
    I don't know which unit he's joining , and I don't know his commanding officer , where should I ask?
  • Oct 9, 2010, 03:55 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Posts merged,

    It is also possible he is not moving posts, but you should have a dependent ID correct and visa to enter the country ? There is nothing stoping you from coming back.

    But obviously he wants a divorce so best to file for divorce and ask for your things back.

    But yes you can start with a local military base or embassy
  • Oct 10, 2010, 01:57 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    My dependent id is with him... I can enter the country since I have a visa.
  • Oct 10, 2010, 02:18 AM
    cgbc43
    I know I'm in his orders,and supposed to sign in Monday at fort lewis
    Who do I contact at the base to know his wherabouts? I know he is hiding from me and his responsibilities... how do I ask for financial support? He made me lose my job now I can't find him...
  • Oct 10, 2010, 03:53 AM
    cgbc43
    Can you obtain an Alaskan ID even if you're not a US citizen?
  • Oct 10, 2010, 07:29 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    What is your status in the US, are you living in Alaska ?
  • Oct 10, 2010, 07:41 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    Contact the nearest base and embassy, ask the base to re-issue you the ID, explain you have lost yours.

    Also give them the entire story, they will locate him for you, after they verify the facts
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:07 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    I'm a tourist in Alaska
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:09 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    I am now in Jakarta Indonesia... ok. Thank you so much.
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:11 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Ok if you are merely a tourist you can not get a ID card since you are not a resident there.

    What country you are from, ( I guess you are on a tourist visa?? )

    So you will have your passport from your country which is a legal ID and should be accepted for anything you need in Alaska
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:12 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    Entered Alaska as a tourist.. got married there 5 months ago... I have our marriage certificate with me.
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:15 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    The reason I ask was because I do have an alaskan ID. From Indonesia. And yes on a tourist visa.
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:15 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    Can I show my alaskan ID at the embassy ?
  • Oct 10, 2010, 05:15 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    OK, so you need to change your immigration status.
    I would hire an immigration attorney. Since you should not have gotten married on a touist visa but needed to leave and have it changed to the correct visa to stay.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 06:42 AM
    cgbc43
    I married a man in the army, got my dependent id, alaskan id,and temp.ssn.
    Which he all took from me when I left Alaska. He said he will send me ticket to meet him in Seattle. He is to sign in to his new command post this nov. But I got an email saying he filed for an annulment of our marriage. All my things are with him and I have no money since he made me quit my job when he ask me to marry him... what should I do and where should I go to ask for help?
  • Oct 13, 2010, 06:45 AM
    cgbc43
    How do you qualify to have a temporary ssn?
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:07 AM
    donf

    How long have you been married to this low life? Do you want to remain married to this slug or not. Was the marriage consummated (intercourse)?

    Since your marriage occurred while he was in the military and it appears that you were not an American, I am thinking that he must have had to go to his commanding officer to get permission to marry you.

    Immediately you should go to a Base Chaplin (for your faith) nearest to your location and seek guidance from him/her. They will be able to help you understand your options. As of right now, you are still a military dependent and have rights under both military law and civil law.

    Also, just because he wants an annulment, does not mean he gets one. You have to consent to an annulment.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:41 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on donf's post
    I married him last June 14 in Alaska. No I don't want to be married with him. And yes it was consummated. I just got an email saying he pawned my iMac laptop.. and I learned from friends that he is on his way to vegas right this very moment...
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:43 AM
    JudyKayTee

    There is no such thing as a temporary SS number.

    Why do you need something like this?
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:49 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on JudyKayTee's post
    I married a man in servicen,I'm not a us citizen. He said that he applied for my ssn that he got it but was denied... having problems with him.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:51 AM
    JudyKayTee

    He may have applied for a SS number for you. I have no idea how he would do that without you being physically present (in fact, I think it's impossible) BUT I believe he is lying to you. Why? I have no idea.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 07:56 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on JudyKayTee's post
    But I think he did get it. Because it was delivered to his dad's home in Illinois and I heard his dad mention it on the phone...
  • Oct 13, 2010, 08:02 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Then why are you asking the question? It appears you already know the answer. The process doesn't matter if the card was obtained in your name.

    There is NO temporary SS issued.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 08:18 AM
    donf

    Talk to a lawyer right now! Or at the very least, talk to his former commander! I believe that this would be considered spousal abandonment. This is activity that the Army needs to be aware of and put the information into his record.

    I do not believe he can go to LV and file for a divorce without your consent.

    Where you a U.S. citizen prior to your marriage?

    Do not wait! Call base legal and see if an Army lawyer can advise you. Also file charges for the theft and sale of your property.
  • Oct 13, 2010, 08:20 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    Please do not start a new thread, merely add to the old one, I have merged your posts
  • Oct 15, 2010, 07:24 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on JudyKayTee's post
    Because now he's saying that it was denied...
  • Oct 15, 2010, 07:29 AM
    cgbc43
    Comment on donf's post
    No , I'm not a citizen. And I had contacted base legal already. They can't do much till he sign in to his new command post. Can I hire a lawyer and let my husband pay? Since I don't have any money.
  • Oct 15, 2010, 09:22 AM
    JudyKayTee

    If he didn't present the proper ID - and, possibly, you weren't there in person - yes, the application for a SS number would have been denied. Again, there are NO temporary numbers issued.

    Yes, contact an Attorney for whatever issue you are asking about and ask the Court to order your husband to pay your legal fees. You may have to pay an upfront retainer yourself.

    If you are a military wife, don't you get a portion of his paycheck?
  • Oct 15, 2010, 02:04 PM
    donf

    Okay,

    I'm getting mixed messages from you.

    You say your father is living in Illinois, but you are not a citizen.

    How long have you been living in America and where were you born?
  • Oct 15, 2010, 06:25 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on donf's post
    Not my father, but my husband's adoptive father lives in Illinois. I'm Indonesian. Stayed in the US for 5 months.
  • Oct 15, 2010, 06:26 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on JudyKayTee's post
    He don't give me anything..
  • Oct 15, 2010, 07:01 PM
    donf

    Okay, by the way, welcome to our homeland.

    There is so much going on here that I need to retrench my thoughts.

    You and this guy got married in Alaska. Currently he has told you that he is getting an annulment. And to the best of your knowledge he has gone to Los Vegas to get the annulment (at least that's what his friends are telling you)

    You have received you military dependent status, but not your Social Security number.

    Have you applied for citizenship here in the US yet?

    You spoke to the Base Legal department and they told you that nothing can be done until he checks into his new duty station, which you believe to be in Seattle.

    How were you able to confirm that he has orders to Seattle? Did Base Legal contact his next duty station to verify if in fact he has already checked in?

    Did you talk to his former commanding officer in Alaska about your situation and the theft of your proerty and its eventual sale?

    Have you been served with any legal papers from your husband?

    I believe that both of you would need to be residents of Nevada in order for either a divorce or an annulment to take place. I'm not an attorney but that certainly needs to be checked out and rather quickly.

    I would not trust the next breath that your husband takes much less anything he says to you. And certainly not anything his friends say to you.

    I strongly suggest you cease all contact with his friends and him and get an attorney right now!
  • Oct 15, 2010, 07:12 PM
    cgbc43
    Comment on donf's post
    Yes.we married in Alaska last June.then this oct.when I was in indonesia,he said by email,that the marriage was void,he filed for an annulment.he took my id.I was to suppose to go with him to seattle.all my things are with the household goods.
  • Oct 15, 2010, 07:15 PM
    donf

    Why did he say the marriage was void?

    What reason did he give you to support that position?

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